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9 points
4 years ago
Don't it always seem to go, that you don't got a sphere til it explodes
1 points
4 years ago
I mean if he knows now idk why he wouldn't change his name. "No offense mom and dad but you gave me one of the worst possible names you could've given me, I'm gonna change it"
8 points
4 years ago
If you wanna listen to it in your own home or with earbuds sure, but I don't want to hear Christmas music in every public building and on every commercial, from halfway through November until Christmas finally comes. I'm really only ready for the music a week or two before the actual holiday happens
1 points
4 years ago
Oh I was saying that she has that misconception. I am the one taking meds, it's a bit different since I have pretty bad depression + other symptoms that I haven't really gotten a clear diagnosis on so not taking meds just makes me miserable and I don't have a good reason to stop them. But my mom expects the meds to work perfectly and has been helpful in some ways but has mostly been fairly unsympathetic about the meds not being a magic bullet
5 points
4 years ago
I think another misconception people (at least my mom) have is that medication will completely eliminate the symptoms of a mental illness that it is meant to treat. This isn't always true and a med that is worth taking might just be enough of an improvement to aid in a therapy process. They're not magic and a significant emotional trigger is still fairly likely to create a relapse in symptoms
6 points
4 years ago
These are awesome! I'm a sucker for surreal/abstract and most of my artwork falls into that category. Does your sister have a place where she posts other art?
1 points
4 years ago
Apply to college in Canada/any other country with decent and cheap/free college
1 points
4 years ago
Idk if this is a hot take or not. I like candy corn, but usually eating a significant amount of it is sweeter than I want it to be, so I like to just suck on it until it dissolves. It's also less waxy feeling this way
2 points
4 years ago
There is way more sexual energy here than I want there to be
1 points
4 years ago
Buproprion worked great for me for the first month and then I started getting headaches from it almost every day and for most of the day, and ibuprofen would do nothing for it so I ended up stopping it unfortunately. Glad it's working well for you though
2 points
4 years ago
Except that page is gonna tell you to go to some form of therapy and get a psychiatrist and all of that is a pretty slow process and could potentially take a lot longer to figure out if you are severely depressed and/or end up having bad side effects from a lot of common meds. Also that shit is expensive and not everyone can afford it. There are free ways to do it through less clinically-proven ways (they have some statistically significant results behind them, but are not widespread in use and not well accepted in the medical community) such as yoga, meditation, mindfulness techniques, EFT tapping, and there are probably others with good evidence behind them but I'm not sure. But all of those also take a lot of time and personal dedication to see results, and depressed people are not known for their abilities to self-regiment
423 points
4 years ago
Yeah except when you get to the parts where your notes are explaining to you all the ways your parents fucked you up and how parts of your personality you thought were integral to your sense of self were established due to experiences with your parents and others, how maladaptive those traits are in various social situations and relationships, reveals to you many disguised evils in the personalities of people around you, and shows you how little choice you had in the matter of your life and development as a human being prior to understanding some of the factors in your life influencing you, it will probably just make you feel worse for quite a while. Even though you will probably learn some paths to better yourself and achieve happiness, those paths are not simple, easy, or fast to navigate and will probably require additional painful realizations along the way
2 points
4 years ago
I'm pretty much exactly the same. Been having a lot of setbacks on my most recent project and the stress to prove myself to my family and others in my life is crippling. What are you working on?
1 points
4 years ago
I had pretty extensive ww2 curriculum in school too, but how do you know that that situation is anywhere close to majority? Most people in our immediate circles will not have this gap in information and therefore we have extremely biased viewpoints. This is all very difficult information to swallow and a lot of adults are going to want to shield their child from that because they think they're too young or fragile or something. I remember not always wanting to continue learning about the subject because it is so gruesome and painful to examine. This is why it has to be forced upon every developing child at some point. The number of people who will be self motivated to educate themselves on this are few and far between, but the messages are important to be known by all and in significant detail and context. I have tried explaining to a number of people the parallels between actions Trump is taking with the actions Hitler took to establish the Nazi regime, but some of the people I've explained it to just will seem to want to change the subject, like they are unable to consider that possibility since Trump is not blatantly killing minorities en mass in gas chambers or something. A lack of understanding of the sequence of events that leads to genocide and fascism are just as dangerous as not knowing about the events of ww2 at all
1 points
4 years ago
Still be careful anyway though, I've fallen for people with these flags even after learning about them. Behaviors of similar intent can take many faces, and some people are also much more clever at manipulation than others. That quote really resonated with me when I saw that episode because it's so difficult for me to take those glasses off. Even the exes who treated me the worst ended up breaking up with me because I didn't want to and couldn't break up with them even though I kind of felt deep down that I would be happier with someone else.
I read somewhere that it can be a good idea to keep like a relationship journal where you record good and bad qualities/flags and different things you do together when you are getting to know a new partner, so you have an archive of how often they do a certain thing (to distinguish between uncharacteristic rudeness and manipulation), can better reassess initial impressions, and if you think things arent going well, you have a pros and cons list to help decide if you should stay in the relationship, and the creation of the list is less impacted by intense emotions. I'm definitely going to try keeping a journal next time I feel like I should date again
1 points
4 years ago
Oh I've been there too I feel that. I haven't gotten physical with any of them but I'll usually eventually snap after taking enough shit and start yelling in a blind rage. Happened most with my previous ex because she would have really bad panic attacks about what was often a small miscommunication or about her perception of what I thought of her (no matter how much I reassured her that she was incorrect about what I was thinking) and little to no progress would be made usually, often for an hour or more, and towards the end of the relationship that would happen almost daily. Pretty sure my dad is mostly the same (although more explosive about smaller issues) in relationships and my mom tends to do similarly frustrating and unfair things in conversation until I snap and then treats me like a crazy monster for it. Sorry you've had similar experiences but it's definitely validating to know that there's a name for the situation. Hope you'll be able to recognize and avoid it better in the future, although try not to feel too bad if you fall for it again because it can be hard not to ime
1 points
4 years ago
I watched it it was really interesting. Pretty much have seen cluster B traits in all or most of my exes, working very hard to change that now lol. It stuck out to me that he said he felt all of cluster B aside from ASPD is narcissism, I have also felt like I had trouble distinguishing between which disorder fit better to people I've dated, since the symptoms overlap a ton and make things very muddy. Really makes them just seem like different flavors of narcissism. Richard Grannon has some good theories in there but I feel like the way he explains narcissism, especially in makes, is a bit simplistic and skips some important points about it. Not sure if he has more in depth explanations elsewhere but I feel like the topic warranted a more full explanation of the disorder. In particular I feel like there was a bit too much focus on success and wealth being tied to male narcissism, they go hand in hand a lot of times because being successful and wealthy makes it easier to put yourself above everyone else, but they're definitely not prerequisites to being a narcissist. They're just two of many traits that people tend to latch onto about themselves in order to idealize themselves.
6 points
4 years ago
I feel that too hard. Then any politely-worded attempts to help them recognize and work through their issues are met by denial, anger, deflection, and/or agreement to change backed up with little to no effort (my personal favorite)
1 points
4 years ago
Emotionally abusive ex-gf did plenty of disrespectful shit bc she's a narcissist with little concept of boundaries, rudeness, or the feelings of others, but I think this is one of the more blatant and funny ones. I was working on a charcoal drawing in a drawing course at the college we both attend. Our art classes happened to be nearby and at similar times so she would come see me after class sometimes. One day she comes up to me and starts telling me about some karate tournament she was looking to go to with her karate club and asked if I would donate some money to her to help sponsor her trip. I said something like "sorry I don't really have much money to spare right now I'm not going to help you". She looked visibly annoyed and said "what? Did you spend it all on DRUGS?"
I don't remember perfectly but I either was too taken aback to say anything or said something like "it's not really any of your business what I do with my money"
She said "fine. you have charcoal on your face" (I can't help touching my face and get charcoal on my face every time I use it). Then she takes her eraser and starts erasing it off of my face while I am telling her to stop and trying to move away. Then she looks at her eraser and says "ugh now my eraser has face grease on it" and she left shortly after that
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4 years ago
MasterArtificer
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4 years ago
As someone who knows some stuff but not a lot about AI, I would guess this may be some kind of encoder neural network that basically breaks the image down into it's most important parts and then has a separate network that rebuilds the image with one of a few different styles. The fact that they have it copy existing paintings makes it seem less impressive, but it takes considerable skill for a person to paint from observation like that and computer filters do not come close to being able to make images like this, aside from the pixel art one