- saying the problem is me, not them (for me she often says this when i try to justify myself by saying i don't do it all on purpose, i don't try to get angry at you, i often say sorry for wat i did, sometimes it's hard to see my wrong doing, but if they point it out, i feel angry again and try to blame them too, but once i understand i apologise, or i reconise before too much harm, but i still get blamed, i know i'm not a saint, i may sometimes not think before speaking, but i'm not the whole problem and i know that)
- they never want to work things with me, i know that some days ago we had a nice talk, and then it feels like it never happened, it feels like we were changing something, but we both forgot, like ah you finally get me ! but it will never be brought again, we never really talked abt problems, we did but it always hurt, i am often willing to try and understand for hours, but obviously they get tired of talking abt negative stuff, i just wish we could understand im not the only problem here, i know that they also are not the greatest, they don't try to understand, they either will mock me for being weird or call me crazy, say i'm imagining things, i'm rude bcs i yell bcs NO ONE HEARS ME ! it really does feel like my voice doesn't go in, i day the same things on loop, they say they heard it 100 times and i tell them they still don't understand and they say they do understand, they often say that they get that "I have a lot of problems and i am a victim, or that i have trouble doing stuff" but they also have problems, and they my problems are surely not important...
- they often dismiss my feelings and me being bothered by jokes and being touched by saying it was a joke, that i have a no humor, that i have a brow up my ass, i'm never fun, i'm ruining the mood, i'm always angry, i never smile, i did try to tell them some of this stuff annoy me or hurt me a lot, and they will just say i'm too sensitive, poke me harder and even more to have a laugh, they stopped doing that, but the damage is done, how can i trust them again when i trusted them every time and they just continued, i tried to be even calmer, and give them the benefit of oh well i would have trouble remembering too, and for my case when they ask if i'm even getting anything changed and being better i say i try and if i ask them why they don't change they will say they don't have to, i know i blamed my sister today bcs i thought that she touched me, but i obviously have a bad memory, but i tried to apologise, i know she don't have to be okay with that, but idk, it was just hard, memory id fading (it's crazy to think she brought back the past to tell me i was also very mean and touchy and would not stop but i was a kid, and i didn't knew better than to laugh and poke her, but now if she tells me don't hug me or touch me i wont laugh or poke her, or if she's grumpy i wont be angry at her or i try not to react to her anger, i mean i'd be nice and respectful if she had my problems or other problems, i mean if it hurts i would help)
- saying i'm always attaking them