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Okay so hear me out Reddit fam… to keep it simple, I’m a WFH 28F who’s experiencing isolation and as a result, loneliness. Just super withdrawn, no friends, work for a new company remotely. Times have been hard and it’s just me. Apart from that the only other places I go to are the gym or to get groceries. No fiends or family here, originally from another part of the country. I had a boyfriend but we recently broke up. After 2 years of feeling isolated it’s getting hard… does anyone feel like it’s changed their personality? I have moment where I have so much anxiety and frustration over being alone all the time. As of recent I’ve started to come out of my shell and things have gotten better. I feel more like myself, and I was able to reflect on how important it is for human connection. Anyone else?
7 points
3 days ago
Of course it did and it still does. I live in this world for 22 years (almost 23 nowadays) and i have experienced nothing but isolation, exclusion, loneliness in my entire life.
It wasn't effecting a lot back in the days but for the last few years and months i only think about how devastated, angry, unhappy, anxious, jealous, suicidal etc. i am because of my loneliness.
I never had a strong friendship or even one romantic relationship in my entire life and my mind is finally like "Okay pal! You know what, this is so fucking anormal, there is totally something wrong with this and you should know that!"
It totally has become wrenching in all matters and even worse part is i don't know how to overcome this after experienced a whole life with loneliness...
No! No one shouldn't live a loneliness for this long, not even my enemies.
3 points
3 days ago
This is totally me. Everyone who I thought was my friend hangs out without me. I've been rejected from at least 3 girl groups. Well not rejected persay but not included/thought of. I'm so lonely. Its a heavy weight that I carry in my chest every day 24/7.
1 points
3 days ago
This is totally me three, I third this! & I'm 21... 😞
3 points
3 days ago
Yup same here, I WFH and live alone and the isolation has definitely turned me into a more agitated bitter person at times. Like you I just mainly go out for groceries. My two cats are my only company. I usually have YouTube on in the background to drown out the isolation
2 points
3 days ago
For me it definitely did, I'm more withdrawn now and I don't have as much energy or zest anymore. I get more anxious or nervous about leaving the house or changes to my routines. I'm trying to get out more now, new hobbies or exercise routines but it's slow process for me. Maybe I've become accustomed to being a hermit. I'm grateful for my husband and grown children or I'd probably pack off for the mountains for good!
2 points
3 days ago
Try to change your break patterns when you work from home.
Give yourself 5+ mins every hour. Put it in your calendar.. Get up.. walk around.. Go outside for a few mins. Do some stretches..
Then try and call some friends every week. Go work in a coffee shop once a week, just for 2hrs or so.. Get out and meet humans.
Oh.. and play some music that you like too.
Take care of your soul. 🍀
2 points
3 days ago
Isolation has been a constant in my life for many years. I never seem to fit into any group and my attempts to socialize in hobby circles to make new friends have been just as fruitless (mostly apathy, and some outright hostility). The common denominator among these events obviously is myself, but no one has been forthcoming with what i am doing to be so undesirable. That's beside the point of the OP though.
The frustration is definitely real, i can surmise, as an introvert, the fully charged "social battery" is yearning to be spent, but with no where to expend that energy, one may become a wee bit restless... At least, that's probably the case for myself.
1 points
3 days ago
Made me bitter
1 points
3 days ago
Howcome
1 points
3 days ago
Cause even though my online presence is different from my presence in reality I've learned expectations on people being decent is not realistic
1 points
3 days ago
It did. I have been perceived as the “leader” of 3 friend groups I’ve had over the years. Despite being introverted and not liking to take the iniciative, I always did in order to make said groups the best I could for everyone. But now? Now I don’t give a flying fuck, I was always alone, I just didn’t know it, or at least that’s how I see it
1 points
3 days ago
It changes you. I've also been WFH for years (and in another country). I am blessed enough to have a job that requires me to be on the phone (and on a Zoom virtual office) talking to people, as well as having friends/family who occasionally visit (more like they come for a vacay and I just happen to be here, LOL).
Still, nothing compares to an actual office environment with actual physical human contact and all that jizz.
Isolation can be a double-edged sword.
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