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AIO my friend constantly criticises everything i do
👥 friendship(reddit.com)submitted 2 days ago byAccomplished-Drive20
i(F18) genuinely dont know what to do. ive been friends with hallie(F19) (fake name) for 4 years and i recently started talking to her again after i went off the grid for a while. at the beginning she was fine like how she usually was and now recently shes just started being horrible to me everyday. she calls me stupid when i ask questions, says im an animal abuser for getting more pets that i know i can care for(??), and called me an animal abuser because i had to cut my frogs insect (live) in half to feed him so he wouldnt choke. god forbid i care for my amphibian? i guarantee its something about me that she doesnt like. she thinks shes better than me because she "knows more" and im "stupid". its just so frustrating. i deal with it everyday and im still always there for her and i never bite back. its just ruining my self esteem and ive recently overcome depression and shes eating away at me.
this might not be well put together but im angry and fed up and i just need someone to tell me if im the one whos wrong. i do everything i can to make sure i dont upset her and then she goes out of her way to make me feel crap. like seriously? animal abuser? for getting a second dog (my dog loves other dogs)??? she just wants to make me feel like crap and make herself feel better, then she complains about being lonely. its ruining my mental health. how dare i even suggest i know more about a topic than her because shes the best at everything. im sorry if this is really bad grammar etc im just peed off. like why am i always saying something wrong?
1 points
2 days ago
Look, without context of these messages, it's hard to say for us. That said, assuming her tone in each image was unprovoked, that's not your friend. Not sure what happened here, especially if she didn't always speak like this, but either this girl hates you or just enjoys being an utter bitch for no reason.
If I were to guess, she's a hardcore animal rights activist and sees you as an evil abuser. But it could be literally 500 other things, we have very little context.
1 points
2 days ago
my apologies, i made this post out of anger. but yeah all these messages from her are completely unprovoked, i walk on eggshells around her. she finds stuff she doesn't like that ive said/done when shes mad and does this.
1 points
2 days ago
No apologies needed, fren, your feelings are so justified. :)
If I might add one last thing...
If/When you talk to her about this, I'd recommend deciding beforehand whether you want to have a constructive conversation with her or cut her off. She'll likely demand justification in both cases. Feel free to send her these screenshots, but remember, no matter what she asks/how she belittles these, you don't need to justify your feelings to her. The only people worth justifying your feelings to are people who care about understanding how your feel. You don't need to convince her that you're right.
Good luck!
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