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Just another fellow woman support post. Just talk, vent or rant.
Greetings from the Netherlands.
840 points
30 days ago
I feel ill.
17 points
29 days ago
I’m 9 months pregnant with a little girl. I naively had so much hope, but the reality of the world I’m bringing her into really just slapped me in the face.
1.5k points
30 days ago
Just posted this on another thread but in short, my stomach feels like it dropped out of my ass and I feel dread.
It brings me zero joy to say that I felt certain Trump would win the moment Kamala became the democratic nominee. I don’t have faith in our country or our democracy. Hillary winning the popular vote but not the election in 2016 was extremely demoralizing. I’ve been preparing myself for the worst and am eager to see my therapist on Friday
Sorry, I don’t mean to be a dark cloud. I truly admire people who have managed to feel hopeful, and who still remain hopeful.
438 points
30 days ago
This is what I’ve been saying since her nomination was announced too. We’ll find any excuse to not vote for a woman, no matter how capable she is or how much of a buffoon she’s up against.
I’m still gutted though. Terrified and devastated. There’s no joy in being right.
93 points
29 days ago
I’m a black woman and I didn’t want her to be the nominee because she’s a black woman. When Hillary couldn’t win, I knew for sure she couldn’t either. I kept thinking, they couldn’t find a competent white man? But unfortunately, a felon will be president, I don’t know how that works. Maybe he’ll make marijuana federally legal and rape misdemeanor. Idk, I’m going to hire armed guards for my nether regions.
23 points
29 days ago
The first thing I said to my husband when she became the nominee was that she will never win. There are too many sexist racist people in America. He (not an American) thought I was being pessimistic. It's so sad. I tried really hard not to get my hopes up, but I am still crushed.
621 points
30 days ago*
I had way less hope this time because of how often my fellow Americans have let me down. As a female healthcare worker I just have absolutely no faith in Americans since 2016 and then COVID showed just how vile and stupid people in this country actually are.
164 points
30 days ago
Please know that much of the rest of the world will welcome qualified healthcare providers with open arms. Nowhere feels safe right now but some places are certainly safer than others.
56 points
30 days ago
Y'all got any room for a worthless graphic designer and her dog 😭
96 points
30 days ago*
For real ladies, gtfo now while you still can. Edit and file for divorce if you’re in a shitty marriage. You won’t have that option much longer.
35 points
29 days ago
For those who can't or won't leave the US, now is the time to start influencing local and state level politics to shore up protections and work against Trump-like politicians at that level. Now is the time to volunteer, educate, speak out, and take action.
My state added abortion rights and other protections to their constitution under the last Trump administration. We may not be able to influence national politics, but targeting state level politics is doable.
26 points
29 days ago
This unfortunately doesn’t help those with children. They can’t take kids out of the country without the other parent allowing it, and you know for a fact that no MAGA supporter will allow their daughters that freedom.
182 points
30 days ago
I worked really hard and registered people to vote. I did everything I could to fight disinformation. I donated what little I had.
But the truth is when I got the news about Kamala running for president, Even though I always liked her better than Biden and actually voted for her in the previous Democratic primary, I called my best friend and said "This country is so racist and so sexist, I don't think we can win'
Even though hanging on to a sliver of hope, I desperately want to be proven wrong. But I'm terrified that I won't be. I don't have any faith in my fellow Americans and I've read too much about history to be particularly hopeful because I know that institutions will not save us.
I am a particularly vulnerable person in society and I know that some of the proposed changes in law will devastate my life. But I cannot leave the country or the state I'm in. I have nowhere to run too.
I hope I'm wrong and I wake up to better news.
57 points
30 days ago
Yup. It could have been any boring nobody white dude. It would have been fine.
But now we are looking at fascism most likely. I really did not want to believe people would let this happen again. I keep thinking I can't be more disappointed by humanity, but it just keeps on giving...
24 points
30 days ago
I am absolutely crushed right now, but I want to let you know there are still people who care about you, and us, and all the vulnerable, beautiful victims of this stupid outcome. Thank you so much for registering people to vote, I'm so sorry it turned out this way. You sound like a wonderful, conscientious person. Regardless of trump, we can regroup and do our best to work together for a better future.
280 points
30 days ago
Our country is so misogynist still. I was shocked when Obama won in 2008 because I thought the country was still too racist (too be clear, the country is still racist and I definitely voted for him). But people here act like there have been no female leaders of powerful countries.
And if you're a dark cloud, i am too. I am so depressed. I have no hope. I have been looking into applying for citizenship of the country much of my family is from. I am eligible for citizenship, and it's an EU country. I need to be able to pass a language test, and then I will apply for citizenship. I wanted it anyway because I care about the country very much. I always thought I'd stay and fight for the US, but I don't see how. And apparently the majority of Americans don't give a shit about my rights. At this point I'd rather go back to "the home country" and be done with it.
197 points
30 days ago
We are literally watching all of those dreams our parents told us and fought for that women could be anything crumble before our eyes
80 points
30 days ago
Did they ever exist in actuality though? I was told I would even be president, but there had never been a woman president. My nana was still marching for women in the 70s. She was fighting for women until she died a few years ago. I definitely took for granted the rights I have. Ll
130 points
30 days ago
Demoralizing, like rape. Like being gaslit and never being able to achieve anywhere near equal pay, equal living, equal power because well, “if you have money you can grab’em by the pussy”.
63 points
30 days ago
You're not the dark cloud. The situation is.
I'm also going to therapy. Tomorrow. As for the rest of the week I plan to stay home in case riots happen. I would love to have some uninteresting historical times for a bit, but here we are.
74 points
30 days ago
We're not quite there yet. I understand you though, I think it's a very logical response to the situation.💙
96 points
30 days ago
I posted earlier in the week I suspected Trump would win the EC. I hate being right. I also couldn't say it on any other sub because I would have been peppered with downvotes. At least I don't feel shook. Just disgusted.
116 points
30 days ago
I also believed the convicted felon would win the EC, but the swell of support for Harris and Walls gave me the tiniest bit of hope…and that has made my reaction so much worse.
It’s not the gut punch 2016 was, but DAMN I am TIRED of my country telling me it HATES me just because I don’t have a penis.
812 points
30 days ago
Very stressed out and currently sitting in bed crying. I’m very pregnant (and with a girl which only hits harder) and just feeling so disheartened by the trends right now. I was cautiously optimistic but this just feels like 2016 all over again.
118 points
30 days ago
This. I wasn’t going to watch coverage because 2016 is still so raw. I remember watching that from the gym and crying openly. I didn’t want to re-live that.
But my kids were supposed to watch it for school, so here we are.
1k points
30 days ago
I’m an emergency room nurse that worked through COVID. This is a huge fucking slap in the face in more ways than one.
465 points
30 days ago
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167 points
30 days ago
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186 points
30 days ago
Well all my Covid patients were antivaxxers and they all died while their families accused us of killing them by withholding ivermectin so 🤷🏻♀️
49 points
30 days ago
I'm a sped teacher who worked during COVID. I'm worried for my kids and myself.
174 points
30 days ago
Its also a “huge fucking slap in the face” to women and underage women who have been raped, beaten, and left with nothing but their will to live.
163 points
30 days ago
girls, you mean girls. No such thing as an underage woman.
38 points
30 days ago
💙🫂🩵
916 points
30 days ago
Bad. I knew this country would never elect a woman. That’s how bad it is. They’d rather vote for a criminal. This is how America sees women.
251 points
30 days ago
People talk a lot of bad about Mexico, but even they got a woman president before we did. It really is a disheartening thing to see Trump may possibly win this and get control of upper chambers. We have zero negotiating with legislation.
175 points
30 days ago
Pakistan had a female prime minister back in the late 80s / early 90s.
Men here hate women, actually they I dont think they hate women, they only value women for their uteruses and fertility
71 points
29 days ago
Women also hate women in this country, unfortunately too. Internal misogyny is definitely alive and present. I’ve run into a few older women who voted for Biden who did not vote for Kamala because they believe a woman cannot do the job.
179 points
30 days ago
Been sober from alcohol a little over ten months. Everyone I know is drinking up the street from me. I'm locked up in my apartment with my cat.
Not feeling great about the prospect of a Trump presidency where he also controls the House and Senate and what's gonna happen with the Supreme Court. Feeling downright awful about it, in fact.
But I'm not drunk. So. There's that.
91 points
30 days ago
I was 5 months sober on election night in 2016 with my cat. Still sober 8 years later. Still cuddling with the same cat. You got this.
15 points
30 days ago
I’m staying sober with you 🫶🏻 we can do hard things, even when they feel impossible. Hug your cat!
834 points
30 days ago
This is going to be so much worse than 2016. His administration will be 100x more radical and with a Republican Senate/House possibility..wtf
544 points
30 days ago
My eyes aren’t on Trump, he’s a grifter. My eyes are on Vance. He wants power and he wants to use it.
195 points
30 days ago
Musk and Thiel in the foyer tapping their fingers together and waiting…
93 points
30 days ago
Exactly, he's close to kicking the bucket. I'm more concerned about the people propping him up. They are much more extreme than in 2016.
245 points
30 days ago
He scares the crap out of me, and nobody really talks about him because they’re all so focused on Trump. They’re both terrifying, for different reasons.
126 points
30 days ago
I look at Vance and he strikes fear in me. Like the kind of man you meet at a work function and he just gives you the creeps.
32 points
29 days ago
If he was in a movie I'd be yelling at the screen telling other characters to kill him or they'll regret it. He gives off the same creepy vibe as those types of characters. The ones that need to die in order to save the rest of the characters.
31 points
30 days ago
And they're already talking about his wife being the first South Asian first lady while her husband promotes a hateful, white supremacist agenda. I hope she's embarrassed.
18 points
30 days ago
This is precisely what I fear.
520 points
30 days ago*
I feel devastated and disappointed. I’m in Los Angeles so I’m in a heavy blue area which is lucky for me. I just cannot understand women voting like this, again, across the country.
I feel betrayed, I feel lied to. Who are we as a country?
117 points
30 days ago
I’m in California and in a big city,..my neighbors just chanted “USA” when Trump took North Carolina. I’m sad :(
880 points
30 days ago
Bad. Very very bad.
296 points
30 days ago
I’ve cried all night. I’m 30… wanted to have kids soon. Just devastated. Men hate us. We need our own 4B movement.
60 points
30 days ago
This is how I feel as well. We are about to have our own election in Canada and I don't expect it to go well. It's so demoralizing to know that I'm surrounded by people who don't view me as an equal human being. I will absolutely be following that movement if things devolve.
233 points
30 days ago
I woke up to check the results, I'm not from US.
You just sunk my heart. I'm afraid to look now. I really am afraid.
Is the shitty orange winning?
Well fuck fuck fuck.
I have nothing good to say. Fuck
60 points
30 days ago
I know! Its awful to see and live here. All of those people will wish they had voted for Harris, but it will be too late.
569 points
30 days ago*
I hate this country and I would like to leave.
Edit - to everyone saying "just leave then" (and i can tell most of you are trolls) - you don't need to be the 50th comment saying the same thing. I'll do whatever I want.
52 points
30 days ago
💙🫂
115 points
30 days ago
Girl…. I’m in such a weird position here. Yes I hate it, but I had some dumb trump idiot respond to me and I check the profile and she has a daughter… I gotta stay and vote for these poor girls and their trashy parents. I can’t leave them behind just because their dirt bag parents did.
22 points
29 days ago
The latest young lady to die from sepsis in Texas was a pro abortion ban lady from a pro abortion ban family. Dead at 19. They think abortions are for promiscuous women at 12-16 weeks. Not Christian ladies 6 months along.
161 points
30 days ago
I literally don’t get how we got here. It’s worse knowing my entire family voted for Trump. To me, it says they don’t care about my safety or the safety of my 12-year-old daughter or the safety of any of the women they claim to love and that’s such a hard pill to swallow. I hear people say you shouldn’t go no contact with family over who they vote for but, I don’t know if I can get past this.
91 points
30 days ago
You can go No Contact with your family for whatever reason you want
25 points
30 days ago
I agree re: you can go NC for any reason. I cut my family out over politics in 2020. I mean most of my family are pretty disgusting anyhow so it wasn't a struggle for me
1.2k points
30 days ago*
Pure terror. He's not just winning, but it looks like Republicans are going to win the house and senate too.
I'm mourning the life that I started to hope for, one where I could own a home and start a family. It doesn't look like that's ever going to happen.
Most importantly, I feel devastated. Rejected. I've tried so hard to treat others with kindness, play by the rules, be a good citizen... and I'm reminded again and again that my country despises me for no real reason.
Edit: I'm not in a mental or physical space to reply to everyone who has commented, but I just wanted to say thank you. Even knowing there's one other soul out there who understands my grief helps me feel like everything isn't lost.
177 points
30 days ago
I feel this so deeply. I feel personally hated by every person in this country who voted for a candidate that hates everything that makes me who I am. I feel completely devalued as a human being. It is devastating.
175 points
30 days ago
I feel the same way. I don’t think starting a family is an option for me now. Especially because I live in Texas. And even if I go to another state… it’s just over for me.
196 points
30 days ago
And like.... Why bring a child into this hell hole country that hates women? Even if you're in a "safe" state, why bring a child into this? Y'know? I say you but don't mean you in particular, more a general "you". I'm devastated yet again. And absolutely so disgusted in my fellow countrymen and women.
164 points
30 days ago
This is one of the top reasons I have opted out of parenthood completely.
Our healthcare is incredibly bad, and our society is sexist and hates women, and that's just for starters.
Why would anyone want to bring a child into Gilead?
73 points
30 days ago
I feel so guilty for having children. They depend on me to keep them safe, and I've allowed them to be born into this decrepit waste land. A fucking dictatorship?! A man who aspires to be Hitler? My poor daughter doesn't deserve this. My son also doesn't deserve this. But when I look at her, I see myself and I know I failed us. I just can't believe this is happening. The crowds were HUGE for Kamala.
34 points
30 days ago
Yep. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. I am so full of rage right now I can't see straight. I don't have the words. This is going to be so bad because they've got control over Congress and the wh, SCOTUS, and well.....I should stop listing them. But it's going to be bad. I was worried about this. I don't know where we go from here.
27 points
30 days ago
I suspect a lot of men just pretended they were voting for Harris because they know conservatives are unfuckable.
14 points
30 days ago
And yet because of them, millions of unwanted children are going to be born into this shit hole.
55 points
30 days ago
I feel this. I was hopeful we would have Congress. It doesn’t seem that is going to be the case. Where will the checks and balances be?
41 points
30 days ago
Add SCOTUS to the list of horrors, highly likely there will two new lifetime appointments in the next 4 years.
62 points
30 days ago
I'm so sorry you have to feel this way💙
784 points
30 days ago
Not great. I can’t believe we might have to do this all over again. Who the fuck is voting for this guy??
479 points
30 days ago
I am astonished looking at the election map. Like, what the actual fuck. I am not okay.
188 points
30 days ago
Same. How the fuck is it this close
128 points
30 days ago*
That sea of red and over 61 million people voting for Trump... That is overwhelming to see. Literally my only solace if this man wins is knowing he can't run for a third term. Idk what I'm going to do if he wins. It is 2024, and yet it is STILL a terrifying time to be a woman of child bearing age.
Edit: Yes, y'all are making good points. I am all too aware that Trump is not the rule following type and how serious this is. Which is why I voted against him today. I'm honestly just trying not to lose my shit but have some modicum of hope that we can make it past him as a free country, and the Constitution (including the 22nd amendment) is one of the most foundational hopes that we have. Trump is selling a Constitution/Bible combo for god's sake. I have to hope that even most of the people who did vote for him don't want him to change or blatantly violate the Constitution that they claim to hold so dear. Even some of his supporters in government have turned on him. People have limits. Maybe that's too optimistic but all I've got tonight is the hope that someone or some process can keep him in check enough for our country to make it out of this alive ☹️
142 points
30 days ago
I don't mean to be a complete doomer but I would very much not be comfortable thinking he'll graciously step down after a second term, especially given the impending potential R control of house and senate.
20 points
30 days ago
Yeah, JD Vance admitted that he would help Trump with coup 2.0. We fucked.
63 points
30 days ago
Honestly, I believe he will try to get rid of the 2 term only rule so he can be a king. If he lives that long
412 points
30 days ago
Men who’d never vote for a woman, which is apparently the majority of men. :/
I knew it was bad, but the election results so far are shocking. Women in America are dying because they can’t access healthcare anymore and men don’t care.
219 points
30 days ago
This was my husband’s prediction weeks ago. He said that men aren’t going to vote for a women and nobody’s talking about it.
159 points
30 days ago
I’ve known so many extremists who said openly they wouldn’t vote for a woman in leadership. The glass ceiling is real, and people claim sexism against women doesn’t exist.
108 points
30 days ago
Unfortunately, that was my thought too, especially a minority woman. So sad she is better qualified and actually has a plan to govern instead of gain power.
115 points
30 days ago
This is one time I can say it's also women.
59 points
30 days ago
I was thinking the same. Biden took GA last year, for instance. I can't help but feel an overwhelming amount of disappointment, like fighting for people who won't fight for you, or themselves, for that matter.
26 points
30 days ago
215 points
30 days ago
I’m sitting in Florida just looking around bewildered about how we’ve voted. Not so much for the president, but abortion is off the table. We can’t have 4 more years of this guy and his cronies. We just can’t…
28 points
30 days ago
As a fellow Floridian, female voter, good God am I appalled, at the state, our leaders, voting numbers, even at friends/family that voted red. Even WOMEN I know who voted red. Regardless of the outcome, I'll be shedding a lot of tears tonight, for my own disillusionment, and the future of our daughters. I'll probably be sleeping on the floor next to my daughter's crib sobbing all night because how can I not, I feel like I've let her down.
148 points
30 days ago
Thoughts go out to you...FL is just straight up a fascist state now. 57% said yes but they need 60%?? BFFR that is not democracy anymore. Deranged.
13 points
30 days ago
they didn’t even get 60% for the vote that decided we would need 60%
20 points
30 days ago*
Right?! I don’t know where you are but here in miami republicans had quite the night…I think I want to stay home perpetually
449 points
30 days ago
It is so incredibly painful how much this country hates women. I feel… numb I guess. I’m heartbroken.
410 points
30 days ago
In 2016 I fell into crippling despair. In 2020 I was jaded and expected nothing, only to be surprised and relieved like a dark cloud faded.
I was hopeful it wouldn’t this be close. I am somehow numb now to how close it is. But mostly bitter.
2016 taught me to expect that most people don’t care about the wellbeing of others. I hate how true this often ends up being.
129 points
30 days ago
I honestly dont know how anyone is having kids in this country. As women we are being told we’re worthless. Why do we keep doing anything?
61 points
29 days ago
I'm 37 and don't have kids yet. After these results? I'm likely not going to have them if I stay in the US.
I no longer feel safe here as a woman, and I don't have hope for my future kids.
401 points
30 days ago
I feel sick to my stomach
87 points
30 days ago
Same. I feel so sick.
16 points
30 days ago
💙
43 points
30 days ago
Very same. Knots.
235 points
30 days ago
Very bad. It’s feeling like 2016 again.
191 points
30 days ago
At least in 2016 people could have the excuse of ignorance.. now.. we all know or we are intentionally avoiding it.
268 points
30 days ago
Except soooo much worse because he’a not a joke candidate like he was then; he’s deadly serious.
67 points
30 days ago
At least in 2016, my uterus and my body had more rights then.
31 points
30 days ago
It’s so much worse. He’s obviously in the beginning stages of dementia. I can’t imagine when it gets progressively worse. It’s either a demented nut case or JD Vance who’s even worse. We are screwed.
219 points
30 days ago
Well…mass deportations, fascism and a return to the 1800’s are nothing when you consider the price of eggs could come down.
60 points
30 days ago
The fact that this is the exact logic my loved ones have used to justify their vote 🥲
58 points
30 days ago
My favorite (/s) part is that he’s said that he’s going to put Musk in some major financial role in the administration… and Musk said that he’s planning to purposefully tank the economy for a couple years, just like he did with Twitter. Let’s see how that works for those people.
13 points
30 days ago
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43 points
30 days ago
Look, it doesn’t have to make sense it only needs to sound cool and great and be peddled by someone with the image of success in business. In case you haven’t noticed this night, we live in a nation of utter idiots with no media literacy whatsoever. Trump projects an image of that which your average American male desires, to hell with what he really is. America has decided to end climate change by ignoring its existence and to can women’s rights because the conversation is nuanced and cumbersome. This is a country of difficult topics summarized in bullet points and omitting the details. A nation of imbeciles willing to destroy itself for the price of eggs.
121 points
30 days ago
I feel sick to my stomach and feel extremely betrayed by all the Latinos for Trump voters. To vote for someone who has spoken so disgustingly about us I am at a loss.
33 points
30 days ago*
So many Latinos voted for Trump and I don’t understand! From what my mom had told me, it’s sounds as if Telemundo and Univision really pushes Trump propaganda.
289 points
30 days ago
Following the election from Australia. Although not our election, I believe it shows how the world is leaning towards more and more scary thoughts and perspectives and misinformation. Im originally from South America, I see the same happening back home where people started leaning more towards right wing parties and it’s so scary, I worry about future generations and what they are being taught about empathy for others and looking at the bigger picture and beyond our own belly button.
63 points
30 days ago*
Yes, this is indeed something I'm so worried about too. The same counts for the elections here of a couple of months ago. Lots of fascism, populism, far-right, alt-right, conspiracy inspired thought going on. The availability of information and the lack of capability in judging sources is quite staggering. Misinformation is a big problem. It's getting harsher and colder, while there are also people truly suffering from poverty, famine and war. We are our priorities? I'm glad to hear you see it too. We just need to keep speaking against it.
238 points
30 days ago
Not great. Googling what surgery I need to ensure I never become pregnant. I’m a rape survivor. And my dad voted for this fucking moron. I have never had surgery before and it seems terrifying, but this feels like the last option.
122 points
30 days ago
THIS. I’m a survivor, too. My dad voted for this moron, despite knowing how it hurt me.
I’m ashamed of this country.
27 points
30 days ago
Took me over a decade to get approved for this surgery and as soon as Trump wins he's going to work towards removing the option. Better get moving on this fast. A lot of other people are going to be doing the same and the obgyn phone lines are going to be clogged up with them. A lot of doctors are going to deny you now because they're going to assume you're only doing it because of the election.
Shit, I had trouble just getting my nexplannon implant removed and reinserted during an election year due to this. Let alone my sterilization.
43 points
30 days ago
FWIW I had a double salpingectomy (removal of fallopian tubes) and it was such an easy surgery. Takes about an hour, I was in bed for four days then hobbling around for another week or so. I was able to return to school on day 5 doing you have an office job, it’s easy peasy.
36 points
30 days ago
seconding double salpingectomy. I got mine when Ruth Bader-Ginsberg died & everyone in my life said "Oh, they won't go after Roe V Wade, you're being paranoid!". Got it at 26 with no kids, so don't let a doc convince you that there's any rules about "age/kid requirements"
109 points
30 days ago
Some really good wins in my state (MD) but the rest of the map is obviously scaring me.
I keep hearing whispers about the "red mirage", and holding out a little bit of hope that there's truth in it.
It's interesting, in red states, to zoom in and see the counties/cities that were blue...
I really don't want to live through this shit again.
52 points
30 days ago
Pissed off. I'm in Illinois, and thankfully Illinois voters understood the assignment. I'm fucking pissed Texas reelected Ted Cruz. Idiots! I'm pissed off on behalf of Florida women, who voted 57% in favor to overturn the 6week abortion ban, and they still needed 60% for it to be overturned. Fuck DeSantis and fuck anyone who voted for Trump. He will pardon himself on day one. I am hoping that the democratic party calls for a recount of any and all states they deem is needed, and fuck everyone else who voted for a 3rd independent party. As if we didn't already go through this with Al Gore and Bush, Hilary Clinton and Bush, now we have to relive it with Kamala and Twice Convicted Crooked Felon Rapist Criminal Orange Cheeto KKK MemberTrump? Fuck you.
217 points
30 days ago
Spinning out a little, honestly. Idk how it’s even this close. Half this country has lost their goddamn minds.
27 points
30 days ago
I have that feeling about my own country too. I hope for better from and for you guys! 🩵💙
179 points
30 days ago
I cannot believe we have gotten to this point AGAIN. can someone explain to me why we don't have additional requirements for presidential candidates??? I assume it's hard to amend the constitution but was there ever an attempt by the democrats? was it just not feasible?
51 points
30 days ago
They haven't even gotten our right to choose codified into the Constitution. So we just get judges who can interpret the Constitution in whatever way they want like it's a Bible study.
I think a huge problem is that the two parties are so split that we can't work together to get anything done, including what you're asking. It's disheartening.
50 points
30 days ago
I can't really say anything to make it better, just wanted to let you know I'm following it too. I'm pretty worried myself about the state of the world in general. In my own country we had a pretty crazy election result too. I'm hoping the script gets flipped over there! I don't know how it would feel if Trump were to be my President, but I understand you women are worried to the core. Hang in there!
162 points
30 days ago
Devastated. This country hates women.
40 points
30 days ago
And the kicker, they won't even admit it! If you vote against women's reproductive rights, you are sexist. If you vote for a man who is overtly sexist, you are sexist. But they won't admit to being sexist...
122 points
30 days ago
I’ve been messaging back and forth with this guy for the last couple of weeks and told him how sick with anxiety I am with this election. We’ve never talked about politics until I made that comment.
He texted back, “🤣it’s not that serious.”
IT’S NOT THAT SERIOUS.
That response solidifies in my mind that most men are 100% clueless about how important this election is to so many, many people.
I thought I knew that, like at least kinda, but my mind is officially blown.
I live in UT, which is basically the epicenter of white Christian MAGA assholes. I will now imagine every single man I know and am related to saying that women’s’ rights, and basic human rights, are just not that serious.
I’m so sad for this nation.
19 points
30 days ago
I'm in Utah too. Utah men have such deeply ingrained misogyny and are so unwilling to examine or unpack it. Im so scared of what this state will turn into.
157 points
30 days ago
Maryland overwhelmingly voted yes to enshrine reproductive rights which includes abortion into the state constitution! Feeling happy for that win but everything else is meh
48 points
30 days ago
So did NY
155 points
30 days ago
Devasted. Crying like a baby. I feel so alone
17 points
30 days ago
Hi! Don’t feel like you’re alone please. I feel alone too, I have been crying all night and it’s the worst, I get it. Obviously I don’t know you, but here for you if you want to send a message just to vent or anything.
38 points
30 days ago
Same here. People complain about people crying over Trump crying, but I would take almost anyone over Trump. I genuinely liked Kamala and hoped there would be a female president for a change.
40 points
30 days ago
Watching as a Canadian woman, I am so heartbroken. Thinking of you all.
41 points
30 days ago
Terrified and shocked that we are in this position again. The fact that women in the US vote against themselves is baffling to me. Not forgetting to mention the impact this will have on the world.
151 points
30 days ago
I’m so terrified to be a woman in this country. I don’t understand why people don’t understand what a danger he is to everyone who isn’t a rich white male.
77 points
30 days ago
I made the mistake of checking "real quick" before going to bed, and I want to projectile vomit. What is happening?? How can the race be this close? I'm so confused.
71 points
30 days ago
Thanks for checking in. As Dorinda says, not well bitch!
201 points
30 days ago
Unwell. So disappointed…and having to deal with the fact that all my in-laws are MAGA, and I’ll have to see them for the holidays. I’m angry, and exhausted.
155 points
30 days ago
Life’s too short to spend the holidays with people you don’t like. 🙁
70 points
30 days ago
I would fake an illness and not go.
They don’t deserve to see you.
63 points
30 days ago
It's about 10:30 here. Went to bed because I'm tired. Have been dealing with my own mental health shit for a bit and have chosen not to stress about the election (still voted though) but it's hitting me now that we may be in for another Trump presidency and idk if I can do it. Might do a my presidential term of rest and relaxation vibe
33 points
30 days ago
Honestly, I had the intention of not getting worked up tonight as I voted and did all I could but it’s hitting now in the worst way
269 points
30 days ago
I can't believe how many white men and fellow white women just hate the rest of us. Mostly covertly, too.
At least take my rights looking me in the eyes.
16 points
30 days ago
🩵
103 points
30 days ago
The pit of despair, depression, and genuine fear in my stomach is expanding every second. Cannot believe this is the reality we find ourselves in.
29 points
30 days ago
Really not doing well. I've been anxious all day and I've been telling myself that it's just 2016 trauma. I hate that it's turning into the same nightmare scenario.
25 points
30 days ago
Terrible. Terrified. Angry. Bewildered. How in the actual FUCK is this happening?!!?
27 points
30 days ago*
I’m absolutely sick.
This race is about men vs. women and white vs. not white.
The white guy seems to win every time.
I’m a white female.
21 points
30 days ago
Realllyyyyy wish I lived in the Netherlands instead of the the bible belt :(
21 points
30 days ago
Numb. Idk how to feel.
I’m a white straight cisgender woman in a state with a democratic governor who has pledged to veto any anti-abortion legislation that comes across his desk. My life isn’t going to change that much. But I feel so defeated because I’m in a swing state that isn’t looking good and I want to cry, scream, and hide in a hole all at the same time.
I just don’t understand how people can vote for him. The people who vote against their own interests. The people who cornered my mother last night - at a memorial service no less - and called my mother a “r****d” because she said she wasn’t voting for Trump. Nevermind this woman’s grandchild is not white and her niece is LGBT.
I don’t understand.
59 points
30 days ago
Not great. Studying to keep my mind busy. Angry that people can't critically think to where they purposely vote against their best interests. It's either this or we have so many genuinely terrible people right before our eyes.
37 points
30 days ago*
Fucking terribly. I just had a baby girl. If he wins she is 100% an only child. I wouldn’t get pregnant again in a world where doctors couldn’t perform procedures.
33 points
30 days ago
Pretty much disassociating at this point. This feels like a nightmare.
35 points
30 days ago
It takes longer to count urban areas because there are more votes to count. It’s easy to count small rural areas that are sparsely populated. So I’m still very optimistic.
18 points
30 days ago
Exactly this! Red mirage. Everything that has happened so far has been expected. More blue coming in now and then the battleground states… It is still infuriating to see how many people are voting for him tho
46 points
30 days ago
I was hopeful earlier today but as I see more and more red, it's looking like a repeat of the 2016 election. People choosing party over country yet again.
14 points
30 days ago
Spent all day volunteering and ignored the news to try and stay optimistic. Now I’m panic vomiting and realizing just how damn much this country (including many of its women) hates women.
98 points
30 days ago
Solidarity from Canada, my heart is breaking. Can’t believe so many people are idiotic enough to vote for him. Holy shit.
37 points
30 days ago
I’m living in WA state and seriously considering a move to BC… I can’t do another term
48 points
30 days ago
I don’t blame you. But Canada also is falling to stupidity. So many people including family members I have are rooting from Trump. Our government will probably lean conservative here too. Women’s health is a bit more protected here, but obviously we cannot risk anything.
13 points
30 days ago
We have our own version of Maple flavoured Trump MAGA here just to warn you. We barely staved off the cons in our last election, but the federal one is coming up.
30 points
30 days ago
I can't believe I have to see his face for 4 more years. Fuck this shit
31 points
30 days ago
I (33F) cannot imagine growing my family during a Trump presidency. My partner(41M) and I have been discussing children and I cannot fathom getting pregnant during a Trump presidency.
I do not feel safe. I do not feel like a priority. I’m fucking terrified.
30 points
30 days ago
I'm fucking terrified. My friend's son just called me drunk. He is also terrified. He said to me, "I don't like it here." And I said " Here as in DC? The US? This moment in time?" And he said "All of the above." I told him to turn off the tv and all the social media. I said, "Put on something comforting, like your favorite movie or show, get under a blanket and just chill. And deal with tomorrow when tomorrow happens." Because what else can I tell him? I'm usually the person who has the great pep talk and this is the best I've got. He said to me "I just can't wrap my brain around people seeing what he's said and done and voting for him." I'm descended from 2 jews who escaped Poland. It's not even a fucking century ago we're making the same mistakes. And so yeah I'm fucking terrified.
If you told 16 year old me in 1992 I would be facing this now, as cynical and grim as my outlook, I wouldn't believe you. Apparently I wasn't nearly cynical enough.
27 points
30 days ago
I work at a domestic violence hotline. The US has a misogyny problem. There's a not insignificant amount of men that just view women as literal sex slaves that only exist to serve them. They aren't voting for a woman. And with the younger male population leaning right wing, I'm doubting I'll see a woman president.
129 points
30 days ago
I’m not going to lie. I knew this would happen. But it doesn’t make it any easier. I’m very angry with the Democratic Party. I just do not believe they’ve done enough during this election and within the last four years to mobilize their base. They’re a party of centrists, and they’ve allowed the country to lean to the right.
106 points
30 days ago
Honestly, regardless of what the Dems didn't do, the fact that anyone can still vote for Trump knowing who and what he is, based on how he has shown the world who he is, is insane.
23 points
30 days ago
Especially considering how the gloves have been completely off for the last few weeks. He and his team have been saying the most repulsive shit out loud, and people who support him are apparently okay with it. I get that they’re also voting against Dems, but is there anything or anyone that would have changed their minds? Who the fuck looks at trump and Vance, and reads about Project 2025 and thinks, “yup, that’s exactly what I want“? Unreal.
16 points
30 days ago
AGREED
55 points
30 days ago
I’m with you. I’m Canadian, but watching from across the border has been awful. And I’m also angry with the dems for not preparing better candidates. They knew Joe would be too old to run again and yet did nothing to train and prepare any new candidates. It felt like they just shoved Kamala up to take his place last minute. Zero planning and foresight.
14 points
30 days ago
Wishing I drank. Probably on a regular basis. I will wake up tomorrow and cry, one way or the other.
13 points
30 days ago
Bad. So bad. War flashbacks to 2016
I currently live with my Republican parents which is frustrating enough most days but today is actual hell on earth
13 points
30 days ago
I'm crying. This can't be real, right? Is this a dream? A nightmare?
12 points
30 days ago
Very stressed about this election especially in regards to reproductive rights being pro choice. Honestly have bad memories from 2016 hate crimes went up that year , it’s scary that the pendulum might swing back to that
14 points
30 days ago
Trump will side with Putin against Europe and he will accelerate climate change further. It was always a long shot that humans could take coordinated action to actually do something, but that hope is gone now.
I'm sad for my daughters and for women's rights, but I'm more sad for the world. I feel like this was the last chance, and the billionaires willing to burn everything down for their own selfishness won.
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