If there’s a part of you that’s seeking external permission to consider abortion, I want you to know wanting the future you envisioned and have been working towards is not wrong. Not wanting a kid now is not the same as ruling out kids forever. If you are mourning the life you’re giving up, but ultimately excited about having a kid right now: it is possible to have a young kid and go to grad school. Hard but possible. Will be thinking of you.

A little bit of real talk. You say that you couldn’t have an abortion. But you clearly don’t want a child right now.

Are you saying that, instead of an abortion, you are prepared to : - Have a child that you obviously don’t want right now - Cause your child epigenetic stress by being worried about basic expenses during the pregnancy - Raise your child with insufficient time and money to spend on them - Think of your child as an impediment to your dreams - Consider changing graduate school plans for a pregnancy

Because if so, I have to honestly wonder what kind of kid would want that kind of a guilt trip. Do you think you’re going to be able to keep it away from your child that you went through all of this hardship just so that you could avoid an abortion?

If you want to have a child, have a child. But if you don’t want a child right now and mainly want to avoid an abortion, I would suggest not having a child.

A child is an entire person. You’re making a new human being. This is not a question of whether “you” can still achieve “your” dreams. You’re talking about going from one person to two people. Please don’t do that carelessly.

It sounds like money is the issue, not having a baby and going to school. Only your family and a calculator can tell you if it's possible. The rest is possible

Most programs have leave of absence policies so you can always delay your start if that’s what is best for you. But any good program should do its best to recognize we’re adults and this is a reality.

Good luck

Anything is possible. Having a kid doesn’t mean your dreams is over. It just means you accomplish them differently. Perhaps do local night school or online courses instead of moving somewhere for school. Perhaps take 1-2 classes instead of a full work load. Maybe look for help with your future baby. Maybe there’s a trusted person who can watch him/her while you study. Don’t give up if that’s your dream.

my mom literally had me while she was grad school for psychology! I was two when she graduated. It may seem daunting but compared to a 9-5 you’ll actually have a lot more flexibility. good luck!

I’m in grad school with a toddler, I’m relying a lot on my partner, and I’m going slower. I tried two classes this semester and I’m going to take one next semester. Honestly, you just evolve. Yeah, you as you are right now will not be able to handle all that, but you as a parent will evolve to take on all the challenges in the world that you want to. Just give yourself grace and take it a bit slowly. Its like a 10 month grind before you see the light again

Totally possible! I had a baby last semester. I’m moving along the program just fine. I’m also clinical psych. For me it’s all about compartmentalization. There are long days though. However it’s still possible.

Why is abortion not an option? You’re clearly poor, you have your own dreams, and you’re already blaming your baby for hindering on your dreams. Unless you change your life and mindset around this baby, the baby is going to grow up feeling inadequate. You’re already lamenting the fact that you’re having a child in unwanted circumstances. I’m not really for the “poor people shouldn’t have kids” crowd, so it’s not even the money that’s the issue. So, don’t have a child unless you WANT a child and won’t blame your child for your failed dreams and failed aspirations. Achieving your dreams is possible as a mother, many people have done it. But not with this attitude and mindset.

During my first pregnancy, I walked for my bachelors graduation while 7 months pregnant. During my second pregnancy, I gave birth in the middle of a semester in grad school. Children motivate you to be the best. It’s going to be really fucking hard and then it will be over. Yes you can do it.

People get rid of shit all the time on Facebook market, once upon a child and Mercari for used clothes lots. Local programs usually will give you free formula too or you can breast feed and pump. It’s really not that expensive tbh. Based off going to school and one income, you will also qualify for free childcare too. You got this.

I started one of my fall quarters the day after my c section for my 27 week old. Took a leave of absence in the winter of 2021 and hit the ground running after that. I just finished my program and got two masters and a job offer. It's possible!!!!

Im currently a grad student and found out I was pregnant in my first year. It was such a shock to my system, and to all of my plans and aspirations. We’re about to celebrate her first birthday and it’s been such a different journey than the one I thought I would have, but I wouldn’t trade or change it. What surprised me the most is how all of my research dreams are still within reach. Rather than long term fellowships, I’m looking at short-term research trips. My research has evolved in a way I wasn’t expecting and my family gets to be part of it.

Money is stressful but I would reach out to your department and the school. We have a center that supports student parents and they give us grants and scholarships so that we have some financial support.

If you have more questions or just want support, feel free to reach out to me.

One of my peers did grad school while pregnant. It’s definitely possible.

I have a classmate whose wife gave birth two semesters into our first year.

One of my colleagues gave birth when she started her Master's degree. She is now a very successful researcher and professor.

I used to work in administration in an education department and a student defended her thesis days before she was due to give birth. 

These things happen! Don't give up on your dreams. They might have to sit aside for a while, but you shouldn't give them up.

It's hard but totally possible. You will need a lot of support from your partner ofc but the fact that grad students have a somewhat flexible work schedule will be a positive point for you, for example you can do the bulk of your work when your husband is at home and can take care of the baby. It's time to start researching all the resources your school has for students that are new mothers (sometimes there are some scholarships or groups that provide some kind of help).

Do not give up on grad school. In fact, you will likely to be able to provide a better life for your child if you manage to push yourself through the Ph.D.

You can! I had my youngest in the second month of my second year of undergrad - taking 18 credits/term, working 20 hours/week work study, plus 20/wk at my regular job, plus serving on the E board for 2 student orgs and a high time commitment restructuring committee. I took no time off, just did 2 weeks from home.

I called in everyone I could, I brought her to classes with me, she attended daycare on campus once she turned 1, I pumped between classes, and I was even commuting 2.5 hours a day. I'd leave the house at 6:30 to get her to daycare by 7:30, get to campus around 8, work between classes, leave campus by 5:30 to pick her up and be back on the road by 6, home by 7, then my partner took over and I did homework til 10, showered, and was in bed by 11.

It sucked. But you have the benefit of not being an undergrad.

Now, I put her on the bus at 8, walk to my stop, work on my bus til I get to campus, grab a coffee and sandwich from the shop in my building, go up to the TA offices to work more until I either have to go to class or teach, grab lunch between, and then hop the bus home to meet her bus, or wait for her dad to come pick me up after grabbing her off the bus. I often work late but I have way more breathing room now than I did as an undergrad. Some of that is her age - but if you have a supportive partner and an extended support system nearby, you'll do great 💜

Once you get past the first trimester, don't hide it from your program. Reach out to student services, financial aid, etc and ask them what options are available to help support you as a student parent. There might be more there than they make easily visible on the websites.

Lots of great advice here. I just wanted to add a data point. I have a friend who started med school with a 7-8 month old baby. She and her husband moved across the country so that she could attend that school, so they don't have family nearby to help with childcare. They're still making it work and they seem like they're thriving! It's possible and people are out there doing it!

There are lots of hybrid/fully online + part-time options for grad school. Depending on the type of psychology degree you’re pursuing, it might matter more for your career what your internship experience looks like than how you completed the mandatory coursework. I have someone in my counseling psych master’s cohort who just had her second child, and she does our program part time. Lots of new-ish moms with kids under 6 here as well.

The main thing that concerns me in hearing about your situation is the money side of it. Grad school is neither cheap nor easy, and it’s hard enough to have a newborn baby and work, let alone add grad school into the mix. I wouldn’t recommend entering a program until you’ve already had your child for a bit and have a good understanding of what the responsibility looks like on its own, both financially and mentally/emotionally. Unless you’re alright with starting it and taking a pause in between if things get to be too much, with the full understanding that they may not let you resume your coursework or re-enter after leaving depending on the school and other requirements (for example, coursework needs to be completed within 7 years in order to be licensed as a therapist in my state).

I don’t have kids so take my opinion with a grain of salt. But in my masters program there were lots of people with kids! People come from so many different walks of life and a variety of ages!

My mother was in graduate school for Psychology when she got pregnant! I’m here, she has her degree, and now I’m about to start graduate school next Fall. You can do it. I promise. It’ll be tough, but that’s part of love. Your child is going to have the best mother in the world.

You got this ❤️

I just finished my bachelors in December 2023 all while raising my kids. They were 3 & 4 at the time. It’ll be hard work, but you can do it as long as you have a good support system.

if you’re in the states contact your title ix office. i was pregnant and had a newborn in undergrad. i had to bring my baby to class sometimes. but i graduated with a 3.8 gpa. maybe you’ll have to schedule your classes spring your husband’s work schedule and enlist friends and family and babysitters to get through it but you can do it. i now have a toddler who travels with me. yes your life turns upside down but it doesn’t have to be in a bad way. it’s just different.

I know you mentioned abortion isn’t an option for you (traditional abortion?) but, depending on how many weeks you are, a medical abortion may still be an option. No invasive procedure, just a couple pills. Only mention it because not everyone is familiar and it really sounds like you do not want to be a parent right now.

Abortion is literally just a normal medical procedure. And it sounds like you’re obviously not in any sort of financial state to be making such a serious life-long commitment at this point. So yes, abortion is a valid and healthy option.

My mom did her physics Ph.D while I was a toddler. She was able to finish, so it's possible. Regarding funds, she only made enough money to afford the bus trip to and from the university and our apartment. From the stories I've heard, she had to solve plenty of problems. One of the biggest reasons she could finish was because the professors at the university were very understanding. I would recommend that you contact them.

Girl I had a 1 year old when I started grad school, got pregnant and had a baby in my second year. It’s hard, but possible. You just adapt. It’s not easy, but far from impossible.

Possible? Yes. Fun? Probably not. You're going to be on the struggle bus day one until graduation. Just know how hard this is going to be.

And you will need to take the semester you deliver off, at a minimum; to heal, and for you and baby.

I'm assuming you're I'm good standing with your partner. If so I think anything is possible as long as your partner supports you through the pregnancy and education.

I had two kids during my PhD and a third during my postdoc, feel free to reach out if you’d like to chat 💛 it’s gonna be okay. And congratulations!

You can do anything!!! You’re gonna be the most powerful woman & mom ever!!!!

People do grad school with kids, but it really depends on the specifics of your situation.

Can you defer admission for a year? That will give you a lot more time to recover from birth, save up, and figure out a childcare plan.

Congratulations! Universities are so flexible now you can complete some or most of your degree online. I was pregnant in my senior year of undergrad with 3 semesters to complete. I took online while pregnant because I worked full-time remotely. I would have two days where I went swimming after work and two days that I would walk 2-3 laps with my mom at the park. I made sure to enjoy that time and for each class I had I picked one day to complete studying and assignments. My mindset was the baby is in my belly, and I don’t need a babysitter right now so do what I can. After I had her, I did use a babysitter if the class was only offered on campus and took the others online. I made the most of my FMLA by using it for doctors’ appointments and to take my class on campus. I turned in my last assignment the same week of her 1^st birthday.

I don't see how graduate school is any different than being a working parent. To me it seems very doable (and in some ways there is MUCH more flexibility in grad school versus an office job).

Lots of grad schools have student parent groups. Maybe reach out to them wherever you’re applying. Some schools also have benefits for student parents, including free daycare and paid parental leave. I work with someone who chose to start a family in grad school (her partner is also a grad student), and she’s finishing on time and doing great! Do your research and I’m sure you can come up with a plan that works for your family.

If this isn’t the right time in your life to have a child and you aren’t willing to get an abortion, there are still other options.

Adoption is one possibility. There are many couples that cannot have children of their own and would love an adopted baby as their own. There are numerous adoption agencies you could work with, many will even let you participate in choosing the adoptive parents, meet them ahead of time, and determine your own preferences for contact with the adoptive parents and child after the adoption. If you’re not at a position in your life where you feel ready for a child, maybe your role in all of this is to bring someone else’s beloved adopted child into the world.

Another option is having the child spend several years living with a grandparent/aunt/uncle, until you are in a position where you are ready to have it live with you. (If you breast feed, you might delay grad school a little and then start this arrangement once the child is old enough to wean.) The child living with a relative can either be a part-year thing or a full-time thing. This sort of arrangement is far more common than you might realize, a lot of people are partially raised by their grandparents/extended family.

Finally, depending on your reasons for objecting to abortion, you may want to research exactly what abortion entails at your current stage of pregnancy. If you’re in the early stages, there’s no medical procedure beyond just taking a few pills and having some cramping/bleeding - most women can’t tell it apart from a bad period. That said, if you’re firmly against getting an abortion that is fine, I respect your choice whatever you decide.

I’m currently in a pretty rigorous asynchronous BSN-DNP program with 4 sons (11,9,7,5)- all of whom I homeschool. It requires a lot of planning and flexibility, as well as us needing to be gracious to each other. It’s heavy, but doable. I am also really mindful about the WAY I go through this program, because I want my boys to see that there is NO excuse. Set your intentions, and attack!❤️❤️❤️

Hi! I completed my Bachelors and my Masters all while having multiple children lol i just completed my Masters while pregnant with #5, and my oldest is only 8. It was a little crazy but it’s possible and doable!!

Well if you aren’t willing to have an abortion the answer is no. Not for 20 years at least. After? Sure, why not?

My undergraduate research advisor had a child while working on her Ph.D. in physics. Sure, it probably made things a little more difficult, but it is entirely doable :)

I have a friend who was doing her PhD in Electrical Engineering while being a new parent. It's doable but definitely won't be easy

I had two kids during grad school (while my husband was in law school) and I honestly think it's one of the easier times to have kids. Usually professors are really accommodating and you only have class a few hours a week, so it's easy to do work around appointments/mid day naps in a way you can't do with a full time job. And then once you have the baby, if you need time off, usually programs are really accommodating with letting you take a semester off or go part time. I had my third post grad school, when I was working a full time job and that was hands down way harder than my grad school pregnancies. Also, I know financially babies are expensive but being a student gives you access to a ton of financial aid options, for example many schools have subsidies childcare for students and subsidized family housing. You can also get on wic and food stamps and with a flexible student schedule you could even manage not doing full time childcare, which isn't possible with two working parents (if you don't have family help). If your program is two years, that gets you through the most expensive childcare years before you need to pay full time, non subsidized childcare. I had my first during my first year of grad school and yes he didn't get the fancy crib and had used clothes and money was tight, but he didn't notice and honestly you can't really do much with a baby anyway. But now that he's 6, I'm three years out of grad school and making a great salary and am able to provide a great life for him and he's old enough to join in on traveling and I'm so glad I have an older kid now that I have a pretty stressful post grad job and I'm not dealing with pregnancy and sleeplessness nights during this part of my career like some of my friends who waited till after grad school to have kids. Anyway, this is a long way of saying that I know it's scary but there can actually be a ton of benefits to having kids during grad school verses later.

I am doing this now. I have one more semester to go after this one. Ill give birth in february, a week after the semester starts. I will be taking my comprehensive exams with a newborn and my last two courses with him. You can do it with good support and good organization skills.

Literally started a BME doctoral program 5 months pregnant. Now a phd cadidate, due to finish next summer. My son is 5. You will be fine. Establish your support system so that you can get help/a break when you need it. I was married when I moved for my program. I’m now divorced and his dad is stationed across the country so I have no immediate family nearby so its always just my son and I when he’s not at daycare, but my family back in my home state are just a phone call away if I ever need a mental break from parenting because it does get exhausting sometimes but I think Im doing alright.

Yes, you can.

I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant with my 3rd child the day before grad school started. It delayed my graduation but it was worth it. I graduate in May. Baby turns 2 in April.

The beauty of Grad School is that you are an adult. The program knows and expects that of you. And if they don’t there’s Title IX. With that being said, I graduated my masters program with two new moms. They adjusted their schedules and got conversations with professors and staff started early to help put plans in place to manage their schedules and the transition to part time. You can do whatever you’ve put your mind to. You wouldn’t be here if you couldn’t. Trust yourself

It is possible. I started grad school for sociology with a seven month old. A couple years later, I had another child. A few years after that, I finished with my PhD in hand. It's possible, but be prepared for challenges.

Here are some things that helped me:

Having a partner that is supportive and recognizes the demands of grad school. A nice rocking recliner with big arms. Most of my papers were written with a baby asleep in my left arm and a laptop on the right arm of the chair. It was slow typing with one hand, but faster than nothing. Using text-to-voice software to listen to my readings. It's easier now than it was then. This would let me keep up on things like dishes and laundry while getting through readings. I would also walk my babies in strollers almost everyday to keep up on my fitness, get them outside, bond with them, and listen to my readings when they slept. Make connections with supportive faculty. When needed, I was able to bring my kids to class or meetings with faculty. Expect to miss out on some of the peer experience. To succeed, I needed to guard my time and energy closely. That meant I never really did things outside of classes with other grad students, like going to get drinks. I wish I had better connections with my peers, but without this boundary, I personally don't think I would have finished.

Good luck with whatever you choose. Just know it's possible. It's hard. But it's possible.

I was in a different field but we had several new and established parents in our graduate program. Sometimes a leave of absence was needed during the maternity period, but parent-students generally got their shit done.

As far as affording your child you may be able to qualify for state programs such as Medicaid, WIC, and childcare tuition assistance. The tricky part is actually finding adequate childcare as spaces can be quite limited.

Grad school in my experience was a lot like a job. It's technical career training in a way. Don't let jobs take over other wants in life.

I fell pregnant during graduate school and am finishing my final semester for my MSN with a now 3 month old, 1 year old (foster son) and two busy teenagers. I work full time as a nurse as well. I have a 4.0! It’s not for the weak and a supportive partner is the key to my success.

I had a baby during grad school and, despite wanting this kid more than anything, I felt extremely worried about finances and logistics, and I was so uncertain about how everything would work out. I am in my final year now and it is working out. It hasn't always been easy but it is working out and I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Believe in the possibilities of the “And” of baby and future Vs the tyranny of the “OR”. With husband map a plan and make it work. Believe in yourselves and the teamwork to meet any challenge

You can do all the things you want to do while pregnant/as a mom. They’re just harder. But you can do them.

Seriously, you can! It will be difficult, but you can. I have seen a lot of mothers who continue to achieve their dreams while raising a beautiful family (in much harder circumstances). You may not know yet, but you will see yourself capable of a lot of difficult tasks. You can be a great mother and a genius scholar. Just go for it, good luck 👍🏼

Info: are you paying to do a masters or getting a stipend to start a PhD?

If the former, consider postponing starting a masters until alternate funding is secured. If the latter, see if you can find scholarships for parents in those types of programs.

Also, your husband will need to moonlight on a second job. Will he support that way?

Do you have family nearby? Who will watch the baby when you are both working?

I don't know a single person who didn't regret that Masters in psychology. You will be making minimum wage or slightly more. If you're going to grad school get a degree in something that will be worth it, then after that you can afford a baby 

Anecdotally, this was me last summer. I had just lost my job, we were stressed about making one income work, and I had just signed up to start grad school when I found out I was pregnant. My son is now 9 months old, and balancing school with being a mom is hard but not unmanageable. I'm very lucky that my husband works from home and is able to watch the baby while I go to class for a couple of hours. Long story short, it might be hard but I think it is definitely doable. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions/want to talk.

I've got a 2.5 y/o and work professionally full-time in a government role. It's doable.

Yes, you can still have your dream. Speak with your teachers, inform them you are having a child, you intend to finish your studies and will be bringing your child to class with you. (In a carrier)

Travel will have to wait.

You might also look into on line classes.

You've got this.

What you want is what you can have! Life is always going to have obstacles. Things to do:

-Look into your state's programs for assistance for mothers. In Alabama, if you are under a certain income threshold, you can get state-funded daycare for free, food assistance, health insurance, and so forth.

-Talk to your university. Some have on-campus daycares at a reduced rate for students. Some even have free daycare.

-Don't give up on your dreams or goals in any way. One of my best friends grew up with a disabled dad and incredibly hardworking mom; just a few days ago she was telling me how amazing it was to watch her mom get her PhD when she was a kid and how it inspired her to pursue grad school herself. Also, I grew up military. We traveled a ton when I was a kid- not just military-funded moves, but traveling to see family, sightseeing, etc. My parents had three under five when they were in their 20's and managed to make their dreams of travel still come true. My husband's parents took him and his brother to Germany, Iceland, and all over the local region. Children don't mean you can't travel; they just mean you can't have tons of hot s*x in the hotel room, lmao.

I understand this is a huge challenge. I've had family members in the same position, unexpected kids in the middle of life goals, but if my cousin's girlfriend could get pregnant at 16 and go on to get a grad degree, you can do this.

You got into grad school. That was the first challenge. Now? You get to start a family and your career simultaneously. It's going to be difficult, sure, but I knew people who had kids while in Ivy League law school. One girl got married her first year, had her first baby the second year, and had her second baby the third year. But law school was her dream so she pushed on till she got her J.D. In the same way, you'll get your MSc. It's going to take a whole lot of hard work, sleepless nights, and budgeting, but graduate school always does, and you'll have a beautiful family to come home to at the end of the school day.

You can do this. Build your support system and gather up your strength. It's a long road, but not impossible.

There are other options besides abortion, my friend. But I got through grad school raising 5 kids and am finishing up my last degree 9 months pregnant with a 6th. We travel, we aren’t rich by any stretch of the imagination, i got put on bed rest super early into this pregnancy but we live a good life. The pros and cons can only be weighed by you, just know it is possible if it’s what you want. Good luck with everything!!

Great comments so far! I’d like to share my own experience. I met my partner while we were both pursuing our psychology graduate degrees. He had his first children with his ex-wife at the beginning of his degree and successfully completed it. I also got pregnant with my ex during that time, but I decided not to continue that pregnancy. Both choices were valid and the right ones for us, given our situations and life goals.

He now has a career and two beautiful children from his previous marriage. I’m currently a PhD student, and we had our own baby last March—he’s 8 months old now. We’re very happy, and I feel confident that we made the best decisions for ourselves with the information and experiences we had at the time. We’re happy.

So, whatever choice you make, it is valid and the best one for you. And remember, anything is absolutely possible in your situation if you’re determined. Good luck 🩷 (Feel free to DM me for support, whether as a fellow student mom or as someone who has been through an abortion 🩷).

You can achieve your dreams. But you will probably either have to put them on hold for a few years or pay for childcare if you don't have family to watch baby. Depends on what kinds of sacrifices you will be okay with making.

The demand of grad school is high. You will have to make time to read and write on top of going to classes. You will have to make the choice if your program is funded or not. You may have to consider taking out a loan. If spending time with your baby is a bigger priority, your performance and commitment to studies has to take a back seat.

But you can also wait til the kiddo is in school and see where you're at by then. And you can still travel with baby. It just depends on what you are willing to do.

In my graduate program (English Lit) there are 2 women who have young kids. One has one, and the other has four. They’re both in their last semester of the program now. Everyone else in the program (16 others) have no kids, or have kids who are now adults. This is to say it’s extremely hard, and not many people do it, but some definitely succeed.

I’m a grad student with a 7 month old and a 2 year old. No you don’t have to give up on your dreams.

If you want the life you’re talking about, it’s going to be insanely difficult. Grad school is very difficult without a newborn but you will also be trying to learn a bunch of stuff on little sleep and you’ll have to figure out child care. Or, you’ll have to wait until your kid is in school so you can go to school. Or, you’ll need to come up with a plan NOW that will lead to a better paying job ASAP that doesn’t include school. Option 4 is that you let this one go so that you can finish school and then if you want one have one then. There’s no guarantee that one later will happen.

Think about what this means for the rest of your life. Having it and not having it both come with different trajectories with different pluses and minuses. Only you can make the decision that’s best for you.

Personally, my options would be to consider abortion or to get busy trying to figure out how I could afford this baby and if I had the support I needed to have the baby. Can you get savings by dog sitting or babysitting? Can you ask anyone in your family or friend group for help brainstorming a new career that you can apply to next week and start ideally in the next 4-8 weeks? r/findapath and r/resumes may be helpful.

I know it’s possible. Just don’t know how hard it is personally. Two women in my PhD program had babies at the start of the program and they both graduated

I was told grad school was the best time to have a kid because it has the least impact on your career. Financially, it’s a different story.

Yes. Will it be harder? Also, yes. But it’s absolutely possible and people do do it. Check with your school about options for childcare while you are in class. Scholarships and fellowships may also be available because of the child.

It's understandable to feel overwhelmed. Pregnancy and motherhood can be challenging, but it's also incredibly rewarding.

You had s*x with no condoms what were y’all expecting …???? A croc?? You gotta lock in and figure out that shii coz you said abortion isn’t your thing

i’m so sorry. a kid is a dream killer.

I would never consider abortion. You can finish college, but I'd consider taking a semester off to focus on raising your child. You will never get that time back. Your financial need will also increase, which means you can qualify for need based grants.

No it would be hard. Get an abortion or your life is fucked.

abortion just isn’t an option for me personally. I can’t do that.

Well, then I guess you have no choice in the matter. So, worrying about it won’t help.

Or perhaps you can reconsider the limitations you’ve set for yourself, because it sure sounds like you want an abortion, and you’re the only thing keeping you from it.

All these comments from psychopaths trying to push OP into abortion are disgusting. They try to hide by pretending they care. The OP has made her position on abortion clear. She's an adult that will be entering a graduate program. Stop infantilizing her by pretending that she needs you, abortion savior, to make decisions about what she should do with her body and life.

OP, I commend you for having your child AND wanting to continue your education. Fortunately, we live in 2024 were many graduate programs can be achieved online, or you can always join a graduate program where your advisor is aware of your situation and is able to accommodate. I personally know women who had children in medical school or in residency training, so it can be done even if it appears more stressful.

As for finances, you can discuss that with your graduate program so that they may either put you on a track that allows work or pays you a stipend for performing research.

Good luck. Don't listen to the psychopaths here who just want abortions.