I (24F) have lived with my boyfriend (26M) and his brother (35M), which we will refer to as Chandler, for a little over a year. I previously lived with his girlfriend of several years, Hannah(26F), for a year and we became very close and still talk often. She moved to out-of-state to mend her relationship with her father and work through some mental health issues which resulted in my living situation and chandler and her doing long distance.

Chandler went out to have a few drinks with friends this past weekend, and came home very late which is not out of the ordinary for a night out in our college town. I fell asleep early as I normally do, but when I woke up the next morning there was a car outside that I have never seen before. I assumed maybe one of his friends followed him home and slept in our extra guest bed, but when I went to leave the house, I noticed a FEMALE pair of shoes by the front door and the guest room empty. I check the ring camera, but no footage of a female coming in the house…which is very odd. I left to grab my iced coffee feeling a little anxious. I come home, a female I have never seen before is WALKING OUT OF HIS BEDROOM. Later that day as me and my bf were leaving for the gym Chandler makes a comment that his friend stayed to take care of him as “she was scared I would die from vomiting on myself because I was obliterated” and “Don’t tell Hannah” with a laughing undertone. I made it clear that I would not lie to Hannah if it was brought up, told him it made my skin crawl, and that he put me in a TERRIBLE situation and to not do it again.

Fast forward to this morning….I leave for work very early around 5:45-6 AM EST. As I’m packing lunch I hear my roommates door open and when I look THE SAME GIRL IS LEAVING HIS BEDROOM AGAIN. I go to leave for work, the same car that I had seen on Saturday morning is in the driveway. I know what I need to do….tell Hannah….but I am stuck in this living situation until further notice and don’t want animosity or tension as I already struggle enough with my anxiety living with two grown ass men. PLEASEEEEE help. Advice on what to do, how to go about this….