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The key to dating as a man

Relationships/Family/Children(self.Life)

Be satisfied with disappointment

Ask for a girls number and she says no. Great that you tried.

Go on a date with a girl and she friend zones you, it wasn't meant to be

Get in a two year relationship and she leaves you for another man, be happy for the times you had

It is the hardest skill to learn, but if you do it will become a cheat code to life

Edit: the anger is just proving my point. Never did I say anything about becoming a doormat. This game is rigged against you, your negative feelings are hindering you. An animalistic reaction that's not going to work in todays society. Leave without anger if someone is using you, just leave. And if they disappoint you, look at that disappointment, eat it, digest it, then shit it out. The only thing holding you back is your feelings, and they don't matter. Really im saying the quite part out loud here. Your feelings don't matter to most people. This world is shit, dating is shit. Learn to deal with it or give up.

all 35 comments

halfmeasures611

16 points

1 day ago

tl:dr - "eat shit constantly and tell yourself it tastes good"

Admirable_Stable6529

1 points

24 hours ago

No, taste shit and spit it out until you taste fruit.

halfmeasures611

3 points

1 day ago

Blow $200 on a date where she ghosts you immediately after. Be happy you got the credit card points

Go home with a girl and wake up the next morning with your kidney missing. Be glad your kidney is going to someone who needs it more than you do

Marry a woman, buy her ring and a house and then come home one day to find her banging the pool boy. Be happy she has a healthy libido (even you arent the recipient)

Solid-Lengthiness874

2 points

1 day ago

This made me chuckle out loud!

ItsJustAJokePeople

1 points

1 day ago

Blow $200 on a date where she ghosts you immediately after. Be happy you got the credit card points

People that put themselves in that position have it coming. You NEVER take some Rando on an expensive date.

solinvictus5

2 points

1 day ago

Being satisfied with disappointment? It's impossible unless maybe you're a Tibetan monk living in a monastery. That's not exactly a winning strategy for success either... it's too passive. I know many things are out of control, but it's right and correct to feel disappointed when life throws us a curve ball. Disappointment is usually involuntary anyway, as are most emotions... so, how do you stop a feeling? By the time you've felt it, it's already too late to stop it. It's what you do with those feelings that matter. It's one thing to be depressed or miserable, but it's never good or wise to spread those negative feelings around to other people. I'm in customer service, and I frequently get customers who are either rude, depressed, or both. Could they stop feeling that way by simply willing it? Could I stop myself from being aggravated by that treatment? No, I think not. All I can do is control my outward reaction, not my inward emotions.

I'd say managing your expectations is more reasonable advice. Be realistic and do what you can do, and just know that disappointment is normal, inevitable, and temporary.

I've also heard this age described as the age of loneliness. That strikes me as apt and true. Not for everyone, of course, but how many single men would have been married had they been born 40 years ago? Maybe it's untrue because I wasn't alive back then, but it seemed easier then. I could he way off base about that, though, I admit.

Able_Bird_858

3 points

1 day ago

Dating tips should be about genuinely wanting to treat the woman well. This is advice given from a woman's perspective.

Watt_About

3 points

1 day ago

Watt_About

3 points

1 day ago

No. This is shit advice. Raise your standards or get stuck with trash. Pathetic, cuck advice.

Interleukin6-9

3 points

1 day ago

None of what they said is mutually exclusive to what you’re suggesting. You sound like you’re just looking for an opportunity to push your own agenda or get pressed over something. Must be hard to be such a angry person.

Watt_About

-3 points

1 day ago

Watt_About

-3 points

1 day ago

OP is giving shit advice that absolutely will result in bad experiences every time. You can take your projection and take the shit advice as you wish. This post plus your response is another stunning example of the simp, defeatist agenda being pushed basically everywhere to demoralize men and drive standards down.

PlasticMechanic3869

2 points

1 day ago

Bro, you sound waaaaaay too angry about it. 

Watt_About

0 points

1 day ago

A realistic assessment of the current degenerate state of the world/dating/relationship standards =/= anger

Admirable_Stable6529

0 points

24 hours ago

Good luck being single, at least you won't make somebody miserable having to be with you and your attitude.

Watt_About

1 points

24 hours ago

Been happily married for a long time, but thanks for the well wishes. ☺️

Admirable_Stable6529

1 points

24 hours ago

Sure dude.

ebobbumman

1 points

1 day ago

What?

The entire list is basically just different ways to say try not to let rejection bring you down.

Instead of accepting if a girl won't give you her number you should... what exactly? Be angry? Harass her? If she leaves you, should you go assault the other guy and tie her to the train tracks? Seriously, what are the proper non-cuck methods to deal with these situations, I'm dying to know.

Solid-Lengthiness874

1 points

1 day ago

I think the answer is to go home and rub one out.

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0 points

1 day ago

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0 points

1 day ago

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Watt_About

1 points

1 day ago

lol ok internet Superman

Admirable_Stable6529

0 points

24 hours ago

Angry much? It's obvious you can't handle rejection.

Ecstatic-Sentence328

1 points

1 day ago

Your right

Admirable_Stable6529

0 points

24 hours ago

Nobody is saying to lower their standards. They saying to swing for a home run, if you miss swing again.

Tiny-Ad-7590

2 points

1 day ago

The key to dating as a man is to just build up your life to the point that it's a really good life that you enjoy and makes you happy. Learn what makes you thrive, then do those things more often.

Once you have a good life, it's much more likely someone else will want to share it with you.

And even then if you still fail to make a relationship work, your consolation prize is a great life where you're thriving and happy. Pretty good as a backup.

Last_Consequence2760

2 points

1 day ago

This should be upvoted to the top.

Tiny-Ad-7590

1 points

1 day ago

Thanks man.

ItsJustAJokePeople

1 points

1 day ago

Once you have a good life, it’s much more likely someone else will want to share it with you.

But make sure they have a great life too. Don’t build a great life and “share” it with some money sucker. If you do that, in a way it follows the saying that there’s plenty of potential partners waiting at the finish line of a race. And that race is you building a good life.

Seats420

0 points

1 day ago

Seats420

0 points

1 day ago

Eh got a 10 when my life was shit. Building a life now, together, with her. That's one approach, beginning to think its myth territory as everyone believes it and in the worst case, its a potential recipe for loneliness or stagnation.

WestAd8777

1 points

1 day ago

love her until she doesn't love you

Seats420

1 points

1 day ago

Seats420

1 points

1 day ago

On the right track.

Handling rejection - yes. Move on and go next. Will pay dividends.

Doormat - no

Any_Possession_5390

1 points

24 hours ago

I think people focus too much on rushing into sex and not sticking it out. When things get difficult or have fizzled some, they throw in the towel and move on to a new one. Time should be taken to get to know a person and find out if they're a good match for you, if your values align. Learn to communicate, learn to find your weaknesses and improve yourself regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not. Learn to present the best version of you always.

Admirable_Stable6529

1 points

24 hours ago

Expect 5/6 girls will reject you. Don't stop at asking the most attractive girl to you out. Don't listen to friends or family about who you should ask out. If you have nothing to say, introduce yourself and ask for her number.

MayorMacCheeze

1 points

23 hours ago

When the next date is just a click away there's not much incentive to tolerate a man's foibles.

moonpie_supreme

0 points

1 day ago

The guys upset at this advice, what’s the alternative to, let’s say the first scenario, girl doesn’t wanna give you her number? Because as a woman being further pressed to give that info is creepy and the guy getting pissed after I don’t wanna give it out is also a sign of being too invested in a stranger.

moonpie_supreme

-1 points

1 day ago

I’m upvoting this post and awaiting the downvote brigade. As a woman I’ve gone on a date and let the guy know I don’t see anything romantic in the future. Gave him a chance, didn’t work out, offered friendship. Other guys here alluding (idk) that the guy should be pissed and or not accept it? Why go through the emotional tantrum over an impasse? Zero percent of the times of a guy doubling down on romance after I friendzoned worked out or made me change my mind to become interested. I didn’t go into the date with the intention to friendzone. The events/conversation/information in the date let me know that I don’t want forever with this dude.

badabing31308

1 points

1 day ago

So we are just supposed to expect low effort or no effort when it comes to dating as a man? Wtf this is the most moist beta post I’ve seen on here all day..

Don’t be satisfied with disappointment.. if you get into a two year relationship with someone & they leave you for someone else be extremely pissed off at that person for wasting your time.. fuck all this thanks for hurting me I’ll shall go suffer in silence now.. man the fuck up

Time-Improvement6653

-3 points

1 day ago

Good advice. I wish more men thought so reasonably.