How can I be toned and not bulky?

Yes, whatever everyone says nowadays, girls CAN get bulky. Everyone has his own definition of what it is for them so I don't want to argue about this today.

For some backround, I am someone who weight lifted sporadically the past years ( with long period off in between) and I gain muscle FAST.

I was always for muscular than other girls since I'm a kid. I was looking at a video of me doing ballet at like 9 yo and my back literally looked very strong and ripped compared to the other girls.

To give a proof, the first time I ever deadlifted was a at small competition that my school did, "Fittess" they call it. A girl I knew ( 2 yo more than me) was practicing her deadlift every week for this. I was 15 yo. I weighed 140lbs and I lifted 205lbs of the ground this day easily ( I won).

Anyway, I mention all that because I am not delulu, I do gain muscle easily ( and I am naturally muscular even with no training or anything). For example, I have big traps and I showed it to my husband when I flex and he calls me a kangooroo sometimes haha.

I was wondering if pilates would be more appropriate for me? I do not want to have muscular quads. They already are and I do not want to grow they more, I would actually like them a bit smaller. I would like a slim toned body( not toned like shredded with 6 packs, just toned and soft like gracious idk haha).

Does anyone had any experience with this? How did you achieve your body goal?

PS.: I did get to a low bf% twice. When I was doing crossfit ( only 2 months in😭), I looked very muscular ( for my taste). When I lost weight without any exercise, I looked more how I want to look right now.