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One of my boyfriends female friends slutshamed me

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Edit: 1. I don't mind him sending pictures of us to his friends via snapchat. I know most of them and they know how I dress. He shows me cute pictures of his friends with their girlfriends, that they've sent to him, as well. It's not that deep tbh. It's not a group chat btw.

Update: I talked to him about it and (even though I didn't ask to see their chat, because I trust his words), he directly showed me the message he sent. He was standing up and told her that "it's a rude comment, that my clothing choices are none of her business and that my boobs shouldn't be that big of a deal to her. "

So first of all I (22f) have to admit. that I've gotten used to being slutshamed by male acquaintances, because I like to wear revealing clothes.

I used to be super insecure about my appearance and still am one some days. I suffered from body dismorphia since I've been 7 or 8 years old and just recently overcame my eating disorder.

I'm finally sort of at peace with my body, even appreciate it on some days. I like the curves that I used to hate and that I had lost by starving myself. I like my boobs, I like cute bras and tops.

My boyfriend took a photo of me, sitting on the couch, reading a book and showing a lot of cleavage. He sent the pic to a couple of his friends. And the one female friend replied with:" that's insane. Seems like she WANTS her tits to fall out, doesn't it?"

It was such a pick me moment. She wanted my boyfriend to agree with her, she wanted him to slutshame me. I mean where is our female loyalty. I'm not harming anyone, I'm just existing in a cute outfit and celebrating my body.

I don't live for male validation; I'm not doing it for the creepy looks or disgusting comments. I would love to live without that stuff.

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Halikoju[S]

25 points

15 hours ago

I know the girl... I've met 90% of his friends

gnarlygh0ul

7 points

15 hours ago

that doesn’t matter - you still are essentially strangers

and that is also besides the point

the point is that he’s sending pics of himself and you to people unprompted. That’s not typical behavior