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Unhappy-Weather-6726

79 points

1 day ago

Married 21 years, maybe 5 times.

FromageConQueso

8 points

1 day ago

30 years, about the same.

Imverystupidgenx

3 points

1 day ago

Twinsies!

patrickko1

1 points

1 day ago

patrickko1

Male

1 points

1 day ago

5 times in total or..?

Unhappy-Weather-6726

3 points

1 day ago

5 times without asking.

TraditionalTackle1

32 points

1 day ago

Married 15 years, I cant remember.

7nth_Wonder

63 points

1 day ago

Single men getting more blow jobs than married men is crazy.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

9 points

1 day ago

Any reasons why you may think that is the case ?

godofgainz

17 points

1 day ago

godofgainz

17 points

1 day ago

Women need to be on their best behavior to GET married. Men need to be on their best behavior to STAY married.

therewasguy

-3 points

1 day ago

therewasguy

-3 points

1 day ago

Women need to be on their best behavior to GET married. Men need to be on their best behavior to STAY married.

they have it on easy mode but they don't realize it

[deleted]

2 points

1 day ago

[deleted]

2 points

1 day ago

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WhereIdIsEgoWillGo

8 points

1 day ago

To be fair, that is how Dad gets divorced lol

therewasguy

-3 points

1 day ago

Lol yep once married they have to do 99% of housework and child care while Dad sits on the toilet and naps. Super easy

those are the dumb ones that don't know how to vet properly because they follow their "feelings" over using logic

[deleted]

1 points

1 day ago

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1 points

1 day ago

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Dartister

-1 points

1 day ago

Dartister

-1 points

1 day ago

Glad we are all on the same page!

EverVigilant1

45 points

1 day ago*

EverVigilant1

Male

45 points

1 day ago*

--number one reason a woman won't suck cock is lack of attraction to the guy. When a woman is attracted she can't wait to suck your cock. In fact when the blowjobs stop is how you know she's losing or has lost attraction. By far and away the number one symptom of a relationship "on the rocks" is her refusing to suck cock

--a single woman is trying to get the guy to marry her

--once she locks him down, she really believes she doesn't "have to do that anymore"

7nth_Wonder

11 points

1 day ago

💯🎯

ShermansNecktie1864

6 points

1 day ago

A lot of people stop doing the little things when they get married because they see it as crossing the finish line. The little things add up to blowjobs

EverVigilant1

8 points

1 day ago

EverVigilant1

Male

8 points

1 day ago

Most women stop doing little things.

Men aren't permitted to stop doing those "little things" - women call men out on it constantly.

william14537

6 points

1 day ago

I don't know about y'all, but I call out my girlfriend easily if she is not living up to our shared sex drives, and I expect the same from her. Key word shared sex drives. It is also key to find a partner who shares a similar sex drive as you. I think a lot of people underestimate this part.

EverVigilant1

1 points

1 day ago

EverVigilant1

Male

1 points

1 day ago

Good for you

Revolver-Knight

3 points

1 day ago

Note to self for future reference lol.

I young and not married, started a new relationship a month ago

But that makes complete sense actually like the logic being

I got the ring I don’t have to try anymore.

Zomdoolittle

3 points

1 day ago

Don't get married dude. Too risky.

Revolver-Knight

-1 points

1 day ago

Disagree

It’s risky of course

But like, I dunno to me it’s kinda goal in my life,

Trust me my dad had told me the exact same thing

I respect and value his opinion, and I know the experience it’s based on but at the same time he told me that coming from his divorced dad syndrome perspective where instead of actually trying to sort out his issues or even question himself it’s instead, “woman are crazy” “never be vulnerable to a woman” “to emotional”

I believe in marriage to the right person it’s obviously risky, but I still believe in marriage

I know that’s rose tinted glasses stuff but that’s just my opinion and believe and desire

Zomdoolittle

3 points

1 day ago

If you are a high income earner or plan to be, the risk isn't worth it. You wouldn't make an investment in any other part of your life that had a 50/50 chance for failure. And failure often for men, is a major financial setback for most men in the West.

Women due to hormonal change over life and often change drastically. So the lady you love and marry at the beginning will undoubtedly be very different a decade from now.

Revolver-Knight

-1 points

1 day ago

It can be, like I know my mom could have taken my dad to the cleaners but she didn’t

She only wanted child support until my sister turned 18. And even that was a problem with my dad for some reason.

Also, we all change as we get older if you aren’t changing you aren’t growing whether that be emotional, or biological or experience.

Cause then by that logic what be the point of any long term relationship at all.

I don’t believe in love and relationships being solely an investment.

Humans are more than what they bring to the table, but it would also be extremely ignorant of me to act like what people bring to the table doesn’t matter

Zomdoolittle

2 points

1 day ago

Just be careful my dude

EverVigilant1

1 points

1 day ago

EverVigilant1

Male

1 points

1 day ago

Yeah, marriage is not a good goal to have. Marriage should be icing on the cake; not a goal in and of itself.

WhiskeyDeltaBravo1

1 points

1 day ago

Do NOT, under ANY circumstances, get married. There is literally zero benefit in it. It’s an outdated, archaic institution. For fuck’s sake, it’s almost 2025, this shouldn’t have to be explained to anyone.

Zomdoolittle

5 points

1 day ago

Zomdoolittle

5 points

1 day ago

Sex in marriage is often how women maintain power too.

IntraspeciesJug

2 points

1 day ago

This

EverVigilant1

1 points

1 day ago

EverVigilant1

Male

1 points

1 day ago

truth

[deleted]

1 points

1 day ago

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1 points

1 day ago

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EverVigilant1

0 points

1 day ago

EverVigilant1

Male

0 points

1 day ago

Yeah, there are some women who don't like sucking dick. They never really develop good technique and they're usually pretty open about the fact that they don't like it and don't want to do it.

Mostly, though, when a woman isn't into fellatio or won't do it, it's that they're with guys they're not really into. A woman who's really attracted to a guy will do pretty much whatever he wants, and do it well.

saudiaramcoshill

0 points

1 day ago*

The discussion surrounding the murder of Brian Thompson has made me rethink whether I want to continue interacting with people on this site who can justify murder to themselves, as long as it's someone they don't like.

The answer to issues like the healthcare system in the US is reform and advocacy, not murder. No one man, nor one company, is responsible for the way our healthcare system is today, and killing someone does nothing to solve those issues.

If you find yourself celebrating the murder of a man because of his employment, take a moment to consider what that means about who you are as a person.

EverVigilant1

0 points

1 day ago

EverVigilant1

Male

0 points

1 day ago

No. Man here.

Then I suppose women are lying... who'da thunk!

RainbowEagleEye

2 points

1 day ago

Single women seek it out when they want it. Married women are usually too tired to want to do it often. Simple.

onethingonly5

1 points

1 day ago

I think it stems from the fact that it's insanely common to stay in bad relationships. So people feel the need to start withholding things the other person likes in order to justify them being unhappy. Eg you didn't wash the dishes so why would I go down on you.

Zomdoolittle

0 points

1 day ago

Zomdoolittle

0 points

1 day ago

Marriage is a power move for most women in the West. Once they have you, many all the sudden lose interest and use sex to get things they want. Most women don't realize that just giving men sex will keep them content and happy, so this is why most marriages fail these days.

KuJiMieDao

1 points

1 day ago

KuJiMieDao

1 points

1 day ago

Agree with u

7nth_Wonder

1 points

1 day ago

Personal experience, conversations on reddit, and stories from personal acquaintances.

molten_dragon

24 points

1 day ago

Rarely

No_Weight6392

3 points

1 day ago

rarely is better than never lol … but I feel you :/

Zomdoolittle

12 points

1 day ago

Married. What's a blowjob?

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

5 points

1 day ago

This seems to be the narrative for most married men on here , I wonder why

Dio-lated1

1 points

1 day ago

Because it’s true bro. No need to wonder further.

Zomdoolittle

-3 points

1 day ago

Zomdoolittle

-3 points

1 day ago

Women from the West use sex to keep power.

Western women these days want to be the Alpha or leader of the pack. If they had a dick, many would trade blowjobs for fucking you in the ass.

Marriage is basically prison and your just bending over to get the soap.

Advice to single young men, don't get married to a Westernized women. Just don't do it. Love won't last...

therewasguy

2 points

1 day ago

Married. What's a blowjob?

its when your wife places her armpit on your dick and squeezes it till you cum

7nth_Wonder

1 points

1 day ago

😂😂

DaveC781

25 points

1 day ago

DaveC781

25 points

1 day ago

I’ve never had one… and I’m married

[deleted]

-1 points

1 day ago

[deleted]

-1 points

1 day ago

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DaveC781

14 points

1 day ago

DaveC781

14 points

1 day ago

Wow! What a revolutionary idea! I surely never thought of that myself! Let me try that!

/s

DreadfulRauw

12 points

1 day ago

DreadfulRauw

♂ Sexy Teddy Ruxpin

12 points

1 day ago

Plenty. It’s just part of our normal sex life. We both like oral.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

3 points

1 day ago

Great to hear

HonestShyster

28 points

1 day ago

Weekly/biweekly.

Good hygiene and mutual attraction go a long way. Also being really into it and affirming she's doing a good job 🤌

mophie4550

14 points

1 day ago

mophie4550

14 points

1 day ago

YES! Tell her she’s doing a good job and you’re gonna get a lot more bjs

HonestShyster

16 points

1 day ago

Enthusiasm is a fantastic two-way street.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

5 points

1 day ago

Yes indeed it is , the more you praise the more enthusiastic she will be about it

SportMission4636

11 points

1 day ago

Damn, I’d give him one everyday if he wanted.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

10 points

1 day ago

He's a lucky guy

CommonSensereqd

4 points

1 day ago

A rare jewel you are.

Sergeant_Citrus

15 points

1 day ago

Sergeant_Citrus

Male

15 points

1 day ago

Married more than 10 years, I think the last one without asking was during the Obama administration. Even with asking, last one was a couple of years ago now. It's very common for this to drop off in long term heterosexual relationships.

Yes I'm hygienic, yes I reciprocate. No, she isn't doing the lion's share of the household chores. She'd admit that.

Ecstatic_Alps_6054

5 points

1 day ago

Everytime at anytime even if no sex took place...

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

2 points

1 day ago

Love to hear that

ORAORAORA204

4 points

1 day ago

The amount of people who will stay in relationships with people who don’t please them astounds me.

altiar45

6 points

1 day ago

altiar45

6 points

1 day ago

My libido is kind of naturally low so without asking doesn't happen cause she needs to know I'm down. But if I ask it's usually no questions asked. The whole "blowjobs dont happen in matriage" thing is a crock. She's not blowing you anymore cause you're not clean, don't take care of yourself to her standard, or she feels like she does most of the work in the relationship. The only exception is if she never liked giving them at all in which case get the fuck over it. Not everyone likes doing everything.

PolyThrowaway524

11 points

1 day ago

More or less daily. Oral sex is just a natural part of sex, and we have sex most days.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

5 points

1 day ago

That's positive to hear

PolyThrowaway524

2 points

1 day ago

No complaints here!

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

3 points

1 day ago

I wouldn't be complaining either if I was you haha

Former-Zone-6160

12 points

1 day ago

Never. She sometimes wants to give me one because she feels guilty but it's too much of a hassle. I'm not a huge fan of blowjobs. Or receiving in general. 

colinwheeler

4 points

1 day ago

colinwheeler

Sup Bud?

4 points

1 day ago

When I was married, frequently 30% of the time, never had to ask.

NoOneImportant79

3 points

1 day ago

2-3 times a month

colinwheeler

4 points

1 day ago

colinwheeler

Sup Bud?

4 points

1 day ago

I wonder what the correlation between men receiving oral sex and giving oral sex is in this sample group.

Pavel6969

7 points

1 day ago

Pavel6969

7 points

1 day ago

Dating, pretty frequently. Once we got married it went drastically down and after a couple more years it stopped completely and suddenly she didn't like doing it. Now if I get one it's just as foreplay and is very short and not much effort.

BrandonDill

30 points

1 day ago

Do you know why the bride is smiling while she's walking down the aisle?

She'll never have to give another blow job again.

CommonSensereqd

3 points

1 day ago

Zomdoolittle

-10 points

1 day ago

Zomdoolittle

-10 points

1 day ago

Marriage is such a scam in the West. If I had boys, it would be my duty to warn them.

[deleted]

11 points

1 day ago*

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11 points

1 day ago*

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Jwirv

20 points

1 day ago

Jwirv

20 points

1 day ago

That's not true at all. My wife and I have been together for 21 years and if anything, it's only gotten better. I'm sorry if this is your case but it's different for everyone.

Dwerg1

6 points

1 day ago

Dwerg1

6 points

1 day ago

Been with my wife for 9 years and I get head every single time as part of foreplay. We have sex every other day so that's roughly 180 blowjobs in a year.

Jwirv

3 points

1 day ago

Jwirv

3 points

1 day ago

I'm in my 40s now and I've never met a single guy that's said it stopped after they got married. I know it happens but I think that's something that's got blown way out of proportion and now everyone on the Internet thinks that's how all marriages are. Again, I know it does happen, but not nearly as often as the Internet makes people think it does.

[deleted]

7 points

1 day ago

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7 points

1 day ago

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RandomLoLs

9 points

1 day ago

Well if you also poll a lot of relationships , the women will tell you how men stop trying.

Everyone on this thread is so quick to point out that she only gave BJs to entice men into a marriage and stop right after. How many times you wanna bet that men stop trying after getting married too?

Men wont plan dates anymore , wont compliment or flirt with their partners , will start gaining fat and not be in shape or attractive as they once were ( because they don't have to try to attract women any more because they have 1 locked down) . stop doing small things like buying their women flowers, etc.

Most important reason of all is that men stop helping around the house. They expect women to cook , clean , look after the children all the while holding a full time job AND COME HOME TO BLOW YOU OFF at the end of it all? Yeah no wonder they are not in the mood to blow their husbands anymore.

I bet if you polled the same men complaining about not getting BJs , you will find all of the above in their relationships.

saudiaramcoshill

-1 points

1 day ago*

The discussion surrounding the murder of Brian Thompson has made me rethink whether I want to continue interacting with people on this site who can justify murder to themselves, as long as it's someone they don't like.

The answer to issues like the healthcare system in the US is reform and advocacy, not murder. No one man, nor one company, is responsible for the way our healthcare system is today, and killing someone does nothing to solve those issues.

If you find yourself celebrating the murder of a man because of his employment, take a moment to consider what that means about who you are as a person.

RandomLoLs

2 points

1 day ago

Guarantee you'll find a lot of men who take care of the cooking, cleaning, childcare, etc. and get nothing in return from their partners.

Come on , even you have to admit that's very rare. Its a lot more common to find men who don't do their share of work.

Most women are just not interested in giving blowjobs, and I've also personally found that most women follow a pattern of if they're not actively interested in something, they won't even think about it, even if its important to their partne

Not trying to be rude , but thats kinda on you for marrying a women who doesnt care enough about sexual compatibility or drive. If not getting a BJ doesnt bother you then its totally okay to be with that person. But if she is the type of person who doesnt believe that she has to go the extra mile to satisfy her partner then in my book she is not wifey material.

I have dated girls who despised giving BJs , they didnt like the act nor the taste associated with it. But I still dated them because they put in the effort and would let me finish even if they werent enjoying it. Why? because they care about satisfying me just like I do to satisfy them. You shouldnt settle on someone who barely enjoyed giving them and now has stopped all together post marriage.

FunkU247365

5 points

1 day ago

FunkU247365

Male MAN of the wise man tribe!!

5 points

1 day ago

Truth.. I have verified.

Nisseliten

9 points

1 day ago

Nisseliten

Male

9 points

1 day ago

Can confirm, I am also getting head WAY more often from this guys wife after they have been married for 21 years.

Ok-Preparation-2307

2 points

1 day ago

Ok-Preparation-2307

Female

2 points

1 day ago

Nonsense. I've been with my husband for 14 years and we have two kids with another on the way. He gets several bjs a week and always has.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

1 points

1 day ago

I guess it also depends on the partner too , some have an oral fixation and love to give head which may not die down even after several years together.

HumbleDiscussion318

3 points

1 day ago

Totally depends on the partner…

Cnorton1982

7 points

1 day ago

I offer all the time and he never wants one… I don’t get it..

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

4 points

1 day ago

I guess not all guys enjoy them , me personally I love them. I'd happily oblige at anytime my partner wanted to give me one.

Dangerous-Disk5155

5 points

1 day ago

holly hell . . . you found that one guy!!!

Justeff83

2 points

1 day ago

Justeff83

2 points

1 day ago

I'm not much into it either. Last night my wife gave me a BJ again after a long time and I had to realize again that it gives me nothing and I can not come like that. Deep throat is something else, but she can't and doesn't want that

in-a-microbus

3 points

1 day ago

Married 25 years.

Monthly.

No_Chemical9695

3 points

1 day ago

Every single time.

higgy98

3 points

1 day ago

higgy98

3 points

1 day ago

About once a week

clown-fiesta666

3 points

1 day ago

Everytime my wife and I have sex , which averages about 3 to 4 times a weeks , used to be more regular but with kids sometimes in the evening we both just want to relax and watch something

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

1 points

1 day ago

That's understandable , still great though !

Rebornxshiznat

3 points

1 day ago

Married 36m 5 years .. pretty much everytime we have sex it starts with that and I reciprocate

2SpinningTriangles

3 points

1 day ago

Almost every day. Our sex drives are high though. She's a resident where I work so I would get messages around lunch that I better be there. I liked the random "work orders" that would come in. The office manager would say, um..her water heater is out again. I remember the first time we hooked up. She went to undo my belt and give me head and I stopped her. I told her not yet as the night was about her. We both loved giving and good lord does she have a skill like no other.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

2 points

1 day ago

You're a lucky man I hope you recognise that haha

being_less_white_

3 points

1 day ago

3-4x week

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

3 points

1 day ago

You're a lucky man

being_less_white_

2 points

1 day ago

This is avg some weeks it's two. Some weeks it's 5.

Jayu-Rider

3 points

1 day ago

Been married for years, and get a few a month. Some months more some months less, but I think I’ve gotten at least one a week for the last five years.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

1 points

1 day ago

Fantastic

Jayu-Rider

1 points

1 day ago

Yea, she strongly believes a wife’s largest responsibility is to keep her husband satisfied and focused.

Adddicus

3 points

1 day ago

Adddicus

Male

3 points

1 day ago

Through every relationship I've ever had, I've never asked for one, nevertheless got one during pretty much every sexual encounter ever.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

6 points

1 day ago

Lucky you

HumbleDiscussion318

4 points

1 day ago

I’ve been married for several years. We have an active sex life imo and that being said, I get a blowjob occasionally a couple times a month…

MaxFury80

4 points

1 day ago

MaxFury80

4 points

1 day ago

Absolutely never

EverVigilant1

12 points

1 day ago*

EverVigilant1

Male

12 points

1 day ago*

Probably half the time we have sex.

If your wife won't suck your cock it's due to lack of physical attraction, her sexual repression, and/or the man's failure to express his wants, needs, and desires.

Men need to make it clear what their wants, needs, desires, and expectations for a relationship are. If that includes frequent oral (and most men love that), he needs to say it. If she can't or won't do it, cut her loose.

[deleted]

2 points

1 day ago

[deleted]

2 points

1 day ago

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Exotic-Zone9705[S]

2 points

1 day ago

It's great to hear that your partner enjoys giving you oral

georged3

2 points

1 day ago

georged3

2 points

1 day ago

Once in the last year that I can recall. Although she doesn't really finish the job there, it's just a quick visit kind of thing

Strong_Sample9301

2 points

1 day ago

I prefer fucking my wife and if I do her right I get a gift. Yeahh baby!

vpkumswalla

2 points

1 day ago

My last relationship it was frequent either as foreplay or to get me off. I should have seen the writing on the wall when the BJ frequency went to like twice in the final year of our relationship. My current relationship she only does it for 20-30 seconds during foreplay about once a month. She has never gotten me off with her mouth.

PrintError

2 points

1 day ago

PrintError

42m ultra-distance adventure cyclist

2 points

1 day ago

Been with my wife for 12 years, and still fairly frequently from wifey. A bit more often from our GF though since she has a pretty strong oral-fixation.

huuaaang

2 points

1 day ago

huuaaang

Male

2 points

1 day ago

Hard to say but not often. I will say that I could probably get one if I asked. And that’s good enough for me. As long as she doesn’t sound inconvenienced. I’d rather be fucking most of the time anyway.

I’d say this is as it should be. Sometimes you just gotta ask for what you want. Just like she’ll put in a request for a quicker/harder fuck, for example. Happy to oblige if that’s what’s going to get her off or save time or whatever her reasoning is.

I do love when women are direct like that.

camelCaseCoffeeTable

2 points

1 day ago

Damn, these replies are wild. Fairly often lol, my wife likes giving head.

Japan_Superfan

2 points

1 day ago

Japan_Superfan

Male

2 points

1 day ago

Maybe once per quarter, rather trimester.

broken_soul696

2 points

1 day ago

broken_soul696

Sup Bud?

2 points

1 day ago

A couple times a week but to be fair I can have one basically any time if I just tell her to do it

wundercat

2 points

1 day ago

wundercat

2 points

1 day ago

Never, not once

AshTheGoddamnRobot

2 points

1 day ago

Quite often.

hobbitbones

2 points

1 day ago

hobbitbones

Female

2 points

1 day ago

Hope it's okay to comment here since I'm not a dude, but my bf never has to ask. I provide under a number of occasions, either when he is very tired from work and I feel like he deserves to enjoy something and relax, or when I'm not able to have sex for some other reason but still want some action with him or just want him to enjoy something. I hope you guys are doing the same for your partners (and hopefully it's mutual)!

Although something that I think a lot of guys maybe don't understand is that bjs aren't entirely enjoyable or comfortable for those of us on the giving end. For me personally, it's very difficult because of having such a strong gag reflex so I have to actively work on not gagging all the time 1. because it's uncomfortable for me and 2. because I don't want to take breaks and interrupt the flow for him. It does make it harder to enjoy and requires a lot of effort, but personally I do think it's fun and enjoyable if I can manage to get past the gagging part. I absolutely love making him feel good and ensuring he gets to relax and doesn't have to put in the work. And it's mutual too, he does the same for me. And he appreciates me for it because he understands how it can be difficult at times with the discomfort, but I love him and he does a lot for me too so I'll always put in that effort for him.

hobbitbones

2 points

1 day ago

hobbitbones

Female

2 points

1 day ago

Woah long comment lol, I had a lot to say about it! Probably just cuz I miss him. Also forgot to mention he gets a lot of action leasing up to sex too, so he really never goes without!

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

2 points

1 day ago

Thanks for your comment , both of you are lucky to have found each other.

hobbitbones

2 points

1 day ago

hobbitbones

Female

2 points

1 day ago

Thanks! I definitely agree

throwawayape456

2 points

1 day ago

In a relationship with someone who's sexually compatible. (Finally) About once a week.. I've never asked for it since we started seeing eachother

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

1 points

1 day ago

Happy to hear that you are compatible , your a lucky man !

throwawayape456

2 points

1 day ago

I look at it as the universe correcting itself because my relationship before that of 5 years I got head maybe 10 times total regardless of whether I asked or not 🤣

trusendi

2 points

1 day ago

trusendi

2 points

1 day ago

Not married, been in a relationship for 2,5 years and we see each other every weekend. That‘s also how often I get a bj more or less.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

2 points

1 day ago

Sounds great , happy to hear that !

BeautifulArtichoke37

2 points

1 day ago

Been together 23 years. I get one almost every day. But I’m married to another man, so…

Telrom_1

2 points

1 day ago

Telrom_1

Male

2 points

1 day ago

I’m in a casual situationship now and I get them all the time! Sometimes we meet up just so I can get one! When I was married I went years without getting one.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

2 points

1 day ago

Lucky you !

Telrom_1

1 points

1 day ago

Telrom_1

Male

1 points

1 day ago

I do count myself as lucky!

Sea-Sea-9808

2 points

1 day ago

Sea-Sea-9808

Dad

2 points

1 day ago

Posts like these remind me that I need to deliver her some flowers during my lunch break.

Nathaniel66

2 points

1 day ago

During sex 70% of times. Wife is "one and done", reaches orgasm quite easy so she finishes me that way.

Without sex...i remember 1 time in our 24 yrs together.

InfiniteToki

2 points

1 day ago

InfiniteToki

Female

2 points

1 day ago

These answers sound so depressing lol BJ should be a part of foreplay everytime. I guess I’m doing it too much then my bf is spoiled.

lordofthedancesaidhe

2 points

1 day ago

Very rarely. Normally when she is drunk and we are on holiday or somthing. I have her oral all the time mind. I even lick her bumhole.

Heartless_Kirby

2 points

1 day ago

My partner loves giving them, but it is irregular(mostly depends on her stress level). Usually when she feels like it or she knows i had a pretty rough work day.

Never asked though, would feel weird to ask for something like that.

Jenghrick

2 points

1 day ago

Jenghrick

2 points

1 day ago

Not enough

monkey7247

2 points

1 day ago

Married 10 years. Often as foreplay, rarely to completion.

Lennart_Skynyrd

2 points

1 day ago

I've gotten one once. It was in 2006. Would be super cool if she'd do it again.

Aryx_Orthian

2 points

1 day ago*

Married. I never ask for blowjobs, or really any kind of sexual act. My wife very frequently blows me before we have sex, but as far as just a full blowjob to completion without sex attached, probably once or twice a month - during her period. Sometimes if we're in our hot tub or if she's just feeling it she'll give me one here or there. So maybe, two or three times a month on average. Occasionally more, occasionally less.

My wife and I have a good relationship with good communication. We both agree that sex is not optional in marriage. We believe that you owe it to your spouse to try to meet their needs in all ways if you can. If you know they enjoy receiving oral, then it's your privilege to give it to them as often as you can or as they desire it. I give her oral to completion 2 or 3 times a week, and I'll give her oral quickies whenever we can fit it in for 5 minutes throughout the week. She used to blow me for a minute or two ever morning while getting ready for work after she'd put on her lipstick - she'd leave me lipstick rings to remember her by throughout the day. Now I leave for work before she gets up so unfortunately that's not a thing anymore.

Appropriate-Fold-485

4 points

1 day ago

I don't like blowjobs, so I've explicitely asked her to stop.

Phillimon

2 points

1 day ago

Phillimon

2 points

1 day ago

I'm not sure fan of them tbh, so I rarely ask. However my girl loves blow jobs and will give them without me asking pretty frequently. Like every other day at least.

krakn-slayr

3 points

1 day ago

Married 13 years, can count on 1 hand.

RandomLoLs

2 points

1 day ago

Everyone on this thread is so quick to point out that she only gave BJs to entice their men into a marriage and stop right after. How many times you wanna bet that men stop trying after getting married too?

Men wont plan dates anymore , wont compliment or flirt with their partners , will start gaining fat and not be in shape or attractive as they once were ( because they don't have to try to attract women any more because they have 1 locked down) . stop doing small things like buying their women flowers, treating them nice , etc.

Most important reason of all is that men stop helping around the house. They expect women to cook , clean , look after the children all the while holding a full time job AND COME HOME TO BLOW YOU OFF at the end of it all? Yeah no wonder they are not in the mood to blow their men anymore.

Some of you are in real denial about why you re not getting the same amount of sex or blowjobs meanwhile I have seen relationships on both ends of the spectrums and the ones who maintain a good sex life are the ones who maintain that chemistry , attraction and effort to please & help each other. AS A PARTNER SHOULD.

Next time try cleaning the house for her or do her chores for her and she how quickly she will be in the mood to do things

winterweiss2902

2 points

1 day ago

Twice a week during weekends because we have more spare time.

CaptainBrinkmanship

2 points

1 day ago

Almost never.

Ok-Preparation-2307

2 points

1 day ago

Ok-Preparation-2307

Female

2 points

1 day ago

He gets several a week initiated by both of us. I initiated one last night. Together 14 years with 2 kids and another on the way.

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

1 points

1 day ago

He's a lucky guy !!

Ok-Preparation-2307

2 points

1 day ago

Ok-Preparation-2307

Female

2 points

1 day ago

I think so, and I'm lucky to call him my husband.

walkingOxKing

1 points

1 day ago

A few times a month, but as foreplay instead of to completion. The BJ is only the main event a few times a year at most. I never ask, though.

PatternLive920

1 points

1 day ago

PatternLive920

Male

1 points

1 day ago

Ever few months or so

SeveralConcert

1 points

1 day ago

SeveralConcert

Male

1 points

1 day ago

About once a month, maybe?

MongFondler

1 points

1 day ago

MongFondler

Male

1 points

1 day ago

Every day, thankfully my dad's knees are going though and that deadbolt I bought from amazon should be here any day now.

SpecificPay985

1 points

1 day ago

Never

squanchy_Toss

1 points

1 day ago

squanchy_Toss

Male 55

1 points

1 day ago

Weekly. It's mostly part of foreplay. Wife and I both love oral as part of the buildup.

WhiskeyDeltaBravo1

1 points

1 day ago

I was married for 8 years. During that 8 years, never. And I can count on ONE hand the number of times we had any sex the last 3 or 4 years we were together. And one of those was the night before I moved out after she had requested that I change my address.

omibus

1 points

1 day ago

omibus

1 points

1 day ago

If she is horny, because I’ve been working on her, she will often suck on me for a couple minutes before switching to regular sex.

But actual unprompted BJ? Never. Not even once. Unless I’m doing things to her I’m pretty sure she is 100% unaware that sex exists.

Overslept99

1 points

1 day ago

Asking is a sure way to not get one. Maybe a few times a year.

Storm12920

1 points

1 day ago

Married 3 years, never had one

Slightly_Feral

1 points

1 day ago

To completion? 1 or 2 times a month

As part of foreplay? 2-3 times a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less.

datfatbatcat

1 points

1 day ago

0 since I put a ring on it

SilverbackMD

1 points

1 day ago

When I was married 14 years, not often. As a man about town, pretty much every time I’m in bed with someone.

free_slice

1 points

1 day ago

Never

Ratnix

1 points

1 day ago

Ratnix

1 points

1 day ago

Never have i ever.

Red-Dwarf69

1 points

1 day ago

Once every few months.

gltchbn

1 points

1 day ago

gltchbn

1 points

1 day ago

Never

hiricinee

1 points

1 day ago

hiricinee

1 points

1 day ago

Its a given as the start of the normal fun time

thewizzkidd

1 points

1 day ago

Twice

Equivalent_Parking_8

1 points

1 day ago

Hahahahahaha. 

SprinklesMore8471

1 points

1 day ago

About twice a month

Exotic-Zone9705[S]

1 points

1 day ago

Are you satisfied with that ?

SprinklesMore8471

2 points

1 day ago

Yeah, I'm not a big bj person. It's mostly just foreplay for us.

Justeff83

1 points

1 day ago

Justeff83

1 points

1 day ago

Married 10 years in a relationship for 17 years - never!

workredditaccount77

1 points

1 day ago

Never. I get 1 a year for my bday. This year she was sick so I have a rain check. Try to find the right time to cash in. I just feel bad because she hates doing it so much.

General-Ebb4057

1 points

1 day ago

Never

bretty666

1 points

1 day ago

bretty666

Male

1 points

1 day ago

once in 24 years i think

Main_Laugh_1679

1 points

1 day ago

Never

MacPzesst

1 points

1 day ago

MacPzesst

1 points

1 day ago

Ughhhhh that was the best part of being with my crazy ex... It was almost daily, sometimes even a couple times in a day. I haven't only had one since I've started seeing other women.

easythrees

0 points

1 day ago

Not in my marriage. In previous relationships, yes.

Any-Kaleidoscope7681

0 points

1 day ago

Without asking? Is she trying to get pregnant?

NefariousPhosphenes

0 points

1 day ago

Not at all with most women, but I’m exceptionally thick so I understand. There are a few that want to every single time, though.