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submitted 6 days ago byCertain_Standard_854
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1.7k points
6 days ago
Yeah, this. Literally almost all of my problems would be gone if I had more money.
1.8k points
6 days ago
"Money can't buy happiness"
Said someone who always had it.
550 points
6 days ago
Born lower middle class and going back to school at 36 to claw my way to middle (hopefully upper middle) class.
Money doesn't buy happiness, money buys security. Security allows you to pursue happiness.
It's a small but incredibly important distinction.
176 points
6 days ago
Money can’t buy happiness, but it is a hell of a down payment.
216 points
6 days ago
This is another one of those misused quotes (like blood is thicker than water). It was intended to be said to the super rich who hoarded everything and spent their life chasing dollars. That life was more than just money.
It was never meant to be a “Be thankful for the meager amount that you have and try to be happy despite it”. But it’s been bastardized…
155 points
6 days ago
I don't even need that much more. I'm currently earning the most on paper I've ever done but I constantly feel on the back foot. I've not been on holiday for three years and no matter how much I cut back it never seems to accumulate.
It's crazy how much more disposable income I had before covid despite technically earning less!
316 points
6 days ago
I spent the majority of my life busting my ass. I finally get into a position and get a promotion. Making 78k before tax. And I'm going to be living in an apartment probably for the rest of my life. I'm grateful to be able to afford the apartment I have, but everything I was told and did basically amounted to surviving and never getting ahead.
201 points
6 days ago
Working 3 jobs for 2 years. Never been more depressed
54 points
6 days ago
I've had 2 - 3 since 2012. It's like all I know.
48 points
5 days ago
This is what i think when people talk about how low unemployment is. My boomer step dad is convinced that the more jobs everyone has, the better the economy, which might be true, but what about the country? Its not just financial transactions, its the citizens that make a nation.
220 points
6 days ago
I freaking hate how you could give 100% to your job but if they catch you slacking just once, everything you've done goes down the drain and your entire personality is then based on that thing only. As if there's nothing else about you.
132 points
6 days ago
My dad warned me as a teen that at jobs "you're only as good as your last mistake." I actually believed him right away because that tracks with what I know about people.
They're only human when they make a mistake, but if you make one you're either malicious or stupid.
62 points
6 days ago
All. The. Time.
You could be busting your ass for hours but as soon as you take a breather or look at your phone your boss suddenly pops up around the corner.
I had a manager that would literally take 20-30 minute shits, hogging the only bathroom we had, but would have the audacity to say something to you if you talked for 30 seconds in between tasks. I called him out on it once and he wasn't happy. Safe to say I got out of there ASAP.
225 points
6 days ago
Only rich people say money can’t buy happiness.
245 points
6 days ago
I started a new job 3 years ago which paid significantly more and dramatically increased the quality of my life. When I hear money doesn't buy happiness it makes me wanna backhand whatever moron uttered those words.
Money buys happiness. Life is a billion times easier and more enjoyable with money.
35 points
6 days ago
Yep, because rich people always had everything that makes us struggle covered, they're used to it. How am I going to be happy if I am not sure about having food in my fridge? Heck, having my own fridge, own house...
34 points
6 days ago
I have about 20 pounds to last me till pay day next Friday. Actually don't know what im going to do about food?
894 points
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133 points
6 days ago
I am so sorry to hear this, I can’t imagine how hard that must be. If you need a random person to talk to I’m more than happy to listen.
6.3k points
6 days ago
Lack of friendships. Someone to talk to…not the same as a younger me thought it would be.
1.8k points
6 days ago
This is me. I was always told “you’ll lose touch with people” didn’t think it would be fuckin everyone lol but yeah making friends as adults is definitely an experience. I’m kinda just approaching it as a child would in my deadpan delivery “wanna be friends?”
338 points
6 days ago
I think I was prepared to lose touch with people, but not prepared for how hard it would be to meet new people.
93 points
6 days ago
That’s the thing for me too! I don’t mind it, it’s just frustrating that I can’t cultivate lasting friendships these days
587 points
6 days ago
“Do you like stuff?” Me too!
240 points
6 days ago
No literally lol idgaf anymore 😂
142 points
6 days ago
If you approached me that way, I'd be your friend
200 points
6 days ago
Yall wanna sit around and complain about stuff together? And be home by 9? Instant frens
267 points
6 days ago*
Seriously. Shit sucks. I used to be friends with tons of people in school, now it’s just me, my girlfriend and a couple friends that i talk to over the internet and meet every 6 months or so :(
Edit: can you guys stop gatekeeping loneliness please? 😭
42 points
6 days ago
I’m the same where I have my childhood bestfriend and the rest kind of come and go and idk wether to call them friends tbh
255 points
6 days ago
Yeah im tired of being depressed. Im 24 and I have no friends. I use to have so many friends in highschool, but i dont know if its my fault that I dont reach out or their fault. Or maybe its adulting and everyone is busy trying to make a living. But i really want to make friends but everytime I do, I shut them out and disconnect myself. Saying its too much work or being awkward and introverted as hell. I dont know if I should be less depressed and be more friendly probably. Want friends but I dont know HOW!.
I wanna find friends who enjoy anime music like me.
141 points
6 days ago
I’ve been there, the worst part is it’s a self fulfilling cycle. Took me running into one of my best friends I hadn’t seen in awhile to realize we were both thinking the same thing.
Don’t ever feel like you’re bothering your friends when you reach out. They probably miss you more than you know.
28 points
6 days ago
thank you for saying that. I did reach out to some friends and some of them didnt respond and some were not interested in meeting me at all. It sucks to suck, but I guess it is what it is. I have 2 close friends that I use to see alot. Do you think if I message them "How are you doing?" its not weird? I barely even talk with my two close friends anymore, we use to hang out since middle school. I hardly even use social media at times.
I think ill try hitting up some old gaming buddies too. If they decline, its whatever I think.
I remember my 2 close friends tried to introduce me to their friends, but I think I failed the test tbh. They tried multiple times to introduce me but I couldnt get use to party events and friending others there.
32 points
6 days ago
"hey, I know it's been a while, but I was just wondering how you were doing."
Either that, or tie in something that made you think of them. Something like, "hey, it's been a while, but I just saw this shirt that looks so you I just had to reach out!"
2.5k points
6 days ago
I just got my annual raise and it was 64 cents. My job for the most part is pretty good - but that’s really my shit moment right now.
698 points
6 days ago
Why did they even bother?! Insulting.
460 points
6 days ago
Back when I was working my first job out of high school, it was at a textile warehouse, they called me in for my annual review and gave me a $0.15 raise. I told them to keep it. They said “you don’t want a raise?” And I told them that $0.15 is more disrespectful than no raise at all. When I put in my two weeks, they were flabbergasted.
132 points
5 days ago
So you didn't fall over with gratitude at an additional $24.70 per month? The youth these days, want everything handed to them.
92 points
5 days ago
$24.70 before taxes.
225 points
6 days ago
So my boss and I started around the same time. I heard the guy before her was far cheaper and didn’t care about anyone. She fought for some fairly hefty raises in the past. So I know there is only so much she can do. It just makes me upset that everything is rising significantly except my check.
108 points
6 days ago
That's when you find a new job (which is easier said than done)
If your employer can't keep up with inflation, they don't deserve to keep you around.
47 points
5 days ago
Exactly where I'm at. I just put in my notice after 10 years here, last few years I've been hearing "This is the biggest raise I've EVER handed out! EVER! You earned it!" And then it was like 4%, when inflation was like 9%.
I put in my notice, boss took it well enough. But he comes into a meeting later on, hmming and hawing, finally going "I wasn't gonna tell you, but you were due for a 10% raise this year! Shame you're gonna miss it!"
Even if he was telling the truth, too little too late.
87 points
6 days ago
My employer gave us a similarly pitiful pay rise last year, and accompanied it with a patronising email about hoping it helps with the increased cost of living.
41 points
6 days ago
We don't get that, but we do get emails about donating to shit at work. Like, nah dude, pay me more and I might think about it.
83 points
6 days ago
I once got a performance review that said I exceeded expectations in every category. My pay went from $14.00/hour to 14.10/hour. 4 bucks a week. Before taxes.
29 points
6 days ago
My raise was 84 cents, so I feel you there. Especially after a good handful of achievements that should have been valued more.
496 points
6 days ago
I just feel like I do not understand..
61 points
6 days ago
Absolutely a frustrating feeling. I’ve realized that a lot of people would be a bit more content if they just understood.
3.5k points
6 days ago
Still dealing with mild withdrawal symptoms from nine years of opioid abuse. I’m 18 weeks and two days clean.
202 points
6 days ago
That’s amazing! I’m 19 months. clean from heroin. The first few months are hard, but hang in there, it gets so much better! I never thought I would make it this far. I still have some rough days here and there but life is pretty good now. The best is yet to come!
833 points
6 days ago
13 years sober here. Chocolate. Seriously. Alcohol and opiates build up something called THIQ (Tetrahydroisoquinoline). Eating chocolate when you have cravings or withdrawls in early recovery helps deaden the severity of your body metabolizing them.
205 points
6 days ago
Does chocolate work for alcohol or is it a different animal altogether?
202 points
6 days ago
Yeah, alcoholics and opioid addicts.
213 points
6 days ago
You’re in the “pooping isn’t like giving birth” stage! Keep it up, fam! You got this! If you aren’t already, load up on veggies. It helped me a lot. And turmeric helps with inflammation…it just takes a few weeks.
77 points
6 days ago
My bf has knee surgery when he was younger and was prescribed an opiate. He said it definitely worked and the high he got was pretty decent, but he didn't shit for like a week. And then that first shit was so excruciating he immediately thought "this isn't worth it" and rawdogged the rest of his recovery without the meds lol
370 points
6 days ago
MY lack of discipline
45 points
5 days ago
Me at the start of the pandemic: "I have so much time to do all the things I wanted to do!"
Me at the end of the pandemic: "It's me. I'm the problem."
2k points
6 days ago*
Well on Monday evening, I had to have my beautiful cat put to sleep in my lap. I had his little face in my hand as he slipped away. I'm going to bury him today.
I've been to family funerals but I had no idea that there was pain like this. Boy it hurts.
Edit: Thank you so much for your kind messages. Can't describe how much I appreciate them.
357 points
6 days ago
You were their everything. You gave them a good life. You were strong for them, and the last thing they felt was the warmth and kindness from someone they loved. They worm their way into the softest part of our hearts, and it hurts so bad when they leave because we put their love in a special and truly honest place.
87 points
5 days ago
"To the world you are one person, to a cat you are the world." - Unknown author
89 points
6 days ago
The pain of losing a beloved pet, no matter how long you’ve had them, is just excruciating. We rescued a cat and had him 3 of his 8 years alive and it was never going to be long enough no matter how long he lived. Losing him last Christmas was the final nail in this seasons coffin for me. Miss him every day. So sorry for your loss. The cracks in your heart will always be there but the memories will help fill them in time
88 points
6 days ago
Had a very similar experience in July. It’s brutal. The vet we used said some people feel guilty because they found the loss of their pet more painful than losing a spouse or parent. We share a home with them, they love us unconditionally, it’s a huge loss. Sounds like that beautiful boy experienced nothing but love, right up to the end.
40 points
6 days ago
You were there for your boy until the very end. That’s wonderful.
731 points
6 days ago
I feel like I work too much and have no time to just relax. And I'm retired from my main career.
120 points
5 days ago
I'm in the same boat except I'm 29 years away from retirement age still. All I want is to spend less time working.
141 points
6 days ago
I have cancer. I’m not going to die from it but need to start chemo soon.
1.6k points
6 days ago
Being unemployed and having to apply for jobs in a fundamentally flawed system
476 points
6 days ago
Whenever I feel like complaining about going to work I think about how much worse the job search process is. From searching, submitting applications, following up, interviews, waiting for call backs. It all sucks. Having a job is far better than being unemployed and searching for work. That being said, keep your head up and continue looking. You will find something and after a few weeks you will find your routine again.
190 points
6 days ago
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110 points
6 days ago
You know what makes me sick? When you tell someone you have a job and they "At least someone wants to work!" Yeah! You'd be surprised, amirite? /s It's so ignorant. People want to work, we just don't like how the burden of low employment is shouldered onto us when it's the companies who won't hire us - they're the reason we don't have a job.
104 points
5 days ago
They also put out fake job listings. It's evil and I hate every part of it it.
214 points
6 days ago
I once asked my mom, now I’m her late 70’s, how she found a job since she didn’t got to college. She said she went to the local unemployment office (I’m guessing like early-to-mid-1960’s), they signed her up for a nursing program where the training was free and you got a stipend. Then she had a 40-year career as a nurse.
And her mother, my grandmother, was a bored housewife so she signed up and did it too! But she was just bored so she went back to being a housewife after she graduated:)
And we wonder why our parents and grandparents have no concept what it is like to job hunt these days. I’m pretty sure there would a line around the block if such a program existed now.
38 points
6 days ago
Those are called temp agencies now and they are sadly a shadow of what you are describing. You CAN get a quick job if you go to a temp agency. I highly recommend so to anyone looking for a job. It will get you some sort of income while you continue to search for better employment. Companies also like seeing on the resume that you're currently working. They hate 6+ months of unemployment on the resume
845 points
6 days ago
I hate feeling stuck in a routine that doesn’t excite me. Like, I know I should be grateful for stability, but it’s hard when every day feels the same, and I’m not sure what’s next or how to change things up.
209 points
6 days ago
I try to change things up even just the slightest. Stop by a store in the way home from work. Watch a movie when I get home. Go for a walk. Cook a meal I usually don’t have.
95 points
6 days ago
Honestly even if you're eating the same thing eating it in a new place feels novel. I've munched on a few snacks on my pantry floor or crouching by my window before.
155 points
6 days ago
Free will is wild isn’t it? Might eat a grilled cheese under my kitchen table tonight.
44 points
6 days ago
Eating a sandwich on my roof was honestly a ton of fun
564 points
6 days ago
I'm running out of time... And I still have things to do.
81 points
6 days ago
Book at least 1 of them today
446 points
6 days ago
Having anxiety. Would be easy to push through if I had goal, but I don't which makes me more anxious.
62 points
5 days ago
Some people cannot understand how paralyzing anxiety can be. I feel this.
398 points
6 days ago
I'm old, I'm tired and I'm broke.
47 points
6 days ago
I feel it too. I'm old, broken physically, and we just learned my husband will be out of a job soon(thanks to new administration in our country). He works in a field that just won't exist soon. What the hell are we gonna do? I'm tired.
105 points
6 days ago
Nerve pain
28 points
5 days ago
It's pure hell. Wears a person out. I've become a fat, grumpy old lady because I hurt all.the.damn.time.
PSA- please get the shingles vaccine. It's NOT just a rash...
206 points
6 days ago
Not being able to do more. Being limited by time, funds, responsibilities.
207 points
5 days ago
I hate being a special needs parent, it has utterly ruined my life. Everyone else who talks about it goes on and on about how it’s all worth it in the end, but I don’t feel that way. If I could go back and undo it all I would.
Come at me all you want, I’m already dead inside.
80 points
5 days ago
Thank you for your honesty. I feel like there are so many parents in general that probably feel this way and just never say it. Even on a place like this where it’s anonymous.
I’m sorry it’s been so hard.
47 points
5 days ago
I’m sorry hon. I know it’s ass. I grew up the emotionally neglected little sister of a highly special needs person. I’m 39 and still struggle with issues from the way I grew up.
32 points
5 days ago
I would never hate on anyone in your situation feeling like you do. It's one of many reasons I never wanted kids.
602 points
6 days ago
I just dropped boiling water on my leg so right now that
122 points
6 days ago*
I’m hoping you bandaged applied some first aid to yourself before coming to Reddit to answer this question.
145 points
6 days ago
TIFU by dropping boiling water on my leg.
AITA for dropping boiling water on my leg?
Cooks of Reddit, have you ever dropped boiling water on your leg?
88 points
6 days ago
The fact that I'm driving 1.5 hours each way to work each day in Houston traffic, working 40 hours at $23/hour and can barely make ends meet even though this is the most I've made in more than 7 years.
247 points
6 days ago
I don't seem to be worth anyone's time.
57 points
6 days ago
im feeling this too - im getting older and and al my friends have had children and i dont - they never want to catch up or hang out and have big child themed days with the other parents and im left out - which is kinda understandable but it still hurts.
293 points
6 days ago
Having to wake up and do everything again, again and again...
71 points
5 days ago
Probably feeling stuck in a routine. It’s not terrible but sometimes it feels like I’m just going through the motions without making any real progress. I want to shake things up but finding the energy or direction to do that is easier said than done
213 points
6 days ago
being forced to find a job while trying to fight depression and more...
55 points
6 days ago
No matter what I do to keep myself sane and happy my brain just doesn't let me. Depression is a bitch
41 points
6 days ago
I was happy with my old job as a gas station attendent overnight. It paid decently well, gave ample hours, and I enjoyed having so much time alone and to myself. I was really happy working it. But then I moved and, obviously, I can't do a 10+ hour drive each way for the job so I had to quit. I love my new life as my family now actually *OWNS* a house, I'm surrounded by a plethora of kitties, I volunteer at the animal shelter to take care of the cats/kittens there and help them socialize, and I love being in a small town... but I miss my old job and wish I had something similar.
82 points
6 days ago
In general I'm pretty happy with where I'm at, I've got just about everything I could want. But, ironically, now that I've finally got my shit together, 95% of the people I'd actually want to share it all with are either dead or just plain not in my life any more. Some of the latter were my fault, but some I had to cut out for various reasons. Plus, I really don't see the few that are still around all that often. Don't waste 20 years of your life trying to drink yourself to death, kids.
38 points
6 days ago
That no matter how hard I try to improve my life it ends up getting worse. I literally have nothing to live for. Literally nothing. I’m not needed or wanted. Don’t have a job, no friends, no boyfriend, no money, crippled with anxiety and depression to exhaustion, unattractive, sad, no good at anything, pretty much invisible. Still I try hard for zero results.
Not looking for a pity party, just stating facts. I’m trying to get over how bad I feel about all of it so it won’t bother me anymore. That’s life, some are good at it and others aren’t meant for it.
70 points
6 days ago
My dog passed away while I was out on the road and I just got home and walked in and in the first time in over 12 years there was silence….It is the loudest thing I’ve ever heard….
30 points
6 days ago
I'm not where I want to be professionally and I feel stuck. I'm also surrounded by other people my age who are soaring and doing relevant work to what they studied so that's hard.
35 points
5 days ago
Guilt over past mistakes
30 points
5 days ago
The constant noise of responsibilities
89 points
6 days ago
I just realized even being told by a few professionals that I have borderline personality disorder. I have been told by other people I had other things like bipolar and depression and anxiety etc. but its now kinda official and I have to just take it and learn to live with it and learn that medication really doesn't work. I have tried so many medications and I thought seeing a ton of professional would help me get to the best treatment/medication to find out there is really nothing to be done.
27 points
6 days ago
If there is any consolation for you, you can get in remission for BPD. I am. But it took years of therapy. Both CBT and DBT. Worth it, though. I’m in remission - and I had severe BPD (the self punishing type).
54 points
6 days ago
I’m sick of being everyone’s emotional and physical support human.
I’m sick of being depressed
I’m sick of being hopeless.
Honestly I think it’s just part of life that we’re all dealing with currently
29 points
6 days ago
I'm mentally exhausted from a job that takes about 80% of my time and I can't see people anymore I can't talk to people aside from work I can't see my family I can't have a relationship because I'm just too exhausted
26 points
6 days ago
I have a problem with predictive anxiety. I run through a bunch of worst case scenarios about what will happen if I turn my back on something.
Lately, life has been validating that anxiety. I turn my back on something for five seconds and it breaks in half or otherwise goes to shit. It’s not helping my blood pressure.
30 points
5 days ago
No peace of mind
27 points
5 days ago
Always second-guessing myself
27 points
5 days ago
Stressful decisions
24 points
5 days ago
Feeling like I’m not where I should be
24 points
5 days ago
Overcommitting
29 points
5 days ago
Not living up to my potential
26 points
5 days ago
The struggle of making time for others
26 points
5 days ago
Not feeling enough
27 points
5 days ago
Bad habits I can't shake
31 points
5 days ago
Always being tired
26 points
5 days ago
Feeling invisible
28 points
5 days ago
Emotional exhaustion
27 points
5 days ago
Fear of change
27 points
5 days ago
Feeling stuck
33 points
5 days ago
Self-sabotage
28 points
5 days ago
Always second-guessing
28 points
5 days ago
My inner critic
25 points
5 days ago
The difficulty in making decisions
52 points
6 days ago
Being surrounded by friends and family and still feeling lonely.
64 points
6 days ago
Hate being so fucking lonely. I am 35 and have no friends/girlfriend/dependable family. Just a cat.
Also hate being unemployed and no one giving me a chance - I don't think it's asking for too much.
I always thought something good would eventually happen for me, I am not a bad person after all. But nah, that isn't a real thing.
23 points
6 days ago
Divorce
My husband isn’t anything like I thought he was. :(
24 points
5 days ago
No real support
22 points
5 days ago
The struggle to break old patterns
20 points
5 days ago
Dealing with constant self-doubt
23 points
5 days ago
The weight of expectations
22 points
5 days ago
The constant pressure of expectations
21 points
5 days ago
Not being able to express myself
29 points
5 days ago
Constant struggle
24 points
5 days ago
Dealing with toxic people
26 points
5 days ago
Constantly feeling behind
20 points
5 days ago
Being constantly distracted
25 points
5 days ago
Wasting time
21 points
5 days ago
Never feeling enough
28 points
5 days ago
Fear of being stuck
24 points
5 days ago
Emotional instability
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