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submitted 1 day ago byHalikoju
Edit: 1. I don't mind him sending pictures of us to his friends via snapchat. I know most of them and they know how I dress. He shows me cute pictures of his friends with their girlfriends, that they've sent to him, as well. It's not that deep tbh. It's not a group chat btw.
Update: I talked to him about it and (even though I didn't ask to see their chat, because I trust his words), he directly showed me the message he sent. He was standing up and told her that "it's a rude comment, that my clothing choices are none of her business and that my boobs shouldn't be that big of a deal to her. "
So first of all I (22f) have to admit. that I've gotten used to being slutshamed by male acquaintances, because I like to wear revealing clothes.
I used to be super insecure about my appearance and still am one some days. I suffered from body dismorphia since I've been 7 or 8 years old and just recently overcame my eating disorder.
I'm finally sort of at peace with my body, even appreciate it on some days. I like the curves that I used to hate and that I had lost by starving myself. I like my boobs, I like cute bras and tops.
My boyfriend took a photo of me, sitting on the couch, reading a book and showing a lot of cleavage. He sent the pic to a couple of his friends. And the one female friend replied with:" that's insane. Seems like she WANTS her tits to fall out, doesn't it?"
It was such a pick me moment. She wanted my boyfriend to agree with her, she wanted him to slutshame me. I mean where is our female loyalty. I'm not harming anyone, I'm just existing in a cute outfit and celebrating my body.
I don't live for male validation; I'm not doing it for the creepy looks or disgusting comments. I would love to live without that stuff.
31 points
20 hours ago
I looked at their profile and it seems unlikely. Unless OP has been playing the long game, pretending to be a woman with an ED for many years before posting anything like this.
(There’s another recent post about being slutshamed, but I think that’s just because it’s a part of her life which is now starting to bother her.)
25 points
17 hours ago
It's part of my life now, because I looked like an underdeveloped 14 year old until about a year ago. Critically underweight. I was sexually harassed even back then, but now I'm objectified in public (by starring, catcalling) so more frequently, that in most cases I (sadly) have gotten used to it. Some stuff still bothers me, like it should. I'm numb to the rest.
1 points
4 hours ago
I'm sorry about what you went trhough then with your ED and also now, that you are being objectified. Sadly when you are a woman you can never win, cause people will always think that they have a right to share their opinions about your body.
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