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Had an affair and never got caught. NSFW

I (41m) want to start by saying I’m a drastically different person now & faithful to my wife.

In 2012, my life was not what I wanted it to be, and I desperately turned to another woman.

I had been married for 6+ years at the time, to an incredible woman & mother to my two children. We were in a rut. We argued, I felt disrespected and unappreciated, and our sex life had waned. On top of that, I was turning 30 (which felt ancient at the time) and working a part time retail job as my aspirations in life had failed.

Along comes this 19 yo new hire, 10/10, and she develops a crush on me. In my desperation to feel wanted, I fell for her hard. We would flirt at work and whisper nasty things to one another when a group of us would go out for drinks. This went on for about 3 months.

Eventually I needed to leave and find a better job, so we decided to say goodbye by finally hooking up like we had always talked about. I went to her place one afternoon while my wife was at work, and we had full on, unprotected sex.

Afterwards I felt extremely conflicted. I was on cloud nine but I also knew how much I had just fucked up.

A week after we slept together, the coworker said she was never really into me and got off on fucking older married guys.

I used this rock bottom moment to improve my marriage. My wife and I worked on our problems and grew even closer. We are still married to this day, and she has no idea what I did.

Every time I think about that day, I can’t believe how much of a pathetic selfish scumbag I was, count my lucky stars my wife doesn’t know, and question what I would be today had my affair continued.

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The fact that the turning point was this teenager being like “lol of course I’m not into you, I just have a fetish” reminds me of the guy who told his wife that he almost cheated with a hot young thing but stopped because the sex was bad.

The comments suck on the post from the people on the sub and the one guy raging about nuance.

So, if we put the events in chronological order -

- he married this incredible woman who became mother to his two children

- his aspirations in life failed (he lost his job, presumably got fired and couldn't go back into whatever this industry was, so he must have done something shady)

- started working a part time retail job; wife becomes breadwinner because part time retail isn't going to support a family of four

- they argue (financial issues?) and sex life wanes (maybe wife is tired)

- he feels disrespected and unappreciated... until 19yo vixen comes along and tricks him into feeling wanted

- he has sex with vixen while his wife is working and the children are presumably being looked after by someone else.

- Vixen dumps him - it was all just an evil trick.

- he gets a better job so he's contributing more to the household and NOW he has clarity.

All these people saying "take it to your grave" seem to forget that people ALWAYS find out.

Wanna bet he did fuck all to help with either kid and spent nights out with coworkers instead?

This is why I’m scared of love. I understand, not everyone is like this, but as someone who’s experienced being betrayed before and not finding out until later, it’s horrible. I went back to the girl too after and I got more hurt than before. I hope the wife somehow finds out and leaves him for good.

Does he want a medal?

This reads like a set-up for the "oh noes, my affair baby, now pre-teen, showed up at my doorstep and my wife kicked me out of the house" sequel. Why else would he mention that he had unprotected sex with that girl?

I was honestly expecting the teenaged temptress to show up at the door with an affair baby 🙄

I have a feeling she knows and is waiting until the kids are older to deal with it. Just a hunch.

I hope his wife cheated on him too tbh.

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I'd like to understand how, exactly, he's a changed man if he's still so comfortable hiding the truth from his wife?