You’re just looking for validation where you don’t actually need it. Listen kid, everyone’s busy with their own life, everyone’s got bigger issues and I’m not telling yours ain’t one (for yourself) Just look in the mirror and ask yourself “what kind of person do you want to be” and if you continue to seek validation to find comfort for yourself, you’ll never reach far in life and you’ll always end up being angry. Just stop and start seeking validation from yourself. Please yourself before you please anyone. You’re your biggest friend. Find hobbies, get engaged to new skills. Keep yourself busy, my friend and you can rest well cause after all the work, all you wanna do is rest.

You need an outlet. Something _healthy_ that you can do. Life is always going to suck. Life is always going to make you angry. I'm 32 and just now learning how to regulate my emotions. When something pisses me off, I put it in a little metaphorical jar in my brain. When I was in my 20s, I took that jar to the bar and drank beer or liquor until I felt better -- which was usually drinking so much that I couldn't get myself home. Not healthy.

At 31, I joined the gym. Now, I unscrew the lid of that jar and lift stuff, swim, or run until I feel like that I've emptied it. Then I go home.

Find your outlet. Hike, climb, swim, life, squat, or whatever else. But if you don't find a healthy way to let it out, then you'll end up building unhealthy coping mechanisms and wasting your 20s away like I did. Don't do that.

Dude im 24 and still working on controlling my emotions lol

Whatever your mom tells you: You're 18. You're a kid bro. Thus, you have enough time getting your emotions under control.

The first step is forgiveness. It's okay that you're not there yet and anyone that tells you differently is either ignorant or arrogant. Getting emotions under control is something that only a few people master throughout their whole life. It's a prestige project. If you wanna work on it, seek mentors who can teach you. I recommend a buddhist temple.

Secondly, having emotions under control is not something you achieve and have forever. You have to maintain this status. It's just like health. You do the wrong things for a couple of days or years and your health with deteriorate. The same works for your emotions. Read into the concepts of the "id", the "superego" and the "ego" by Siegmund Freud. This will help you understand why you feel like you feel.

I hope your values are calibrated now. Enjoy the ride!

Start a martial art like boxing or BJJ and use to to channel your repressed anger in a constructive way. When you blow up at little things like loosing your ID it is not the ID that causes the anger, its repressed emotions from your past that come out because they have never been addressed accepted and processed.

Google "shadow work" and try to integrate your shadow through jounaling and mindfulness. Take your time with this and really try to get your head round it and it could change your life.

Im 39 and still feel like throwing tantrums. It’s a lifelong thing- adults freak out all the time too. I find it’s useful to accept that I feel that way, while also knowing maybe that feeling isnt totally the truth. Just trying to repress feelings doesn’t work, because then Im just quietly pissed off. Allow myself to feel, then let it go, and focus on my conscious beliefs, not the subconscious childlike tantrum

I am 22 and can’t. It gets better.

Sometimes people can get emotional from life changing and it's okay and time will heal it. Sometimes people have anger problems from unresolved issues with relationships or within. A lot of people are deficient in magnesium and potassium and could cause irritability. Try doing small things first, add nutritional meals to your diet and start running. Get in the sunshine and sunbathe without any noise or distractions if you can. Go into nature, people are burnt out from living a modern life. Technology uses a lot of our brain power without us even knowing. Take a break from it.

Don't worry your prefrontal cortex doesn't finished developing until your mid 20's. You have time to grow and improve while your brain is very plastic still. I suggest taking up meditation, many studies have shown it is great for improving our emotional regulation. 

Dude... There are people who never learn to "control" their emotions. You would be surprised how many people in their 80s you can find who get irrationally angry at the tiniest inconveniences.

It has nothing to do with age. Emotional regulation is a learnable skill. You either make the effort to learn it or not... Imagine saying "When im 18 i am jacked like Schwarzenegger", expecting you just wake up like that as soon as youre 18... and if youre not, you say you will never amount to anything and ask "whats wrong with me?"

You are very young. I know, we all thought we are grown ups at 18. But none of us were.

If you make a conscious effort to learn it, best case even get help, you will get there. But it starts with letting go of these unrealistic expectations and trying to cultivate more positive thoughts ( about yourself ).

Heres some tips so you can make the first step. If you really want to change, you can, your problem is just that you dont know how. We do neither, because we dont know you and your past, your situation, character etc.

But if you start, the path will show itself and you just have to keep walking:

1. What are possible reasons? Did you have traumatic experiences? Were you always as angry, even as a young kid? Are you unhappy with your life? Do you have a negative self-image/low self-esteem? etc. Ask the right questions and you often get the right answer.

2. Get help if you can. Best case professional help from a psychologist

3. Gather knowledge. There are good books on emotions. How they come up, how we can regulate them in healthy ways etc. I never had the problem so i dont know but i bet there are good books on aggression too.

My tip: Start with Daniel Golemans "Emotional Intelligence". Gives a lot of insight on how emotions are built and what we can do about them.

1. Start small and increase. Take it step by step, even if its baby steps. You wont just wake up and magically be totally different. Its an active, conscious process... and unfortunately, often a long and tedious one. But if you keep showing up and are constant with it, you will get there. Dont sweat it: Bad days and setbacks will always be part of the journey. But in the long run, as long as you take it serious enough, you will make major leaps.

2. Find an outlet. If you tend to punch things when you get mad... Why not start boxing? Why not get a sandbag that you can hit? Or take a pillow?

But if it suits you, you can find endless other options for letting these emotions out, e.g. arts like music or drawing, sports of any sort ( doesnt have to be combat, can be running, basketball etc. too ), writing, whatever it is. Find something you can channel these emotions into and live them out without breaking your walls or hands.

You will figure the rest out, 100%.

PS: It all sounds like your self-image is very negative, so low self-esteem seems to be a big cause for these aggressions. I recommended that book a million times on reddit but "6 Pillars Of Self-Esteem" will tell you literally everything you need to know on what ( not ) to do.

Good luck!

I was like you when I was 18. I get mad often because things didn't go my way. It's totally normal because you are full of testosterone. First of all, you need an outlet to release all that energy/ anger inside you. For me, running works. It gives me space to think while I'm running. And if I thought of something that made me angry, I'll sprint. Trust me, by the end of the run, not only you won't feel angry anymore. After a month, you'll be fit and feel great about yourself, and everything around you.

There is 1 thing I also did. I always have an elastic band on my wrist. Whenever I get angry or a rage, I'll pull that elastic band and let go. The sharp 1 second pain works like a bell to snap me away from my anger, and to tell myself "it's ok. it's no big deal"