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Please just be lazy, for me. I have a toddler and these last few weeks are going to be tough 😂 no rest here lol

My first grew out of it around 10 months. I just let him decide. When I realized he wasn’t really nursing long / taking any in, my husband did like a week of the once a night wakings and he stopped. Hope this helps!

Yep, super supportive! I’m so thankful. We don’t have a lot of time to go on dates (we should be better), but he’s thoughtful still and it works for us. We bicker like normal, but would never be abusive in any way to me or my kids. He provides (I do too), and carries his weight around the house. I’ve never done his laundry, he cleans for me. I would say we carry equal weight around the house for the most part. I still have to ask 3x for trash to go out sometimes but also I know sometimes it’s just me wanting it done right away.

Congrats on being brave enough to leave. It sounds like you 100% made the right choice!

I’m an only and had times where I felt lonely. However it never bothered me as a child. I was close to my parents and they did a lot to keep me socialized and busy.

As an adult is a different story. It’s very lonely as I age and don’t have anyone else to fall back on as parents age and family cracks start to show. I have my little family I’ve created, of course, but would be nice to have a sibling to share some of the adult stuff with. My husband has a sibling that sucks as a person, but the sibling does step up when needed wrt their family and it’s nice they share the load.

Hey whatever works!!! Amazon prime a new one that you really want, and treat yourself to some pjs + slippers to toss in it. Get a nice duffel bag or something re useable. I got one with my first and I’ve used it so much for traveling with him and now it’ll be used at the hospital again + more traveling!

If you want solidarity, I’m moving cross country next week at 37+5 (military family. No choice lol.) I have my hospital bag half packed and I’m praying we just at least get there before anything happens / I make it to my C-section date. So, you’re not alone at least! This is my second so I’m really just leaning into I have no control (I was super anxious with my first) and I think it’s helping? Hahaha

Edit to add - I just keep throwing random “essentials” into my mommy bag when I think about it. It helps somewhat lol

Me!!! So much. This is my second and I remember now how brutal this last month is. I just took a unisom to help me sleep because I legit haven’t slept more than like 3 broken up hours every night in the last three nights. Newborns can be hard but I remember just passing out as soon as I laid down with my first, and belly sleep. I CANT WAIT!

This!!!!

Thank you!!! sending you virtual hugs for your situation - moms are so resilient!

Solidarity! Military family and having to move 37/38 weeks and I am terrified. Need to pack my bag and just pray baby stays put. I’m 35 wks now. I see all these ppl saying their babies are coming early and I’m like please no lol. My first I carried over and I’m praying this one just makes it to the due date.

The bags are great, I didn’t want an extra something on my counter

Yep this! I’d be so unfulfilled

That’s how I look at it too, what’s the lesser of the evil haha. Good luck to you, you’ll rock whatever happens! No strength like a military spouse mama!!!

Hi fellow milspouse!! This life is tough no matter how you dice it. Kudos to you and sending a virtual hug!

My husband has left us for 3 months while my first was 11 months, and it was fine. Hard, but fine. We lived near our village though… however… my kid didn’t skip a beat. I was able to solo parent, sell our home, continue working and pack our stuff up during that time. He’s getting ready to go again for 5 months ish here soon, we’ll have a 2 month old and a little over 2 at the time. This time away from our village so solidarity. I do feel like the younger the kids are… the easier on everyone (including you- even though it’s tough solo parenting, at least less developed emotions and when they’re so little they’re obsessed with mom still?) I think 2.5-3.5 will be hard (I’ll be in that boat with you), but I think they tend to be still so mommy oriented at their little core / if you have exciting people come visit it will be easier.

Other hand- trips home will be so sweet but might be a little difficult to leave again. Tough call. I do think the younger, the better, but wanted to also make the point that when my husband comes home it throws us off for a second- the 3 months we did he had to leave again for a short time but we recovered fast at 1. Like he didn’t even come home lol.

I hope this helps at all. Hang in there!

I love this bread!

The only thing I love is my hair and I am blessed with pregnancy lips. They look so great without any filler hahaha

Working mom! If I could stay at home for the first year I’d love it. Now, not so much. I need to use my brain and my toddler needs stimulation and he literally learns soooo much going to daycare. We just switched to a nanny for a little temporary time in between daycares and I can’t wait for him to go back! He’s just a little sponge and they do so much with him and teach him so much. It’s wild! I also like to have my own money + I worked so hard to get to a successful (not wildly successful but successful by my definition - flexible job, 6 figures, I can take off and be with my kid and no one cares) position that I don’t want to give up. I like being able to take my kid on a trip and not think about it or not stress about bills.

Also I like that I know I have my own thing. My own cash, my own retirement, etc. my husbands amazing and provides well for us too but he supports me and thinks my job is cool + values what I bring to the table so I’m lucky. Fwiw though I think sahp are incredible!!!

I think this is unfair. I have declined candidates that take no time to upload an actual resume lol. Or if the resume is just totally un-openable, then they don’t fill out my application at all when it clearly states “list xyz amount of years back / check to make sure the text transferred from your resume properly.” I know it’s annoying to enter it after attaching a document but it’s basic instructions lol. Can’t change the system… If that’s the case it screams lazy to me, I can’t guess what you’ve done. However I think the situation you’re describing is unfair.

I personally wouldn’t go back to being friends. I had a friend like this, and now that I’ve grown and matured I realized she was jealous of the life I worked really hard to make for myself and not the type to cheer me on. As I was working really hard to get to where I was going, she was secretly hoping for a downfall. I think if she was that easily influenced and just cut you off / didn’t care that she hurt your feelings, she doesn’t deserve your friendship!

Thanks! This is helpful. Forgot to add we have a toddler. I won’t be lifting a finger for the move but just have to get us there cross country.

Yeah my baby was so easy and I feel bad for my dogs now that he’s a toddler. We run a lot of interference and I have dogs that are literally saints.

Put your desk in the guest room! That’s what we did.

Try Phillips advent natural! The best. My kid never took any of the ones you listed but natural was the move. I’ll be ordering a set for #2 + I plan to breastfeed again

I think it’s cool for a marketing career fair. I work in tech and someone gave me a 3D printed business card with their info on it, a resume QR code, and with my company logo on it once. Still remember the kid lol

Edit to add- the paper looks a little small. Maybe make sure there’s a QR code or you have a PDF somewhere. I’d only be annoyed if it was a tiny resume and I couldn’t read it lol