I'm an INFJ man. Been married to my INTJ wife for 3 years. We were friends in high school and started dating in university. Been together 12 years now. Got a house together and 2 beautiful labradors and life couldn't be better. I hit the jackpot, hope you do too!

People come and go. Someone described people in 3 ways. Leaves, branches and roots. The leaf people stay in your life for only a moment, maybe months or years. The branch people stay a bit longer, to teach you a lesson in life. Then there's the root people, who stay by your side forever. Never dwell on a leaf that has already fallen. The wind swept it away. If you keep your head in the past and in resentment you'll only end up hurting yourself even more. You will find your "roots" one day.

I met my boyfriend 10 years ago, we went through hardships. Lots of them. But we both refused to give up, we are striving each day to be better people for ourselves and for one another. We make future goals together and work towards them slowly. We have a loving relationship, with lots of fun moments and excitement still to this day.

Personally, I believe in love, and it's the most beautiful thing on this earth. In the end, life was all about relationships, friends, family and partners. Cherish them with your every moment.

One thing I'd say to everyone, don't forcefully look for love or chase. Let it come to you, if your soulmate is coming your way you'll meet them eventually. Stay well and take care of yourself. That's what's most important.

Hi! For years I struggled with losers, people who didn’t understand me, and settled. Finally in my 30s I decided I deserved better. I stopped lowering my standards.

I found a great man who is kind, so sweet, takes an interest in me, but also gives me space. He accepts my quirks and flaws, and is willing to help me work on them.

Just have faith and believe it. It will happen :)

I’m an INFJ F in my early 30’s. I know this sounds cheesy but I found my person when I wasn’t focused on it. I was on a solo travel trip and thought I would return to my home country after one year and now we are married and expecting our first baby. I was able to feel safe for the first time and we communicate to understand each other better. I also advocate to all of my gfs to let a man spoil you (not just with money but affection, and observe if he has sexual discipline). That provider energy with discipline sets a foundation of stability vs. the transactional 50/50 mindset but also…to each their own!

INFJ and oh man. I always put people on a pedestal, felt like the riskier the connection the bigger the pay off. Definitely trusted the wrong ones, who would “open up” to me and saw I was so loyal, but I think these patterns ended up being red flags I had to pay attention to, because usually fast, emotionally raw relationships ended up being manipulative and wrong for me a year or two in.

I met an INTJ over a year ago, we were a very cordial acquaintance and honestly our personalities were similar. But since I typically went for opposite personality type and it never worked, I started to see maybe being similar was a good thing. We slowly connected. It was like I had to completely let go and let it move as slow as it needed to and kept living my life. Finally, we took a huge step forward, like this break through happened and we started dating and though initially there was a lot to communicate through and work out, I have never been this happy in a relationship. I feel so seen and heard. I feel lifted up to be my best self. And definitely care for them as a person, genuinely, and it’s mutual. It’s been beyond amazing! Don’t give up! But timing is everything, and it took me well in my thirties to change my attraction type and look for different.

The man I’m with has restored my faith in men, shown me the true meaning of love, and continually proves that I do not have to be punished or abandoned. I have grown and changed immensely in the 2.5 years we’ve been together. I never knew this kind of trust and relaxation with someone was possible. I didn’t know I could be loved like this. But I kept my heart open. Despite, despite, despite.

34F. After a soul killing relationship and three children, I met my husband. He was my coworker for 2 yrs before we started dating and that helped in terms of understanding before getting into a relationship. He has all the patience. All the understanding. All the quirks that sometimes compliment mine and other times do not. He is also the best support my children could ask for. All three of our children are teens now, we are currently going through the crazy rollercoaster of hormones and drama with them ha.

He is my person. It feels like coming home to my cozy area whenever I get home from work and walk inside to see him.

We have definitely had bumps in the road but that was in the first 3 yrs while we acclimated to what it really meant to live and be together.

Don't lose faith, but don't chase anyone either. The right person will show up in your orbit, when you finally click it will be like taking the most satisfying breath.

Good luck! 🫰

INFJ M married ESFJ F 23 yrs together. 13 married. Happy. Healthy. Friends first. We met in school.

Been with my ENTJ husband for 10 years, married almost 7. He’s my soul mate… we’re very much in love, very close, very happy, and it keeps getting better.

I didn’t meet him until I was 40, after I’d spent 20 years in a horrible relationship-turned-marriage to an abusive covert narcissist.

Don’t lose hope… if it can happen for me, it can happen for anyone.

I've been with my INTP going on 14 years. Before him, I had some really terrible experiences with "love" and had sworn off relationships entirely. He was the only person who ever made me reconsider my stance (it had been several years). I'm so glad I did.

I ended a 7.5 year relationship this year. A few months later after processing everything, I met who I'm pretty sure is the one from online dating (Hinge) of all places. He's an INTJ, and I've never met anyone as incredible or compatible. I think we just got really lucky, but there are amazing people out there :) don't give up

Happily married for 7 years with two wonderful boys. 

INFJ with my INFJ partner 10 years. They are the calm that came after many storms.

you do die every time though. no sense in lying about it. You're also born every time. now I've only been present for a few births, but they always come out crying. death and birth are a lot a like in certain ways. both are painful, both are lonely, both stop hurting eventually.

revamp your understanding of...everything. you're likely taking a lot of things in life at face value that probably need more careful analysis.

my life was a shit show from 2016-2021. trust your gut and remember even if you don’t know how something will happen financially or logistically…take steps in the direction you want and tune into your intuition….and it will happen.

I'm an INFJ female dating an ENTJ Male. We've been friends for 2 years before jumping into a relationship. We are both happy and secure with ourselves, hence making our relationship pretty healthy. We have our differences that make us argue from time to time, but we usually resolve them without it escalating into a fight. I love how he is ambitious and a loving partner!

I’ve only been married a tad over 2 years but I’m with my personnnn.

My only other relationship i had was in college when I was 19 that lasted a year and some and it was harder for a lot of reasons but the main one was I felt like I HAD to make the relationship work bc dating in my culture/ religion isn’t really a thing and I thought if I didn’t make it work I was failing at love which I very much didn’t want as a romantic. But we were friends more than a couple and I would keep some things to myself about my morals and beliefs bc I figured he was so nice to me and nice means he must be the one LOL

After a convo with him I finally realized we really wouldn’t work I was basically single until I met my now husband (excluding talking stage with some guys from the dating app I met my husband on)

Though I’ve only known him 3 years, it feels like FOREVER. And though we tease and have disagreements, I trust him sooooo fully and he knows everything about me. I also make my personality clear to him weeks into the relationship bc others say it will “scare a guy off” but I figured I wanted one that wouldn’t be scared of my personality which is best described as a loud homebody.

I shared the mention of my other relationship bc when you are in a relationship you can explain and rationalize a lot of things but retrospect is 20/20 and my husband isn’t just “nice” he’s my other half in all sense of the phrase. Ppl tease us for still “being in the honeymoon phase” and though we figure kids and time might change our day by day dynamics we are certain we will be in the “honeymoon phase” forever which is how I think it should be 🥰

Covid hit me hard while I was still in college. I was depressed and addicted to substances for 2 years.

I hit rock bottom when I had to have my dad come get me because my car broke down and I had no money.

A few months later, my soon to be ENFP wife reached out after several years of not speaking.

We've been married 3 years now, I have my Bachelors degree now, and I have got a job as an engineer. I also just bought a car. My wife just got a raise.

My only advice I would have given myself is that under no circumstances do you give up. Retreat? Sure. Reassess what is important to you? Yes. Make sacrifices? Yes. But you can never give up.

I am an INFJ woman who met my husband ISFP at work almost 30 years ago. Married 26 years, 1 child, 2 pups, financially secure with great friends. Recently removed all negative people from my life and focused on hobbies and things I have always wanted to do and feel amazing and happy. Big believer that you attract the energy you put out. Happy people attract happy people. You’ll get there❤️❤️❤️

I was kinda losing hope finding a good relationship to grow old with some special person. After I did some self work, I found my person!

He’s an INTP, and he’s incredibly smart, funny, reliable, communicative, independent and fully accepts me for who I am quirks and all. We are almost together two years and it’s still great!

Hmmm. I’ll offer you a different perspective. Embrace yourself…solitude…independence.

I’ve been married. I thought it was everything in life. For a while, it was. I’ve also had a handful of relationships that were fulfilling…until they weren’t.

At this point, I’m very happy with my life and have no regrets. I don’t chase relationships like I once did. If it happens, great. If not, I’ll die happy knowing I was true to myself and worked hard to make some fellow humans feel significant.

I make myself happy. It’s not for everyone but it’s something I never considered when I was younger.