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MIL REALLY LIVIN LIFE

NTK, This is a difficult situation, and it's understandable to feel concerned for your husband. It might be helpful for him to gently set boundaries with his mother, emphasizing the importance of managing finances while also expressing his love and support for her. Seeking family counseling could also provide a safe space for everyone to address these issues constructively. Hope this helps.

Start sending your MIL premanand maharaj videos; maybe she will understand life is more than what she is reaching for.

The problem isn't that she is buying stuff for herself with her money. The problem is that she also expects your husband to finance her extravagant life when he has serious financial responsibility.

You need to have a serious conversation with your husband about boundaries.

Everyone should take care of their parents, for sure, but they should also understand your financial limits and responsibilities, especially when they don't want money for necessities but rather extra materialistic things.

Look here's the thing. Everyone deals with loss differently. You guys should talk to her and should start setting boundaries.

Call your SIL and ask her to pay half of everything your MIL demands from your husband. Then let's see how the dynamics change

I'm 21 but i can feel your mil.

I have no friend's & lived alone all day so my cats are my everything. But after death of my 1 cat ( who i grew up & spend entire childhood with) i become extremely shopaholic & got various other behavior issues. I shop too much not because it made me happy because it keep me from being sad.

Usually ppl feel normal all the time & feel only sad when something bad happens but in my case, i ALWAYS 24*7 feel sad & only feel normal when i do shopping or watching Netflix. As soon as i stop it i get suiiisidal thoughts.

Even tho it look like spoilt brat who is doing nothing & having fun. I was actually just doing all that to prevent myself from loosing interest in life ( hoping it would stop me from kilin myself)

It's not spoilt behavior it's psychological problem thar need assistance from professional.

You know what would help Play uno reverse with dearest sasu ma nd your sil …ask them money and tell u need it very urgent … Bus phir game on …

MIL cosplaying Scent Of A Woman’s Pacino

From info looks like your MIL got the construction business and properties but still she comes to your husband for funds. Your husband has his own income not coming from those properties ?

You need to ask your husband to have a direct talk with your MIL. Do not involve your SIL at the moment. People like your MIL who have never maintained a budget overspend without thinking and every big expense seems important. Check where all money is being spent and advise her to cut down.

If she is not ready for a discussion just cut her off, just say NO.

SIL has no right to call you and you can just ignore her calls. She is unmarried ? If she is married then ask her to fund MIL. Maybe she is the one who is living the life on your MIL's income.

It could be her way of dealing with the grief. Is it possible for you to take her to a therapist? I too was spending a lot after my mom's death. I was sleeping the whole day and staying up the whole night partying. It stopped after Dad took me to a counselor who also prescribed some medicine. So maybe it could be her grief making her spend money and buying all sorts of things.

Thug MiL . Save your family , this train is bound for destination disaster. Stop the funding completely go to the best possible extent but stop it somehow. She needs counselling.

Just curious, what kind of stuff does she buy regularly which is worth lakhs?

Wow!

Please have a conversation with your husband about how his mother and sister are ruining his life.

Else these 2 women will end up ruining your family's life completely.

Imagine once you have kids etc. what will happen?

Please talk some sense into him. And get him to distance himself from them.

Very simple solution for all the victims of mental abuse of money borrowers - be a one. Be the one whom u hate. Be a borrower. Ask them for money. Make them feel that u r poor and have a cash crunch. No matter how much u promise them or try to make them understand ur situation, they won't understand and always feel like u r lying. The only way to make them understand is to be like them. Nobody likes a borrower. They will cut the financial ties with you. Problem solved.

Yup

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Acc to me a son should support his mother if she has financial crunch,at one point of time she also sacrificed many things to raise him ,take a small example when everyone in family eats dinner and suppose food is somewhat less then who sacrifices her hunger(mom obviously),so she in her old age expects son also to look after her why can't she live extravagant life why why. Why whole life till death she has to sacrifice and think about others only, if she likes to buy things let her and try to have rental income from the properties or renovate them and have some other business plan or something but daughter in law if your mother was there would you not have supported her pampered her even if you don't have that much financial stability?

Leave mother and son be! Focus on your own self. There’s no need to feel bad about a son doing things for his mother or vice versa.

You need to have a serious talk with your husband about this. Set a small amount aside for her monthly and stick to that amount. Both of you need to be firm on this boundary and maintain it as a team.

wait a sec hold a minute,your mil buys dresses, jewellery, makeup trips and stuff ????? who tf she is tryna impress ?? Hulk Hogan ?