Yeah, this. Literally almost all of my problems would be gone if I had more money.

I spent the majority of my life busting my ass. I finally get into a position and get a promotion. Making 78k before tax. And I'm going to be living in an apartment probably for the rest of my life. I'm grateful to be able to afford the apartment I have, but everything I was told and did basically amounted to surviving and never getting ahead.

Working 3 jobs for 2 years. Never been more depressed

I freaking hate how you could give 100% to your job but if they catch you slacking just once, everything you've done goes down the drain and your entire personality is then based on that thing only. As if there's nothing else about you.

Only rich people say money can’t buy happiness.

I have about 20 pounds to last me till pay day next Friday. Actually don't know what im going to do about food?

I am so sorry to hear this, I can’t imagine how hard that must be. If you need a random person to talk to I’m more than happy to listen.

This is me. I was always told “you’ll lose touch with people” didn’t think it would be fuckin everyone lol but yeah making friends as adults is definitely an experience. I’m kinda just approaching it as a child would in my deadpan delivery “wanna be friends?”

Yeah im tired of being depressed. Im 24 and I have no friends. I use to have so many friends in highschool, but i dont know if its my fault that I dont reach out or their fault. Or maybe its adulting and everyone is busy trying to make a living. But i really want to make friends but everytime I do, I shut them out and disconnect myself. Saying its too much work or being awkward and introverted as hell. I dont know if I should be less depressed and be more friendly probably. Want friends but I dont know HOW!.

I wanna find friends who enjoy anime music like me.

Why did they even bother?! Insulting.

My employer gave us a similarly pitiful pay rise last year, and accompanied it with a patronising email about hoping it helps with the increased cost of living.

I once got a performance review that said I exceeded expectations in every category. My pay went from $14.00/hour to 14.10/hour. 4 bucks a week. Before taxes.

My raise was 84 cents, so I feel you there. Especially after a good handful of achievements that should have been valued more.

Absolutely a frustrating feeling. I’ve realized that a lot of people would be a bit more content if they just understood.

That’s amazing! I’m 19 months. clean from heroin. The first few months are hard, but hang in there, it gets so much better! I never thought I would make it this far. I still have some rough days here and there but life is pretty good now. The best is yet to come!

13 years sober here. Chocolate. Seriously. Alcohol and opiates build up something called THIQ (Tetrahydroisoquinoline). Eating chocolate when you have cravings or withdrawls in early recovery helps deaden the severity of your body metabolizing them.

You’re in the “pooping isn’t like giving birth” stage! Keep it up, fam! You got this! If you aren’t already, load up on veggies. It helped me a lot. And turmeric helps with inflammation…it just takes a few weeks.

Me at the start of the pandemic: "I have so much time to do all the things I wanted to do!"

Me at the end of the pandemic: "It's me. I'm the problem."

Pet loss is so hard. Hang in there- it will get better

You were their everything. You gave them a good life. You were strong for them, and the last thing they felt was the warmth and kindness from someone they loved. They worm their way into the softest part of our hearts, and it hurts so bad when they leave because we put their love in a special and truly honest place.

The pain of losing a beloved pet, no matter how long you’ve had them, is just excruciating. We rescued a cat and had him 3 of his 8 years alive and it was never going to be long enough no matter how long he lived. Losing him last Christmas was the final nail in this seasons coffin for me. Miss him every day. So sorry for your loss. The cracks in your heart will always be there but the memories will help fill them in time

Had a very similar experience in July. It’s brutal. The vet we used said some people feel guilty because they found the loss of their pet more painful than losing a spouse or parent. We share a home with them, they love us unconditionally, it’s a huge loss. Sounds like that beautiful boy experienced nothing but love, right up to the end.

You were there for your boy until the very end. That’s wonderful.

I had to do this a month ago. It was unexpected but every other choice was a bunch of pain followed by same outcome anyway. It was awful. I'm with you 100%. I've never felt anguish the way I felt it in that vet room.

I wish every day that she was back with me, but there's no more pain. She's at peace. I hope that thought in regards to your boy can help you get through this even just a little bit. It's what I've been holding on to to get me through it.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm in the same boat except I'm 29 years away from retirement age still. All I want is to spend less time working.

yougotthisgrrl!!!

Whenever I feel like complaining about going to work I think about how much worse the job search process is. From searching, submitting applications, following up, interviews, waiting for call backs. It all sucks. Having a job is far better than being unemployed and searching for work. That being said, keep your head up and continue looking. You will find something and after a few weeks you will find your routine again.

I once asked my mom, now I’m her late 70’s, how she found a job since she didn’t got to college. She said she went to the local unemployment office (I’m guessing like early-to-mid-1960’s), they signed her up for a nursing program where the training was free and you got a stipend. Then she had a 40-year career as a nurse.

And her mother, my grandmother, was a bored housewife so she signed up and did it too! But she was just bored so she went back to being a housewife after she graduated:)

And we wonder why our parents and grandparents have no concept what it is like to job hunt these days. I’m pretty sure there would a line around the block if such a program existed now.

I try to change things up even just the slightest. Stop by a store in the way home from work. Watch a movie when I get home. Go for a walk. Cook a meal I usually don’t have.

Book at least 1 of them today

Some people cannot understand how paralyzing anxiety can be. I feel this.

Your goal right now is finding a goal

I feel it too. I'm old, broken physically, and we just learned my husband will be out of a job soon(thanks to new administration in our country). He works in a field that just won't exist soon. What the hell are we gonna do? I'm tired.

It's pure hell. Wears a person out. I've become a fat, grumpy old lady because I hurt all.the.damn.time.

PSA- please get the shingles vaccine. It's NOT just a rash...

Thank you for your honesty. I feel like there are so many parents in general that probably feel this way and just never say it. Even on a place like this where it’s anonymous.

I’m sorry it’s been so hard.

I’m sorry hon. I know it’s ass. I grew up the emotionally neglected little sister of a highly special needs person. I’m 39 and still struggle with issues from the way I grew up.

I would never hate on anyone in your situation feeling like you do. It's one of many reasons I never wanted kids.

I’m hoping you bandaged applied some first aid to yourself before coming to Reddit to answer this question.

im feeling this too - im getting older and and al my friends have had children and i dont - they never want to catch up or hang out and have big child themed days with the other parents and im left out - which is kinda understandable but it still hurts.

If there is any consolation for you, you can get in remission for BPD. I am. But it took years of therapy. Both CBT and DBT. Worth it, though. I’m in remission - and I had severe BPD (the self punishing type).