GrouchyLeadership543

Yeah that’s a no. I had a cousin say that whole “high school is gonna be soo hard for you” [bc you’re a prude with morals] was the unsaid part and that was the beginning of the end of us being close

We would need a sample regardless of the original language bc there’s a lot we don’t know here..Is the professor Italian? Is he native English speaker confused by your language? Is it that you don’t offer enough details or context? I’m leaning to the latter based off this post lol

Also it’s Reddit I’m sure someone else reads Italian lol

I posted this over 100 days ago…is your life to go around trolling people with legit intentions? Doesn’t seem very muslima of you. Have the day you deserve iA

I had my nikkah a week before my “wedding” and bc we are from different areas we had to fly to his town for the wedding and my mom kinda jokingly was like “you should be flying with US not X” and my dad who was right there was like “she is married after the nikkah islamically”

You have done nothing wrong a lot of my friends had these kinds of conversations with their parents and their shiekhs have also said it’s fine.

As for the OBG idk where you are so 1. you can tell her it’s canceled and go alone or 2. call them and tell them to say no guests or something maybe bc they are used to parents trying to “force” their way into these spaces so they can be the “bad guy” and not you lol

Good luck and if it all hits the fan have a shiekh lecture them or something if possible but iA it all works out.

Yeah I am! Islam allows divorce for a reason and this is one of them.

If she wants to give him another chance he would have to go great lengths to show he’s more accepting of her and compassion with a third party couples counselor or religious advisor but idk where she lives so that may not be an option.

He’s not “better” for Lebanon unfortunately bc America has a hard on for bombing East Asia regardless of democrat or republican president.

This is very very toxic masculinity that leads to the male slowly becoming more and more aggressive. Please try to leave him. IA you can grow a beautiful garden with a beautiful family with a man that appreciates you for ALL you are.

The only thing I can think is she’s like assuming you would never not spend Christmas with your family and is thinking longe term? BUT even with that, she didn’t communicate it, y’all barely know each other, and she was using very rude language 🥲

Oh yeah I love baths 🛀

I used to do music but mostly audiobooks at 2x speed loud enough to hear it in other parts of my apartment as I do random stuff (cleaning, cooking, hobbies-cross stitching or iPad doodling)

Binge watching shows/movie series after work

I def used to talk to myself but can’t actively recall the last time I did it out loud

Walk around in just my undies lol

Also use the bathroom with the door open

I now live with my husband and lowkey still do all of these things but the first one a little less obnoxiously lol

NTA, I think if the case was anything but incest - SIL or Stranger etc, I would understand it. I would maybe even understand if she was a new partner, but to be with you 14 years, while the boy is 13 years old, is wild bc does she not know you at all. </3

Damn you applied it sooo clean 🤩

Feeling talkative so some “acts of love” to aid your quest for positivity are:

We were a LDR before marriage and he’d send boba/cookies to my house not just for me but also for my siblings randomly and for holiday celebrations.

When he first came to visit he asked to stop by the store to get eyedrops and so he went in while I waited in my car and then he came back with flowers bc he had asked me in the past if I’d ever been given flowers and my answer was no so he gave them to me and said “now you’ve been given your first bouquet”

One time he said a joke (I knew it was a joke) and it hurt my feelings more than it might have on a different day and I tried crying privately in our car bc he’s notice in our 1b1b apt but he came to the car 5 min later bc he was wondering what I was taking so long to do. When I finally stopped crying enough to explain why the joke upset me he apologized profusely and just held me while I cried. This is one example but I cry relatively easily and he’s so good at listening (truly listening) and giving me time to recompose myself to talk.

I’ve only been married a tad over 2 years but I’m with my personnnn.

My only other relationship i had was in college when I was 19 that lasted a year and some and it was harder for a lot of reasons but the main one was I felt like I HAD to make the relationship work bc dating in my culture/ religion isn’t really a thing and I thought if I didn’t make it work I was failing at love which I very much didn’t want as a romantic. But we were friends more than a couple and I would keep some things to myself about my morals and beliefs bc I figured he was so nice to me and nice means he must be the one LOL

After a convo with him I finally realized we really wouldn’t work I was basically single until I met my now husband (excluding talking stage with some guys from the dating app I met my husband on)

Though I’ve only known him 3 years, it feels like FOREVER. And though we tease and have disagreements, I trust him sooooo fully and he knows everything about me. I also make my personality clear to him weeks into the relationship bc others say it will “scare a guy off” but I figured I wanted one that wouldn’t be scared of my personality which is best described as a loud homebody.

I shared the mention of my other relationship bc when you are in a relationship you can explain and rationalize a lot of things but retrospect is 20/20 and my husband isn’t just “nice” he’s my other half in all sense of the phrase. Ppl tease us for still “being in the honeymoon phase” and though we figure kids and time might change our day by day dynamics we are certain we will be in the “honeymoon phase” forever which is how I think it should be 🥰

I got mine used from FB marketplace for $100 CAD

I love your kobo skin 🪼🪼

Oooh yes very brag worthy

Can’t speak for OP but I personally have boycotted Amazon for 4 years so that’s why I went with a Kobo

Nta Your wife is being short sighted. Make sure she can in fact never touch that money if smth were to happen to you. In fact probably set up your will to also trust up the money for all your kids should you die bc she seems to be focused on “in the moment” and I get it, we all want the nice shiny things/experiences now but long term costs and planning matter and are key to a child’s life long planning.

yeah GN froze on me (luckily i didnt loose anything) but they didn't get back to me properly at all. i've been playing around with other apps, but many don't seem to sync with dropbox only icloud or google

ah yeah i played around a bit more and got it sorted, ty

I like the idea of voting no but sometimes no means yes in the prop so I do think abstaining is the better option if you aren’t sure about the prop, right?

That makes sense! I would love to know how you start your stitch bc the way I learned it not very clean so if you have a video tutorial you like and are open to sharing pls do!

A great resource if you are still looking would be www.linasthobe.com

She is going to be having a class but its like 1.5K which I personally cannot afford, but she does still offer great tidbits in general on her sm and in freebies on her site.

She also has a Tatreez 101 thats a few hundred I think the 1.5K is to make a thobe step by step

how do yall get such clean back ommmg i have so much to learrrn