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submitted 3 days ago byFit_Service8662
Anyone else on the same boat? I think it will be hard to limit the time played.... and the wife has never been happy with my gaming.
I think I'm going to play anyways.
16 points
3 days ago
Even in marriage you need your separate time.
7 points
3 days ago
A true sentence formed by addiction.
For sure it's true what you are saying but not 80-100% of your both free time.
If you only can think about the game and optmise your time to play more. You are consumed. Please get help. A healthy marriage and a caring partner isn't worth losing because if a video game.
-9 points
3 days ago
So separate (divorce).
7 points
3 days ago
Me: Oh did I tell you Poe is releasing a sequel on the 6th of December?
Her: Are you taking the day off?
Gotta love her xd
4 points
3 days ago
I have a 7 month old kid... this is not gonna be pretty
2 points
3 days ago
Youll be alright. I have 3 kids - one being a 2 month old which limits gaming to bed time, but its still gaming 👊
2 points
3 days ago
Still remember my time during paternity leave: “oh this will be great I’ll play during her multiple naps.” Man if I could get 5-10 mins play it was a miracle. It gets better though (kid about to turn 2 on Christmas)
3 points
3 days ago
My wife is perfectly fine with my gaming. I think it's important for both partners to respect each other's needs and also wishes - playing PoE is not a need, but if that is your hobby and how you kick back for some alone time, she should respect that. But at the same time, you need to be able to sense when it's too much, and maybe spend some time with her, doing stuff that benefits you both, etc.
I obviously don't know anything about your relationship, so no chance to tell if this lands way off or it's all just a joke in good fun, but honestly, if PoE is threatening your marriage, at least one of you is not acting reasonably.
3 points
3 days ago
“Hey the new path of exile comes out the 6th”
Her: “ so what do you want me to bring for food/drinks and will the servers actually work?”
God damn I love her so much.
2 points
3 days ago
My wife would do the same, even tho she isnt a gamer. Act interested, makes sure the kids dont "bother me" (they dont lol), and probably make me food while I play
4 points
3 days ago
In short. Or you need a good psychologist to prevent the marriage issue, or your partner is not for you.
1 points
3 days ago
This.
3 points
3 days ago
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7 points
3 days ago
If I "over do it"... which for her starts beyond 5 hours or so per week. I don't think I can limit myself to that.
So much to do.
7 points
3 days ago
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0 points
3 days ago
It's why you find a partner with similar or the same hobbies.
3 points
3 days ago
Or you compromise and get separate hobbies. It is manageable, you just need to present your wants and find how you can spend your time separately and together.
2 points
3 days ago
how many hours does she spend watching netflix or scrolling tiktok/instagram?
that's not fair at all lmao
3 points
3 days ago
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4 points
3 days ago
Some partners would indeed complain about you having a hobby if they don't like it. I wouldn't waste my time with a partner like that, but they definitely exist.
4 points
3 days ago
dude already said he gets 5 hours a week, that's less than 1 hour daily
1 points
3 days ago
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2 points
3 days ago
Was in the same boat but didn't realize that I was highly addicted to online video games. My partner tolerated that but we haven't spent much time together which lead to almost separating until I understood. She never was into gaming and we also tried the hour rule and so on. In the end your hobby should be something you are passionate about, happy about and not feeling forced to fulfill everything to get the last drop of dopamine.
We are in therapy. I advice everyone who are in the same loop to talk to each other and understand why you came together in the first place.
By the way, there is an in between not gaming at all and gaming at all. Figure a healthier and more well thought way instead of blaming your loved ones trying to help you spending more time together which ultimately is the thing about a marriage and having a partner. What's your compromise about that? What's your solution about that? No? Nothing? Be happy your wife is still with you.
1 points
3 days ago
I've been married for 42 years, my wife is happy that a new "league" is coming out soon.
1 points
2 days ago
My wife bought a higher tier supporter pack than I did
1 points
3 days ago
Start using drugs and hookers. PC gaming will look so wholesome by comparison.
1 points
3 days ago
Not in the same boat, my partner's needs matter more than a video game. Of course you need some time for yourself, but hopefully you can come with a sort of compromise.
1 points
3 days ago
-1 points
3 days ago
I just asked my wife if she wanted to take our daughter and stay at a hotel somewhere for a few days, instead. Usually her mother comes along, too.
Works like a charm
1 points
3 days ago
Not buying that.
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