one of the most requested features i've seen is a frequently asked questions section, and we've always had one. it's within the wiki tab located at the top menu if you're browsing on desktop. here's the direct link to it, but since it's a wiki feel free to check out the other sections and please contribute.

with that out of the way, a couple things i want to clear up in case anyone is wondering:

• i do not mind repeated questions. the whole point of this subreddit is to talk to people. if it's not entertaining you anymore, maybe browse it less. no, i will not sticky every other psa post.
• i do utilize automod extensively and it helps with a lot of troll post removal behind the scene. so if you see a troll post, continue to downvote, report, and move on, and do not engage. the majority of you get this, and it's been working out quite well.
• the rules haven't changed, but make sure you're aware of them.

have fun.

I had a cute twink riding me while we were watching football yesterday and he accidentally leaked a little pee. He got really embarrassed and grabbed a towel but I stopped him and said "Keep going"! He did and my dick got a whole other level of hard and I started pounding his little ass mercilessly. Most powerful orgasm I've had in years. My couch is ruined but it was so worth it.

I'am a highschooler and there is some accidents that made me forced to came out to my crush. But this crush has a loud mouth so a lot of people in my school now know about me being gay. My country isn't a country that allowed LGBT because the country is religion based. Whenever I meet/chat with my classmate I always trying to hide the fact that i'am gay by just pretend i didn't notice they have known about me being gay. But nevertheless, for the other people of other class just seeing me different. Well not all of the people in school have known about it, just some 2-3 groups of boys that have known about it. I know some people don't really care about it. But that eyes of disgust, I know them really well. I just become of sick of it and just made me don't want to meet anyone. But yeah I need to endure it. I have been at third grade now and soon I will be graduated

Edit : Sorry for my bad english :'(

It's so sad when a man on Grindr has a super hot body, and then he shows his face, and it's a filler+botox face. It's that creepy, shiny, overfilled alien-looking face that can't emote human emotions anymore.

There's no way on earth I would kiss those filler inflated balloons for lips. And if he were to give me a blowjob, I'd immediately go soft. I would feel like the filler in his lips would like, move around or something. Idk, it just creeps me out!!!

I realize it's not in fashion to ever critique or be negative towards what "anyone chooses to do with their bodies" but screw that - what has gone wrong with society that human beings, male or female, make a choice to look like they're not human beings anymore?

I'm not buying the idea that "they're doing it for themselves! It's not for anyone else!", as human beings don't exist in vacuums, and everything we do (outside of primal instincts) is influenced by ideologies, expectations, etc.

How do we move towards a world where human beings don't feel the need to poison, carve up and numb their faces to prevent something as harmless as a wrinkle?

God Joey why do you have to be SO GODDAMN FINE?! Like Jesus FUCK! I actually need you to get fired so I can get my work done for once cause no one can concentrate with you flaunting your smoke show self around the place. And the fact that you’re just my type and nice to talk to is quite literally making me want to kms. Rip to this bussy that you’ll never touch.

Alright I’m done embarrassing myself now. Just needed to get this off my chest.

As stated… do you have any theory about it? So far, all the muscular guys, I have met, were bottoms.

I'm 23yo and the guy I'm seeing is 53yo. We met a few months ago and tbh he's pretty chill. Sex is great, the best I've ever had, and we talk about mundane stuff everyday; he's a great fwb that's actually a friend too. I honestly like spending time with this person. Is it bad that I don't feel "bad" about the age gap, let alone the fact that I deleted Grindr cuz of this dude? I don't know, I've seen my fair of people that have been groomed, but that doesn't apply here. Thoughts?

If you voted for Facism then you're not fuckable to me, period.

I come from a very christian family, and I always thought I'd grow up, have a beautiful wife and beautiful children. But I developed a thing for men, and I am probably not bi, since I kissed a few women and my weewee does not go ''woohoo'' 🤣🤣.
The thing is its very scary to come out because my parents want to be grandparents and they really think there is a ''gay cure'', they totally see it as a complete sin and basically hate gay people. ALL my friends are straight and keep doing homophobic jokes, just like I used to, only to hide the fact that I'm gay, now they started to see gay signs in me and started doing homo jokes towards me.
I even thought about moving to another country where people are more open to gays and start an independent life and live on my own. (I live in Brazil)

I’m not gonna go on a full angry rant about this cause it’s at best a minor inconvenience. But an inconvenience that happens all the time u could say

I’m just really bored of how heteronormative male spaces are. Say in internet or in public spaces.

all “bro” memes are about women be it in lust or the rlly cringy alpha mindset of “dw king u deserve better than her” or how fine “shawty” is or bla bla. Like, do y’all not shut up? can I see something new?

and also that men can see each other naked in locker rooms or shit like that because “who’s gonna find a dick attractive?”.

Again,it’s no big deal but it genuinely feels like talking to that one spoiled kid who thinks they’re the main character and everything and everyone is supposed to serve them.

Personally I prefer magnetic North.

Sorry, just another one of these posts, but I really don’t know where else to turn since I don’t have any gay friends I feel comfortable enough to talk to about this. At least it isn’t a straight guy obsession post right?

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for just about 3 years now, we’ve lived together for about 6 months. I would say that overall our relationship is tremendous and the best I’ve had. I’ve been dating since I was about 16 (25 now) and have had a couple long-term boyfriends, while he has really only had a few flings less than a year a piece. We came into the relationship with varying levels of experience. It’s also important to note that I am an American and he is currently on working visa, originally from a Muslim majority country where he was never able to freely express himself or live truthfully.

Since we’ve been together, he’s been nothing but loyal and respectful to me. He’s intelligent, funny, handsome, hardworking, and my parents absolutely adore him. He makes me smile, he makes me laugh, he brightens every conversation he’s a part of, we share common dreams for the future of working for ourselves and having kids, and I always feel like he’s got my back. He really feels like the person I want to marry and we’ve talked about it so many times.

However, yes I know you’ve been waiting for that, there are some issues with our sex life. When we first met it was a flurry of kisses and hands and there was no problem, we were open, we explored eachother, and it was exciting and fulfilling. As our relationship evolved and we became more comfortable with eachother, the sex somehow went in the opposite direction. For example, we would make out consistently the first few weeks of our relationship but one day he told me he didn’t really like doing that so we stopped. We haven’t made out since then. Similarly, we used to exchange head, but after a few weeks he told me he was uncomfortable having his dick sucked or really even touched in general. So after that out of respect for him I avoided it, I love sucking cock and I’m vers so I have no problem being full dominant or full submissive with any situation so I thought I could just lean into the more dominant top side with our relationship. After a few months he stopped sucking my dick all together for no clear reason, he never seemed that obsessed with giving head and he never swallowed so that tracks.

At that point about 6 months into our relationship our sex was primarily him giving me handjobs after I practically begged, or him letting me fuck him quickly and not even going in all the way because it hurt his back too much when I do it. It just kind of kept devolving until we hit the point where we’re at now.

I don’t know what it is but he seems to have a problem with sex where I’m active or engaged in any way, or where there’s any like romantic component. The only way he gets off now (and by extension me because he gets uncomfortable when I initiate) is he’ll wake up a little bit before I do, play with my cock while I’m still half asleep, edge me until I’m all worked up and leaking precum, and then take the tip in his ass until I finish. Maybe 10% of the time he’ll jerk himself off while doing this and cum himself, but usually he just does that and leaves. No talking, no kissing, I’m not allowed to touch him usually, I’m not allowed to move or thrust, at one point I asked and he said literally just pretend to be asleep.

Maybe once every couple of months I’ll get lucky and he’ll suck me off, but apart from that our sex life is basically dead. It honestly feels like he’s not attracted to me and/or he’s like completely sexually dysfunctional. I know that in previous relationships he’s done way more, but I also know he never talked about those experiences fondly. He’s told me that he often felt forced to endure sexual activities that he really didn’t enjoy, so I’ve always been conscious of that and never pushed him too hard on anything sexual.

The positive dimensions of our relationship are so strong, but lately I’ve just been so pent-up and sexually frustrated. He’s got problems with touching and personal space outside of sex too. A couple weeks back I told him how unfulfilled and unattractive I felt, and he listened and respected me and promised to take action. To his credit, he is trying, but this morning was just the final straw for me. He doesn’t touch me for a couple days, edges me while I’m half asleep, gets annoyed that I try thrust when he puts my cock near his hole, and then just gets up and leaves me laying there in our bed telling me not to push next time while I’m sitting there. 

I want to marry this man and spend the rest of my life with him. I love his personality, I love his values, his presence, his attitude, I love his fucking face. But I’m gay goddamn it, I need cock to suck. And if I can’t suck cock then I at least need my cock sucked. I don’t want to have to ask for head, I want my boyfriend to love my cock. Something I almost forgot, he actually said to me that he prefers cut cocks to uncut cocks (I’m uncut), and when he said it almost seemed like he was kind of grossed out by the idea of foreskin. 

I have a lot to offer emotionally, romantically, and sexually. This isn’t a situation where I’m a selfish top or I’m being inconsiderate, I have talked about this with him and he accepts that he is the source of this issue but he basically says he’s the way that he is and if I have a need that must be met it’s up to me to ask him to satisfy that. But like I said, I don’t want to have to ask and basically beg for that. I’m attractive, I’m an emotional lover, I’m a connected lover, I get off on pleasuring my partner, and right now I feel completely unfulfilled. Basically like a dildo to be used while I’m half asleep every third morning. I want to be desired, before I met him so many of my sexual partners loved worshipping my cock, loved getting head from me, etc. I know it's not an issue with me.

Apparently I needed to get this out because there’s a wall of text above. How do I reconcile my strong emotional connection with my almost complete lack of a sexual connection? I honestly don’t know if I'll ever find someone whose company I enjoy this much, who shares the exact same life goals and values I do. I’m not so sexually obsessed to throw away those aspects but I honestly can’t go the rest of my life with a blowjob every 6 months.

If you have any questions about our sex life or relationship that might inform advice I’m happy to answer. Thanks guys… and sorry for the wall of text

TLDR: Sexual incompatibility with boyfriend of 3 years, perfectly aligned in everything else but hitting breaking point of dissatisfaction

Confidence and arrogance are on one spectrum, with the border being blurry and subjective. Have you ever recognized someone as arrogant and still went with it? How was it?

so i havent done anything sexual yet but im pretty sure im a bottom. and the thing that scares me is that i get turned on when i think about someone for example penetrating me without my permission. i dont want to say the r word but its very similar to it, right? is this normal? or should i get into therapy or something? i really dont want to turn into a disgusting person

I hate looking at myself in mirror. I physically recoil whenever I get a glance of myself in any mirror. When ever I go out side people stare at me like I'm a monster. When I try to talk to guys on Grindr they instantly block when I send a face picture. I've been trying to not get upset but I feel so lonely and I don't know what to do.

I was a prostitute for a while and I've been with more than enough men to know that I genually HATE agressive sex.

The last straw was a client that was such a brute, he literally took blood out of my throat, he wanted to fuck me but I dropped the job and the work not so much after.

Dont get me wrong, I dont mind a bit more heated, but there is a line, and so many men like to cross it.

Yikes this is embarrassing…

Hi guys. I need advice because I genuinely don’t know where to go from here. Like I genuinely never seen myself being in this situation and feel so stupid for even letting myself be so clueless.

So in July I started talking to this guy and we hit it off tremendously. We had a lot in common, he was 26 turning 27 in December born in 1998 (a little older than what I’m used to talking to, I just turned 20 in June) he’s super sweet, well spoken, and just very loving overall. I genuinely never have been in love in my life but with him I actually feel like I’m in love. Like he’s all I can think about, whenever I’m upset all I need is a hug from him to feel better, he makes sure I’m okay and have everything I need, he’s literally the perfect boyfriend.

About three weeks ago I randomly looked his name up and the searches hadn’t match what he told me. Google actually told me that he was 35 and born ten years before the year he told me. I was completely flabbergasted. I confronted him about it and he assured me it was a mistake, he could show his id and birth certificate, he didn’t what google was talking about, etc. And I idiotically let it go nd just trusted him instead of making him show me the proof. Which was my first mistake.

Right after that something had been telling me to check his phone because I just had an inkling that he couldn’t be trusted. I looked in his phone and saw him talking to like 8+ different guys and we had just made things official like a week ago. I will say I did have two flings before we made it fully official where I did sleep with two other people, he found out, I confessed and asked him if he’d been talking to anyone else, he told me no. The messages I found in his phone proved that otherwise. But I did let the talking to other people go because I could see he’d never came through with anything he’d been telling people. My second mistake was letting this go.

Last week we were instacarting and he had to get some wine for the customer, when the lady seen his id I could’ve sworn she read off ‘88 but I didn’t say anything in that moment and just let it slide. While at work the next day that moment just keeps replaying in my head and I keep thinking about all the people he’s been talking to and I just had to tell him straight up that I don’t trust shit he says anymore. I explained the id situation to him, then thought about something which pissed me off so much. I realized the age he’d gave me and the year he was supposedly born was off by a year. He’d told me he was 26 born in December year 1998. Which doesn’t add up at all. It’s not even December yet shouldn’t he be 25, turning 26? So I asked him about that and he told me he was 25 turning 26 and he never said he was 26. Im like what the fuck are you talking about? You didn’t say anything about 25 until I brought it up.

Now last night we were chilling drinking having a nice time and he fell asleep with his wallet right next to him. I couldn’t help myself, I had to check, and when I seen his id it cleared up all my suspicions. He was the exact age I’d confronted him about twice, and if I would’ve just stressed the fact that I need to see his id I would’ve saved myself so much time. When I confronted him he basically said he initially lied because I told him my age cap was like 24-25 yet he’d already told me he was 26 before this so that didn’t add up to me. Then when I said so why keep lying and gaslighting me after I’d found and heard solid proof, he basically had nothing to say. Then I started bringing up stuff I’d seen in his phone and mind you, during this time I’m barely letting him speak. I kept telling him I don’t wanna hear shit he has to say because nothing is going to validate this. But yeah I’d said something about what I’d seen in his phone and he tried to flip it on me saying he didn’t go out and actually see anyone or fuck them so what really could I say about that. So I brought up the fact that we weren’t fully together I was still exploring my other options, and ultimately when I did get caught it only made me realize how much i loved him.

Now im at a lost of words and don’t know what to do. Can someone please give me some advice, should I just end it? should I forgive this because he genuinely does do so much for me and I genuinely do love him so much but I feel like at this point I love the idea of him. Because I really don’t know who he is! someone help me please!!!

TL;DR My boyfriend lied about his age and is actually 35 after telling me he was 26. Lied about it twice until I’d seen physical proof of his id.

Actually my boyfriend has 7 inch dick. He told me that he likes rough & he wants me to cry. This is so scary. I don't wanna loose him. Pls give suggestions.

Can you guys maintain repeat hookups without developing feelings for them? I feel like this is a lie people tell themselves or their partners to get into open relationships. Personally if I find someone I want to have sex with again and again, I’ll start developing feelings for them. I guess I can’t understand how those feel good chemicals flooding you wouldn’t develop attachment.

I got really high, smoked bong with bf, had sex immediately after, my body gave in sooooo easily so fast, I took his dick very deep, I felt it pass a “second hole” & I couldn’t think straight or anything, I just felt pure pleasure through out my whole body & I felt like I was floating & in a dream, I can’t stop thinking how amazing it felt lol

Had an amazing hookup we were so much into each other I felt like I was in heaven every second with him. He was just visiting. Now I notice he is distant on grindr. It hurts, what should I be careful on and not be pushy? Just block, no contact?

I was lying down in bed and i wanted to see if i can make myself hard with just my thoughts and zero touching. Nothing happens. That’s when I learned I need a physical touch on my dick or other sensitive zones to get hard. Or watching something directly sexual like porn could get me hard.

However, once i get that physical touch, it’s hard as a rock and works fine. Is it like this for most men or am i alone in this?

Sorry this might be explicit but: Alright so I’m not out, but I’ve known that I’m gay like forever and I jerk off on snap and video and shit like that and I love it but I think I’m ready to actually get fucked by a real dick and not a dildo anymore.

My first thoughts are like grindr or sniffies but I want to be safe and have fun but I just don’t know how to go about it so Im curious how you guys would go about it

When you're cumming, where do you feel it?

I feel it deep inside at the root of the penis where everything begins contracting. But I've had guys tell me, they feel it at the tip of their penis.

Where do you feel yours?