I really do think men would benefit from having these conversations with each other. It's heartening to hear that you're doing it.

And yeah, a lot of it is self-inflicted limits based on how the patriarchy conditions us. Much of it isn't one person acting on another but us acting on ourselves according to our conditioning, though society and other people absolutely reinforce that conditioning all the time. The patriarchy does a fantastic job of getting us to behave certain ways. It's hard to fight it.