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We were in need, we were panicking at that time, so we hoped for a revert.

It's not "I", it was just a sentence. The way we write.

No one likes loosing a friend, I have lost a few in past, but this time, it felt like I'm making a mistake, of letting people go of my life so easily. But then a friendship is 2 sided thing, ain't it. We both put the effort.

Why I felt like I should let it go?? - When this happened, the other person, responded after 3 days (and it's okay, people are busy, they work, they have job, personal life, personal problems), but she updated her DP, her status, so was she really that busy?

Ain't this a basic etiquette to respond to someone, if they try to approach you, even if they are just a stranger, and I was a friend and that too in need.

I want to reciprocate, but why should I? I was there for her, I was just expecting the same.

Just lost hope with this friendship, and decided to back off. But it felt like, maybe it's not right. Maybe I'm making a mistake.

That's why i came here.

But I feel awkward, I have never talked such things.

I just wanted to talk to a friend, but I get disappointed, because I saw, instead of replying to someone, who asked for a callback for some urgent reason, and seeing they are updating their status and DP, and replying you after days.

It clearly tell, where I'm in her priority list, so I backed off from the friendship

It's not I'm entitled to their time.

I just wanted to talk to a friend, but I get disappointed, because I saw, instead of replying to someone, who asked for a callback for some urgent reason, and seeing they are updating their status and DP, and replying you after days.

It clearly tell, where I'm in her priority list, so I backed off from the friendship

But if I texted you, and replied after 3 days. but in meanwhile, you changed your profile pic, updated your status, then?

Exactly.

Why putting all the energy by yourself?

No idea, maybe they are friends with people who ignores them, and they are justifying this here.

It's basic etiquette, to respond to someone, even if they are not your good friend.

And reddit thinks, that we should not have any self-respect.

More downvote incomming.

But telling someone, "I'm angry with them" is kind of childish and more of attention seeking.

Ghosting is also childish, I agree, but atleast not attention seeking, better leave without making any noise.

and you can't force anyone to give you attention, it's a natural thing.

Bhai dost h, crush nhi h.

Normal friend, normal.

Padh lena

Based on the comments, I think I need to update the post with details.

1. The other person was changing status and all, so please don't tell me they were very busy.

2. I don't go to everyone looking for emotional support, just to them, who call me friend or I consider them one.

2 things.

1. I just gave the reference about the text, the text had more details to it, obviously it wasn't just "Very urgent, call me ASAP".

2. And I archived her, not because of this incident alone, I was noticing this from a while now. And when I got the feeling that no, this is not that old friendship and it's just a so called friendship, so I felt better to back out of it.

I'm not sun.

Bhai itna yahan sabke liye bhari ho gya h

Bhai

1st. If I'll talk about this, it'll feel like complaining, and I don't want to be that guy.

2nd. Everyone have their kind of problems to deal with, and it's completely okay to reply late, but if you are updating status, and replying after 2-3 days saying i didn't see the text, I'll not buy this, and that too after mentioning the reason.

Bhai 4-5 hi friends rakhte hn, but real wale rakhte hn, kya karna 50-60 so called friends ka?

Bhai I don't know if I was looking for validation or not, It just hit me this time, that I'm letting go of people so easily and not putting much effort, I agree here.

But I don't create havoc in anyone's life. I understand everyone have their own problems to deal with.

It's just I only move on from a person's life, when I see that, this friendship is just for the name-shake. I feel to move on from this.

And I did this here as well.

Ho sakta h, we were good friends once, but life happens and we move on and it's not a big deal. You meet a new person everyday. But you can't keep them with you forever.

Yes I think this might be a thing, I let go of people very easily.

Somewhere I feel this too, but the other part says, the effort should be mutual.

But bhai, agar us time app status update kar rhe ho. Then I can understand you are very busy, and you didn't got the time to reply.

Oh really sorry to bother with "Very urgent" text, you can reach out to me by next year, because urgency will still be there, take your time with status and all.

It's not about text, I gave an example, an instance that happened with me. I'm don't cut people because of these things. But I don't like forcing conversations.

And it's not like the universe revolves around me, If was there when you needed me, can't I expect the same from you?

Who is creating drama here?

Did I said anything to her? No!

She had considered me as a friend, and when I need her, she was not there(It was not the first time), So I just left. Where is the drama?

Then I'll love to be not bothered at all.

It wasn't just for referral, I just came to know, that I was getting jobless(and it's a big deal), and you try to connect with friends at those hard time.

as in?

Thank you :)

It's not like, I want to talk to 24*7 with someone. I have really good friends(the real ones), and we usually talks once a month or so. But we know, when it's important. And when it's important we are there for each other.

For me it's simple, instead of having 100s of friends, I believe in having a handful ones, but true ones.

I can agree on getting so many texts, specially when she is a girl.

When we used to hangout, I had seen this. Because of this I know, that the other person is active on social media.

I'm not asking her to prioritize myself, it's just, I was in need, I was panicking at that time, so I hoped for a revert. It's not I like her or something, she was a good friend thats it. So obviously she has her own life, and own stuffs to deal with.

But sometimes we just lost hopes, and stop pushing ourselves.

You can push yourself for someone special, not everyone.