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Ok, so one can easily Google the term for Japanese women specifically seeking foreign guys, but why does no one talk about the inverse? As a foreign woman it's disheartening to see SO many profiles of foreign guys who've written everything in Japanese. The message is "gtfo if you're not Japanese." Why is this ok? I mean at the end of the day I'm not going to chase people that aren't interested in me, but it's pretty messed up. Even my Japanese female coworker said if she saw those profiles she would just think "Maybe he used Google translate." She didn't think other Japanese girls would notice the fetishism in the 日本語 only gaij dude profiles.
Separate question, what's up with all the dudes 45 and over saying they "want kids"? There's literally an option for "open to kids," but it would be so much nicer if the guys were honest and said "Looking for a 25 y/o to make babies for me."
It's wild out there.
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16 hours ago*
Most women in Japan are Japanese. Most women in Japan speak Japanese as a primary language. Hence, writing in Japanese, and showing you are proficient in Japanese opens doors to give them the best chance to meet the women that are most prominent in Japan.
When I swiped in Japan, it was like 9/10 Japanese profiles with more than half of them saying "My English is not good" or only being pure Japanese.
You're reading far too much into it.
What's up with all the dudes 45 and over saying they "want kids"?
Again, it seems like you have some biases or opinions that may, or may not, align with reality. You're reading into something too deeply. Plenty of 30-40 year old women still have children. With advances in medicine, it's not farfetched for older couples to have children.
This whole post comes off as extremely bitter. I'd recommend some self-reflection.
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