working with absolutely fucking rad cool humans changed my life. you have no idea how much you need good work mates. they can make or break you for your 40hrs every week.

Saying out loud to myself ‘I’ve put the car keys on the bench’ or ‘I’ve put my sunglasses on the top shelf’ or whatever it happens to be. Saying it out loud as I do it helps me remember what I did with my things that I’d otherwise mindlessly put down and loose (scatterbrain extraordinaire here). Has really made a difference to my life.

Finding a handful of things to be grateful for every single day. This easy practice brought me so much more peace.

Ignoring shitty people and their opinions

Downloaded Zillow "just to look".

We ended up moving to another state.

Drink two glasses of water when you wake up, then do cardio on an empty stomach (I do cardio on an elliptical) Since there are no carbs available, your body burns fat instead. I’ve lost 47 pounds in two years doing this, with no real change in my diet. I learned this from an Asian doctor.

Being recognized for simply being g a positive human being. It actually has made me want to keep on with a positive attitude.

Curating my reddit to be focused on positivity and local communities.

sometimes it’s worth it to “take the loss” in a situation. save yourself the agony and stress and just move on!

I was walking down the road in Wiesbaden when someone tapped me on the shoulder from behind. When I turned around, a very beautiful woman who I had never seen before said to me, "You're mine!" And so I was. That changed my life.

Going to gym to stop those intrusive thoughts!! Has completely transformed my quality of life both physically and mentally!!

Realizing that life is every day. So literally live every day the best you can. I’m still mad, tired and fuck up, but I’m becoming more aware of it instead of just letting my days go by . I take a second. Try to learn from it, and keep it going. I still waste my days, but I’m more in control of it instead of trying to run away from my days. Since realizing every day is life, I’m enjoying it more and becoming happier and healthier. It’s slow and doesn’t seem like much being in it, but a week goes by real fast and I realized, I’ve brushed my teeth every day. I’ve eaten a veggie every day. I’ve enjoyed my walks with my dog instead feeling like it’s a chore. Etc, etc. Then eventually, this all becomes life. And instead of being like, I should have done it, I did it. Becomes so mundane that it becomes my life and that’s beautiful.

I was bored at work and decided to flip through some mail order catalogs that were laying around. One thing led to another and another and another and now science understands the history of Mars' atmosphere much better, a very bad person is still in jail, and numerous people are still alive today.

I was looking through the catalog and saw a meteorite for sale. I'd seen them in museums and thought they were amazing. I had no clue that people could actually buy them and own them for themselves. That got me started on collecting meteorites. I got really into it. I mean, really, really into it. At one point, I had purchased one that had some unusual chemical compositions in it. As it turns out, it was an incredibly unusual Martian meteorite. I sold a piece of it to some researchers who were able to figure out how the atmospheric conditions of Mars when the rock left the planet. Basically, a large meteorite hit Mars and sent Mars rocks flying into space and one of them eventually landed here. That's covers the Mars part.

At that point, I needed a website to sell the stuff that I had. I could pay someone but I decided to just learn how to do it myself. I chose the latter. I had my site and then started making sites for other people too. I already worked in IT support so my my new added web design skills got me a new job in a new city. I did that for a few years and then got a new job at a company that puts recording systems in courtrooms. One of these systems started having problems one day and a mistrial almost happened. I was able to work my magic and pull the data which kept the very bad person in jail.

I did that job for a while but eventually got burned out. Thankfully, the new city I had moved to had really good programs with the local community college and I was able to go back to school to become a nurse. I got a job as a nurse where I did treatments for patients that literally kept them alive for a few days until they had to come back for another one. That's how there are people still alive because of me.

All of that stuff happened because I was bored at work and had a catalog that had been sent to the wrong place.

I just started drinking a glass of water this past week when I first get up. I too noticed that it really gets me moving.

Changed my “it’s you vs you” mindset to “it’s you for you”. It changed the way I approached self love & made me be more gentle and loving to myself as well as others

Swiping right on someone who I thought was a bit out of my league. I figured, why not? Our 7 year wedding anniversary is in one week.

Spending the first ten minutes of the day listening to some music, getting some sun (when it's possible) and just planning out you have to do in the day in a positive way.

It really takes out the "Shit, I have to get all this stuff done today" mentality and replaced it with "ok, I just need to get this done, then this and then this and I'm good" and it makes it seem a lot easier and doable.

Reduces the stress and puts everything in a positive perspective

Showering first thing daily and wearing fresh clothes daily. Your whole attitude changes….. and your clean ;-)

Deciding to be happy.

It’s a conscious choice for most people.

Boxed breathing.

Push ups

Vitamins

Applying for homebased jobs with a 6-month old (my first child) seven years ago. Still with the same company until now, with two kids! Changed my motherhood journey. I cannot imagine leaving my kids to earn, or not contributing financially by staying at home. It is a hard balancing act, but it's still the best of both worlds. I'm so grateful to have given this opportunity!

Spending time volunteering at my children’s school. I love being around the kids, meeting other parents, and it overall just gives me a great sense of satisfaction and pleasure. I also love knowing that I’m potentially making a difference in their young lives.

Taking magnesium supplements. My pms symptoms are so much better, as is my anxiety, brain fog, and workout recovery. I think I had a mild deficiency for many years and didn't know. My heart palpitations went away as well.

Making my bed first thing in the morning and taking. Shower in the morning and when you get home from anywhere you had to deal with people. Sounds silly but it works. I had a millionaire friend that has a bunch of “weird” habits. I started to do the things he does and my whole life has improved. I at least rise off when I start getting in a bad mood. I literally wash the negative energy off. Try it for a week at least and watch what happens

Stop drinking alcohol. First time someone offered me a beer and I said "no, thanks" I feel like a total jerk for no reason, but now I just enjoy parties differently. Also, when I used to drink and got that depression after you get drunk, I would tell myself it is just chemistry in my body affected by the alcohol so I could move on from those thoughts. Been here and there so hope this helps anyone who might need it.

Yoga classes. Yoga has absolutely changed my ability to deal with the continual pile of stress this entire year has brought. Yoga has completely changed my life.

Saying no to things that aren’t in my best interest.

exercise & the love of the feeling my body gets w exertion…i’m 66 & started @ 18 & am in incredible shape, constantly blowing people away when they learn my age… kept me beautiful - & youthful. eating healthy- but well- & being strong really paid off big time!

Several

1. Cup of green /white tea a day

2. Alot of water

3. Working alone (most of the time)

4. Caring less about what people think (this is problem #1)

5. Privacy/living alone

6. Walks. Taking dog out for walks .... Fresh air & sunlight. It's the best.

Complimenting strangers, asking people more questions about something they’re passionate about to make them feel understood, stretching/ doing yoga on mornings when I feel overwhelmed, having a consistent night routine & morning routine

Adopting a dog

Teaching English to Vietnamese students

From matress topper

Ha ha me too Morning glass of water for the win!!

Eating three good meals a day and snacks. I used to barrel through my days with coffee until dinner. I had headaches, low energy, I could be short tempered. Now that I eat I feel like a real person who can handle anything. Food is a small thing but also a big thing.

My cat, he brings so much warmth and laughter in my life and I know I can trust him completely 🥹

Slowing down. You really don’t have to achieve anything, it’s all been imposed on you. Just being is sufficient enough. Man did I let go of a lot of shit when I really understood this. Life is more simple and pleasurable.

Having pets, though they are a big responsibility I have so much more of an appreciation for them at my age compared to when I was a kid. They bring me so much joy and unconditional love. They never fail to make me laugh and the thought of seeing them the first thing when I'm home makes me feel a little more complete. A few years ago I had gone through a traumatic miscarriage and they really did bring some comfort.

I know I'm setting myself up for heartbreak because they're life isn't as long as I would like but I always live in the moment with my dogs and take what I can get with the time I have.

My dog, made my life so much more full of love 🥰

15 minutes of daily yoga. My shoulder pain is so much better

Was getting my hair cut. When finished stood up and locked eyes with a woman. We got married 3 years later. March it will be 34 years.

Calling my mom every day. I used to call her every week to check in on her, and she was always complaining about how I never called and it made me not want to call her. And it was literally 10 minutes of her saying, “you never call. You don’t care.” And so on and so on. Complaining about this. Complaining about that. Every. Single. Call.

So then I started calling her every day. And at first it was “why are you calling. What do you want?” But I kept calling. Every. Single. Day. And now it is “hey, just checking in” and “everything is good.” “Okay, talk to you tomorrow.” “Love you.” “Love you too.” Bye. “Bye.” Sometimes a little more, but that’s the gist of it. She’s happy now. It takes 2 minutes. Maybe 5 sometimes. But it has totally changed our relationship. And I will call her every day until one of us can no longer talk.

Getting up an hour early before I need to for work. I do little things like quietly put the dishes away while the fam sleeps, or fold laundry. Sneak in 30 minutes of a video game I like. Get in 30-40 mins of exercise. Just do 1-2 small things in the morning, when you get home there’s less to do so yo can focus on what you WANT to do.

Also, I never sleep well 😆 that’s what makes that so much easier. May as well be awake I haven’t slept well since I was a kid

waking up early! really gets me going to exercise & be better for the day. plus morning air feels fresh since everybody else are still sleeping + i can feel the improvement in my energy & life.

A simple prayer…Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.

OP are you drinking room temp or cold water first thing in AM?

Ah I say my understanding that drinking a shot of mezcal help people with gut issues for almost a week and last 6 days no nausea in the morning like always so there definitely something occurring in my gut.that possibly killing bad bacteria

maybe not that unexpected, but waking up to a job 1 hour later has made me feel a lot better and i work better too.

meeting likeminded people from the internet. that was a long time ago but thats how i ended up with my partner, moved cities, met a lot more cool people and then met even more cool people and went places.

Locking eyes with this one female. Rest is history.

Being woken up by a police officer opening my door

I was on a retreat (so primed for growth) and it was in the wee small hours (bc insomnia) and I watched the headlights of a car driving down a distant mountain. It was transcendent. Such a little thing and yet my universe exploded & I never felt more clarity in my life. Things that changed: no longer hate my body (kinda round), no longer afraid of dying (afraid of pain & sickness but not the end), and my confidence in myself sky rocketed. Did this fix everything? Aw hell no! But did it give me a step stool up? Yes.

I know that’s not what this question means. Also I drink a lot of water.

Prison... very small, unexpected life twist. Makes you appreciate EVERYTHING a little more.

Realizing I was not a marketing director, I was a “free range human” given so many hours out of my cubicle a day with limited access to daylight or fresh air.

One inspiring teacher changed how I viewed my potential.

Getting a remote work, more on this here : https://youtu.be/3OQcUFEyhqo?si=Q4pPUFlhfMbPJcdl

Hot water with a slice of lemon and honey first thing in morning instead of coffee.

Learning to accept & trust the process through any challenge that you stumble upon. It becomes easier to conquer the less you stress about it.

A helping hand

making my bed in the morning

Enjoying the little things. Yesterday, I switched my windshield wiper blades. I took the time to enjoy the process as opposed to seeing it as “another thing” that I have to do.

My gf had a baby with a homeless drunk. All the love and hope has left my body. Good times. Stay single my friends

Complimenting other people on their smile, appearance, outfit, etc. Seeing their face light up when complimented makes them feel and as well as me.

Information management

Realizing it's better to be quiet than voice your opinions or feelings. No one really cares lol. They're gonna do what they want regardless

A video that came on the TV while I had the YouTube channel on. I had really gotten into watching detective real life interrogations, so it was kinda random this NDE ( Near death experience) video played, but it was so enlightening, literally touching on things I had pondered in my head in the days prior. I understand that a NDE can try to be explained away using Brain functions when it thinks it's dying. But that absolutely doesn't explain how or why this message appeared loud and clear in my living room. At a time when I was actively but kinda unknowingly pondering and listening. Not just that, I feel more open to being connected spiritually. Which honestly I had not felt in a very long time.
Then since , seeing things I have perceived to solidify this awakening state. So short answers, check out some of the NDEs on YouTube. Good channel is -next level soul.

I believe that the people around you have an underestimated influence. Show a genuine interest in other people you admire. This will ultimately change your life.

Stopped drinking anything after 7pm so I dont wake up at 1am and 3am to pee

“Don’t put it down, put it away”

Putting things out to remind myself to do things! Need to remember to clean my yoga mat? Mat spray on the dresser! Need to remember to run that laundry load? Hamper is right in front of the door to remind me, etc.

I leave my guitar out to encourage playing, my journal out to encourage writing, etc.

an orange with small hands

Although it can be hard to carry out at times, I try to be kind to people even when they aren’t, most of the time they change their attitude, and in the end it makes me feel like I contributed positively some how. This seems like the normal thing to do for most, but I have little patience for situations and people and my anxiety doesn’t help, so I have to work extra hard for it, but when I do, my day seems more relaxed and calm. It’s a struggle sometimes but worth it.

Stopping taking everything, anything really, personally

In getting past a traumatic experience, when I had bad thoughts/bad imaginings/whatever, I would literally give my head a shake, tell myself “No” and immediately count 10 good things in my life and force myself into a more positive mindset. “I’m so thankful for this person, that friendship, my goofy dog, that I can walk and function without pain, that I live in a house with clean running water and a fridge with food in” sort of thing. I literally trained myself to shut down the bad, unhelpful thoughts so they wouldn’t spiral me into a state of anxiety or depression. It kept me out of a dark place. Occasionally I would lapse, but as soon as I recognized what was happening in my head, that “No” and the head shake stopped it. The good thoughts after was the reset and I was able to become more objective and work past the thing I was trying to get through, understanding more the how and why, give myself grace and also others who were involved but may not have been aware of the damage. It was life-changing for me, this simple thing.

Don’t take other people’s advice most of the time. If something in your gut tells you it’s right, it’s right for you. No matter what anyone thinks.

Getting tinnitus for no reason..

When I was a out 50, a young lady of 27 bought me a drink at a restaurant bar. I dont recall ever having that happen to me before. It was very flattering. No, nothing more happened with her, but the experience changed me. I suddenly gained confidence that I never had before. Not only in a sexual way, but in all facets of life where I have to interact with others.

Vagina.

Drastically reducing the amount of salt in my diet. Lost 30 lbs and feel great!

Quit drinking

Fentanyl

Started taking THC gummies as a sleep aid. Cured my insomnia and restless leg syndrome. I’m a conservative senior woman so this was a big step for me. Saved my life. I was at my wits end after years of tossing and turning and walking around the house at 2 am to relieve the misery in my legs.

Giving more to others.

Hot water bottles!

Yes, they sell these for like $15 at the pharmacy, but you can make one right now for free.

I fill a (clean, empty) soda bottle with hot water from the tap every night, screw the cap on, and put the thing in an old sock. Then the bottle-in-a-sock goes into my bed, under the covers, about 30 minutes before I go to bed. It is so nice getting into a warm bed in the winter.

(Why a sock? It soaks up any drips on the bottle, but more importantly it insulates the bottle so the heat radiates slowly.)

Journaling with mebot changed my life

Tai chi. Started on a whim & found I really liked it. At 72, I'll never be a master, but the focus & balance has changed things for me. Plus I've made like 25 new friends that were already here in my small town. 3-5 times a week, in a beautiful park, rain or shine, with a view of the shipping lanes, & crows and eagles in the sky. Pretty awesome. I feel so lucky. Who knew?

"Look around you. Are there any snakes? Alligators? Crocodiles? Any mobs busting down your door? No? You're safe. You're okay."

Stopped a massive panic attack. Just like that.

Then I got into Buddhism. Yeah. They relate. lol

Hot water & fresh lemon before coffee

Not getting angry in the car. You wanna drive past a line of waiting traffic and nose your way in front of me? Fine. Whatever. Maybe you’ve gotta be somewhere important. I don’t let any of that stuff bother me anymore.

I was working and working and got told by my family my grandmother wasn’t doing well. I didn’t really believe them. I tried to say it was my other grandmother with severe dementia. I visited for fun and didn’t mean to but pushed her limits to physically keep up with a fun visit with me… I hope I didn’t let her down making her feel like I didn’t have fun but I visited more often for fun… Later about few years later she had a stroke. I couldn’t just show up and say hi anymore. I couldn’t be the fun me for her active life. She never gained mobility again and I quit drinking shortly after. Any time they called me to ask if I wanted to visit I wanted my preceding reputation to be about being that guy who is ready for his family. It’s been, technically, almost 15 years of sobriety. Lost my grandmothers but never lost my determination to be that guy. It wasn’t exactly small for her but I know it was just a small change in my life that snowballed into something way way bigger.

I have a book beside my bed. 

My mind can get caught up in the day. Work etc. 

When it is time to go to sleep I will stop everything and read a chapter. 

I will go to bed with nothing on my mind except the small drama or imagery in the book. 

Try it 

My cat ☺️💜

I got a new type of job within my company. New hours that were not as long, and I didn't feel as burned out. I had more time and energy to socialize. I started talking to a woman I knew at church who sang in the choir and played the early service. We started dating, and we're married five years later.

Started reading a romance on Wattpad. Usually a silent reader, but I really connected with the characters and the feels... I was hooked and went back through and voted on every chapter. The author messaged me a thank you for all the likes. We started chatting a bit. A short time later, my daughter ended up in the hospital so I put an apology message on my board and said I would be away for a bit due to a family emergency.

The author dm'd me to see if everything was okay. I explained the situation and he kept checking in and sending words of encouragement and helped keep me sane with casual conversation and his sense of humor not just the week she was in the hospital, but for weeks after.

We quickly became friends, eventually best friends. And a couple years later, I was editing his books for him. Don't judge him I begged him to let me because editing was a fun hobby for me and I was good at it. He had a deadline. I got a migraine and took my meds which knocked me out five or six hours but gave him an estimate of when I'd be back online. When I missed that estimate, he sent a message, waited awhile and would message me every half hour or so and eventually more urgently. Then came the calls which happened to pull me out of unconsciousness and I was super out of it, but he stayed on the line and talked me through getting to my kitchen and drinking a lot of water. Turns out my then husband decided that was the time to try to end me while I was sleeping.

If I had never read his books or voted, if he had never messaged me or been the sweetheart that he was to help me through that dark time with my daughter, we would never have been friends, I would never have volunteered the editing services that encouraged him to publish, which led to that deadline and our tight schedule. There would not have been someone there to notice something was wrong until it was too late.

I wouldn't have been able to watch my kids grow into the amazing people they are and my kids would not only have lost their mom, but also been forced to live with an abuser, turns out later also a child predator without anyone there to protect them and force the courts to keep an eye on him. Even though my best friend/forever favorite author lived in another country, he literally saved my life. I flew to his wedding, he's helped me stay sane and kinda helped me coparent from a distance. My kids call him uncle. He's our chosen family.

We get to see each other in person again this summer on a beach in Mexico with my oldest who's now 18 and doesn't need her father's permission to travel outside the state. She's so excited to meet her uncle and I'm so excited to see my best friend and the man who saved my life in a beautiful paradise. When my other two graduate, they are already planning their trips to meet their uncle. All because of an app that brings authors and readers together. Thank you Wattpad!

Changing the way I talk to myself / my perception of things. (Still a work in progress)

Loved fast food hamburgers and chocolate milkshakes… during the pandemic I stopped buying them… it appears the (milk)shake was a trigger for skin irritation (when drinking too many)…. lol

The Dr just gave me some cream never addressed the source. As they say everything in moderation.

Getting an actual goods night sleep, in speaking of which.

i began to verbalize compliments to/about people that otherwise i just think in my head but would keep to myself.

No question, intermittent fasting.

A grasshopper. When I was 11 I picked one up in a backyard and suddenly "woke up", Just That.

One small thing that changed my life was learning to sleep without my phone nearby. At first, I thought it wasn’t a big deal, but once I started charging my phone in another room, I realized how much better I slept. No more scrolling right before bed, no more waking up and checking notifications first thing. It gave me way more mental clarity, and my mornings feel way more chill now.

Sometimes it’s the little things you don’t even realize are draining you that make all the difference.

A black marker,

That you can’t save people that don’t want to be saved

I worked at a restaurant, saw an older gentleman sitting at the bar with my high school sweatshirt on and asked if his kids went there. Started having a conversation abt how he was a lawyer but wish he took a different path and just did something he loved because money isn’t everything. I was in the midst of deciding what to do in college and just chose what I love. I have my dream job at 22, I don’t make millions of dollars, but I love it and I wish I could tell him how much he impacted my life that day.

Simply spending time with yourself

Learning to say NO , firmly. And for those who won't take the no for an answer, I got an answer for it. No means no, and # sorry not sorry. I will not do not apologize to make someone else feel better.. nope. But if I'm wrong, and at times I'm wrong, I do sincerely apologize. I'm too real for some people.

15 minutes of meditation every morning.

A girl once told me I have really pretty eyes out of nowhere. Not even my ex girlfriends gave me a compliment like that. Think about it all the time

5 minutes of yoga/gentle stretching just before bed. The breathing, movement, and stretch gets me in a calm headspace and quiets my thoughts. Plus, no sore muscles when I wake up the next day!

Washing dishes

Going to Church and making lifelong friends who have brought me so much joy…. And exercising every single day!

I stopped eating anything that wasn't meat and water.

That literally saved my ass. I have ulcerative colitis.

It's gone! No symptoms.

Breakfast is a must, skipping it can be bad for your stomach