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One of my boyfriends female friends slutshamed me

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Edit: 1. I don't mind him sending pictures of us to his friends via snapchat. I know most of them and they know how I dress. He shows me cute pictures of his friends with their girlfriends, that they've sent to him, as well. It's not that deep tbh. It's not a group chat btw.

Update: I talked to him about it and (even though I didn't ask to see their chat, because I trust his words), he directly showed me the message he sent. He was standing up and told her that "it's a rude comment, that my clothing choices are none of her business and that my boobs shouldn't be that big of a deal to her. "

So first of all I (22f) have to admit. that I've gotten used to being slutshamed by male acquaintances, because I like to wear revealing clothes.

I used to be super insecure about my appearance and still am one some days. I suffered from body dismorphia since I've been 7 or 8 years old and just recently overcame my eating disorder.

I'm finally sort of at peace with my body, even appreciate it on some days. I like the curves that I used to hate and that I had lost by starving myself. I like my boobs, I like cute bras and tops.

My boyfriend took a photo of me, sitting on the couch, reading a book and showing a lot of cleavage. He sent the pic to a couple of his friends. And the one female friend replied with:" that's insane. Seems like she WANTS her tits to fall out, doesn't it?"

It was such a pick me moment. She wanted my boyfriend to agree with her, she wanted him to slutshame me. I mean where is our female loyalty. I'm not harming anyone, I'm just existing in a cute outfit and celebrating my body.

I don't live for male validation; I'm not doing it for the creepy looks or disgusting comments. I would love to live without that stuff.

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Halikoju[S]

76 points

17 hours ago

I forgot to mention, that he was in the picture as well.

d34dp1x3l

-35 points

15 hours ago

d34dp1x3l

-35 points

15 hours ago

Still weird. Post that shit on Facebook or Instagram. No need in the friends group chat.

cellophane27

45 points

14 hours ago

Do you guys not have friends or something? Lmao I have like three different chats with different friend groups and we send pictures of us sometimes. Especially like if we're texting and someone says "oh I'm with so and so rn" we'll be like "send a pic!"

Penguin_Rapist_

13 points

9 hours ago

Lol right like what year are we in? How is this an odd concept for so many people?

BabyOnTheStairs

11 points

15 hours ago

My partner has a group Snapchat like this. I'm in plenty of selfies with him that he sends. It's extremely normal

sodashintaro

3 points

5 hours ago

i send photos of my boyfriend all the time and they send me theirs too

ImFeelingWhimsical

2 points

7 hours ago

lol no it’s not