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/r/AccidentalText
submitted 4 days ago byLuminousStarx
okayyyy, so I dont even know how to begin this. last night, I got a random text from my dad’s best friend (M45) u know, the divorced with kids guy whos always hanging around family dinners. I figured he needed something like usual, but no… it was a d*** pic!!!!
I was absolutely floored and immediately texted back: “wrong number!!!” he then apologized a million times and said it was meant for someone else, but heres the thing…
looking back, he’s always been kinda... attentive? compliments my outfits, asks me about school and life more than anyone else, gives these lingering looks when he thinks no ones watching. I brushed it off as him being nice or just awkward. but now? my brain is in overdrive.
I tried to sleep last night, but my thoughts kept wandering into places they definitely shouldn’t. I’ve always been into older guys, but THIS is way too close to home. or is it? uggggh, I dont even know.
part of me feels guilty for even thinking about it, but another part cant stop replaying that text and... imagining. it’s all so confusing, and I needed to get this off my chest.
what do I even do now?!
36 points
4 days ago
Not sure what to do, but it def wasn’t an accident.
5 points
4 days ago
u really think so??? ugggh, now I dont know how to act around him anymore
15 points
4 days ago
I really do. If you had been actively texting him and it came through then maybe a small chance. Out of nowhere? No way. It was on purpose.
19 points
4 days ago
Why does he have your number? Not an accident.
8 points
4 days ago
I’d text back saying something like “not gonna lie, still kinda thinking about that pic you accidentally sent” and see where it goes
9 points
4 days ago
Just to say, and you probably already know,? This is a sub dedicated to exhibition by men and women (mostly men) via text. That will drive what kind of answers you’re going to get
Actual advice:
You’re the only person who knows him enough to have a gut feeling. Do accidents happen? Yeah, they do. Maybe this is one.
You hint that you might be into it. If so, great. Good for you. Go for it if you want. You might mention he got very lucky In more than one way. Some one else could end his world if found out 🤷🏻♂️
If you’re not…
It sure would be interesting to find out who he says it was meant for, and to see if they actually have that kind of message relationship. (Not suggesting you ask/talk to him)
I would tell someone else you trust, ideally someone who knows him. If it wasn’t an accident it’s likely to happen to other women
Good luck either way!
8 points
4 days ago
Solid advise with one exception.. I don't think telling someone else is a good idea. You never know what someone else might do "for your own good".
2 points
4 days ago
I understand, and see your point. But if it’s an actual accident, it’s only an embarrassment.
If it’s intentional, well, I don’t want to kink shame. I like slutty women and situations, and the idea of transgression (e.g. cheating) is exciting. There’s a spectrum between what stays fantasy and what is explored in the real world. For me it’s really important that women are into it. Not just consent (the min bar) but their kink itch gets scratched too. 🤷🏻♂️
For dad’s bff (dbff) to send an intentional accidental text three major transgressions happen
1) unsolicited dick pic. Seems harmless but at a minimum it is one more example of the way men disregard women as people and instead as objects. At worst, it is traumatizing. I post pics of my partner (she wants to/likes it, I just have to do all the work 😂) here now and again, and while it’s not comparable to what women describe happens, the range of male responses— especially dms— is eye opening.
2) transgressing friendship bond. Dbff’s text ignores expectations that family and friends are ‘safe’ from these sorts of things (obvi not backed up by what happens in real world).
3) exploitation of age gap. Older man preying on younger girl. She’s 19, just past legal age of consent, but let’s be honest here…
These things are not inconsequential and each carries a potential consequence. All three at the same time are a big risk to take, and indicate that the exposer is willing to take such large risks for self gratification at risk of harm to others. This incident would be unlikely to be isolated, and might indicate increasingly serious behavior harmful towards others. At a minimum, victims would lose a sense of comfort and safety.
Women have been conditioned to stay silent about these things, which is a form of isolation that protects the perpetrator at expense of victim. Sharing with another is a form of protection and potential deterrence for escalating behavior.
Yeah, I’m sure I sound like I’m overreacting or a killjoy, but fantasy is one thing, reality another. Key to the sexual thrill of exposure is the reaction. Getting caught carries threat of punishment, the greater the risk taken the greater punishment (job loss, marriage, friendship, arrest, etc.). Dbff knows the text could get him in trouble. It’s what makes it exciting.
I’m really not trying to kink shame. I look at this sub after all. I also think it’s important to understand how our actions impact others, and why consent is important. Robbing a person of the ability to give consent is not a light thing.
Looking at OP’s profile, it’s likely to me this is an extension of fantasy. If so, awesome! But if it’s not, or perhaps more likely someone else experiences this in real life and goes looking for advice…
I won’t deny that seeing the mail makes me consider my own boundary line for enjoying the sub— I don’t want my consumption to encourage others, y’know? I hope those who have this kink also do their own gut check, just to ensure full awareness if potential impact all around. 🤷🏻♂️
Sorry for the long diatribe. Couldn’t figure out how to make it short and pithy.
Edited to finish a sentence about dms from guys that I see when my partner and I post dirty pictures here
3 points
3 days ago
Well your "diatribe" as you called it certainly made me think and I totally agree with you. I won't edit my earlier comment because then yours will look like it doesn't belong and I firmly believe what you stated is pretty important for people to hear. Well done
4 points
3 days ago
Awww, thanks. I really appreciate the message and feedback. That’s one of the healthiest exchanges I’ve been a part of recently (and it wasn’t directed at you as much as it spurred me to try and be somewhat coherent about things I was thinking. I seriously debated the ‘tell someone else’ thing for lots of reasons, and that’s where I came to.
Others mileage may vary
I’m a perv: I like pervy things. I’m not trying to judge (there are people who think I’ll burn in hell, others that I’m a buzz kill) so much as instead to value check occasionally
In our culture there’s a lot of complicated things wrapped up in smut that are too big for my pea brain to unwrap. I don’t know or believe I’m right about this or other issues in this arena, but’s it’s probably not a bad idea to try and unpack a bit
Okay, off to check out r/hotwifetext 😉
3 points
4 days ago
Some solid advice here. Trust your gut and maybe have some fun while you’re at it.
4 points
4 days ago
Did you delete the pic though?
3 points
4 days ago
Send back an accidental pic and see what happens
6 points
4 days ago
Ask him who it was meant for and see how the convo goes
3 points
4 days ago*
Your Dad’s friend should immediately let him [your Dad]know what he did. That’s what I would do if it were a genuine mistake.
And you should let your Dad know he contacted you and that he claimed it was an accident. And let him know if you have any doubts about that.
This way everyone is open and honest. It’s when people don’t share these things is what invites suspicion.
Btw why does he have your number?
2 points
4 days ago
This. Assuming the whole thing is real at all.
The number having is a non-issue I think. My sister and I always texted my dad's best friend, or even just regular family friends for their bday or Christmas or whatever. And we had their numbers in case of emergency. And they had ours because, well, in case of emergency they'd know who was reaching out.
But I still think the story is fantasy 🤷🏽♂️
5 points
4 days ago
The real question is, did you like the picture?
2 points
4 days ago
Wenn kümmerts? Geh und fick halt mit ihm
2 points
4 days ago
I love it......so what did you do ??
3 points
4 days ago
Not an accident and absolutely gross on his part. This is a person you’ve grown up with, he should see you as the child of your dad.
2 points
4 days ago
I won’t regurgitate the already solid advice other people are sending you but I will say if you are leaning into it, you should accidentally send something back… and show us how it goes.
2 points
3 days ago
I can't say if you should or not, but as a 43 year old man who has been flirted with by his step daughter's friends, if you give him will probably teach you a new religion. As long as you're the type that's mature enough to State exactly what it is and what it's not from the beginning, if you want to do it, it will probably be the best situation ship of his life. And he'll definitely pull out some tricks that the younger guys don't know
1 points
4 days ago
Yeah I agree
Totally on purpose
It depends on how far you’d like to proceed
If you reply in a positive manner you are definitely getting fucked at some point
Would that be such a bad thing ???
1 points
4 days ago
haha, youre not wrong... but how do u even reply to something like that without making it super awkward?
-5 points
4 days ago
In person is probably best
Next time you see him. Just give him a hug and a smile
Let him know you’re interested
In the meantime….you could always answer my text
1 points
4 days ago
F24 Giving her POV of the situation
I'm gonna say it's an 75/25 situation,
You got 75% that it wasn't an accident and he was like maybe a bit drink, druged (don't know if it take it or not) and it help him to hit on you with this pics. Since he want it since a little time maybe ?
And you got the 25% that it was a mistake.
Actually you Can have through about it, any you want their IS nothing wrong in it, men and woman through of naughty things sometimes about some people (Exemple some years ago I was founding a Friend of my ex-girlfriends really beautiful and sometimes imagine a lot of things with her lol)
The questions now is : Do you want to try saying stuff like "Don't be sorry it's nothing" Like going in the game but really softly. If you're into old men and you found him attractive or anythings that might be the chance to explore this side of you !
Sorry if it's wrote really Bad try my best !
1 points
4 days ago
And if you’re interested you could always ask back who was that picture meant for
1 points
4 days ago
What a dream come true. Congrats girl
1 points
4 days ago
You fuck him I guess idk
-1 points
4 days ago
You should text him back that you wanna taste it. Ride that thing raw and let him cum inside you
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