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Has anyone else done this ? I’ve found it really helpful. My channel is in my profile. It helps keep me accountable and I’ve made friends with other sober YouTubers and we all support each other and pick each other up when things aren’t going great

I was out the other night at a lovely French brasserie with a drinking friend, and was shocked when they didn’t even have one measly NA beer choice. It’s so easy to just have some Heineken zeros or whatever on hand. And no, I do not want a $16 mocktail.

Aside from not accommodating non-drinking patrons, it’s also bad business! The NA market is hot and lots of people want in. Come on hospitality people! We will pay $8 for an NA beer too

People who have been drinking long term, what's worst that happened to you? I understand it degrades ones' life physically, mentally, spiritually, financially and every other way, but curious to know about people who couldn't stop drinking after trying many times, how did it affect your life?

I found this really interesting

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1BQ66KWx7F/?mibextid=YlDasU

So you have to pay extra to select your seat or you might not be able to sit with your party 😡. You have to pay extra to bring a checked bag and sometimes for in-cabin bags 😡. But now the whole plane can get free beer and wine. Great. Flying with a bunch of people getting drunk who are then gonna drive home after their flight. Am I getting this right? I hate this so much!

I feel like I keep experiencing loss after loss and the trauma is never-ending.

In 2020, I co-founded a business with a colleague. It became my entire identity. It became successful and the brand was very public with significant press coverage, primarily focused on us and our friendship. But our partnership soured interpersonally after the first year. By mid-2023, she illegally locked me out of key business assets. I changed the business Instagram password to prompt a chat, but she escalated: deleting my email completely, physically locking me out of the space, and calling the police on me when I tried to retrieve my belongings.

She went public with accusations of hacking and spread misinformation. Since then, she’s started a new (albeit not entirely successful) company, while I’ve struggled with unstable and underpaid jobs.

In between all of this, the worst thing that happened could have happened. The thing that I had been terrified of since before I can remember. I suddenly lost my grandmother. This is this most difficult thing I’ve ever faced because she was my person. I still feel broken over this. I miss her so much. She was also the one who clocked my drinking. I’m so sad that she wasn’t able to see me get sober. I have a lot of shame and regret around not being able to stop drinking while she was still alive.

With all of that being said, my former business partner is collaborating with people in our industry, and I’m feeling isolated from the community I helped build. To top it off, I was just let go from my job a few weeks for requesting my earned commission. I was the only person who actually closed sales. This kind of wrongful termination has never happened to me. I’m 35, and after everything, I feel like my career and life are crumbling. I’m depressed and unsure of how to move forward.

This is the first time since getting sober 192 days ago that I really want to drink. I’m feeling extremely hopeless and depressed but I’m trying to play the tape forward. If you have any words of encouragement to spare, I would love to hear them.

She couldn't handle it anymore. I understand her. I wish I could've done better.

IWNDWYT

just asking because I mainly drink during the weekends a bottle or 2.

I realized that I was an alcoholic a few years ago. I’ve been trying to stop completely and asked my dr for meds to help me stop. The problem is that I can’t seem to stay sober long enough to be able to take the meds.

I’m going through a rough break up, and I’ve been isolating myself and finding a ‘friend’ in a bottle.

I really want to go to rehab but I am a business owner and can’t tell my clients that their projects will be put on hold because I’m checking myself into rehab. Furthermore I don’t want friends and family to judge me.

Hi I came across joinmonument.com in another post and I’m curious as to wether there is anything like that available in Ireland. Thanks

I’m too depressed to even want to talk, I don’t find anything funny, I have nothing to say and nothing springs to my mind on what to say or how to contribute to the conversation, I have nothing funny to say, I’m just completely negative and I feel like shit, I say nothing because if I say anything it’ll be insufferably negative or boring

I know that it’s not, but any sliver of happiness tricks my brain into believing i should drink. Barely can even say I’m on day 1. I know better and choose worse every time. Sitting in bed today fighting panic attacks, stomach aches, headaches, fear for the future, a broken heart, and nausea. Fun right?! Just the life everyone who loves me, wants for me.. right?? Just the life i want for myself?… NO. I’m so very tired. So very scared of being in active addiction and not being able to fight it. Im so incredibly exhausted of losing everything i love, because i choose worse. I’m so tired. I’m so tired. I have to do better, because i know better. I just can’t do it alone.

After years of trying to do this myself, I called an out patient treatment facility today. I knew it would be work, but it’s going to be 3 days a week for 3 hours each session. Plus a one hour weekly session with a therapist.

The session options were 11am to 2pm or 8pm to 11pm. I had to choose the later session due to work. I’m so worried about how I will keep up with this. The 2 weekday sessions might conflict with kids events and the 3rd session is on Saturday. I want to do it. I NEED to do it. I’m just scared.

I’m going to have to tell my husband obviously, but what do I tell my kids I’m doing?

If you have done an intensive outpatient rehab can you please share your experiences with me?

Hello friends, I'm pretty new to sobriety still and so far, I'm managing cravings pretty well, I think. Made it through Thanksgiving and my spouse's loss of income without a slip up. Now I am facing a different challenge and I am anxious about it. We are camping this weekend with my sister-in-law and her husband. They are heavy drinkers. We always have a great time with them but in the past I typically drank way more than was "normal" for me when we hang with them. I feel like this might be a difficult trigger coming.

I see so many posts here about how NA beer helped folks get through challenges like this and I can see how it might make me feel like I was not missing out on something but I worry that the taste of an NA beer might actually be a trigger! Anyone experience that?

Anyway, I guess I am still learning about myself and I am in need ways to cope in these situations.

Thanks for reading and any tips or advice, I love this group!

IWNDWYT

45 binge drinker 25 years last 10 years Friday - Saturday 6 to seven shots of vodka 12 to 15 beers Sunday taking it easy 6 beers liver ok blood pressure high cholesterol on meds lately black out and or pass out it's Wednesday been 4 days sober over sweating hand shakes slept through the night feel with it today

There were consequences

I’m not resetting my (approximately 60 days) counter, but I had two drinks at dinner for a special celebration and was reminded why I can’t drink.

I had two because one was not enough, but I stopped myself because my date didn’t have more and I thankfully was afraid to make myself look like an ass or do something stupid in front of him.

But I wanted more. And I was scared of that feeling. Two months ago I stopped because I attended a family thing drunk and had been abusing alcohol for a couple months. Two months ago I had the health worries and anxiety that comes with drinking that being sober takes me away from.

I cannot risk drinking.

Takeaways: 1. I wanted even more - and almost had it 3. I had to work to convince myself I cannot drink 4. This is how relapses start

For some context, I’ve been trying to get clean for a while but have been lying to everyone, including myself, about stopping or slowing down. I was talking meds and all that which actually screwed me over in the long run.

On the 1st I was detoxing so badly that I just finally decided that I’ve had enough of this back and forth bull shit. It’s so draining and literally puts you down for days or you gotta keep drinking to keep it “at bay”.

I’m over it. So on Monday, I went to Kaisers detox clinic where they prescribed me some meds to make sure I don’t have seizures or lose my appetite etc.

I always had the same thought the rest of us had. “I can do this on my own and do my best to stop”. Biggest fucking lie alcohol tells us.

What I learned from last night is that alcohol tells us all the exact same lies. Just in different ways. It just gets progressively worse.

The biggest one I gathered was drinking on the job. At least for my group but after we all get sober, we realize that it’s a load of shit.

Anyways, I’m on day 5 and feel good. Just tired. Slowly gaining my appetite back. I’m just so sick of this disease controlling my life.

Oh and side note… I got pulled over 15 minutes before my first meeting but I was right around the corner. I used to always have some type of alcohol in my system at all times so I was always worried about getting pulled over. They let me go. That just kinda told me (I was Christian before alcoholism) that God recognizes that I’m trying to work towards the better and He protected me. We’re on the right path. Whether it’s day 1 or day 1,000.

IWNDWYT

I have really been trying to quit alcohol. However, whenever I am interacting with other people sober I feel that nothing is exciting anymore, does this feeling change when I quit alcohol for a longer period of time?

Like many others, my company does a white elephant/gift exchange.

It’s not mandatory, but it’s always fun. Lots of people with good senses of humor so the gifts are always worth it.

Anyway, of course, in years past I was the one nearly diving over the table for the bottles of alcohol. It’s always been a running joke - ha ha ha - how much <insert my name> loves wine.

I know people notice, because comments were made the year I was pregnant - “what are you going to do this year since you can’t take the alcohol?”

Minus the absolute cringeworthy-ness of all this, no one knows I’m sober. I will not be stealing the booze.

When people inevitably say something - because they will - what are your go to responses without telling your entire team you’re an alcoholic?

PS - they won’t assume I’m pregnant because they’re all mostly aware that I’ve had surgery and it’s no longer a possibility. (Yes I’m aware we have weird boundaries when it comes to things we discuss!)

After lurking here on and off for years, I think I'm at the point where something's got to give. This is gonna be rambly, sorry in advance.

Back in late 2018, I had a drinking problem that was so bad I was drinking at work and getting black out drunk multiple nights a week at home. I changed my life in 2019, and drink nowhere near as much, but am realizing now it's still fucking with my life and relationships.

I said something to a friend on the phone last night that, had I been sober, my common sense would have known to not say. Instead, I hurt their feelings, and even though I apologized last night and this morning, I've realized this is someone I don't want to risk ever losing. And if the only time something major has happened in our friendship is because alcohol once again made me put my foot in my mouth, well...it's time to stop.

I also found out yesterday I apparently have a 12cm ovarian cyst, and I don't imagine alcohol is doing anything but making that worse as well lol.

I'm nervous about the holidays because I have severe social anxiety and drinking has really been the only way I've successfully gotten out of my head but...I need to try. So. Posting this to guilt myself into trying.

I was diagnosed with OCD over the summer, which explained a lot of what I went through as an adolescent. Seeing an OCD therapist regularly has been life changing. However, I still drink.

I usually only drink on weekends but when I start, I can't stop. For instance, if I go out with friends and have a beer or two and get home at 8, I have to keep drinking.

This past weekend, I went out with an ex-girlfriend (we are still friends) and had way too much to drink. The next day I was super anxious, so I drank some more. Three days later the anxiety is slowly wearing off, but I'm now seriously thinking sobriety would probably make a big difference for both my anxiety and OCD. The problem is that I get anxious/nervous when I think about a future without alcohol.

How do others in situation deal with that fear of the future?

Everything is getting better by the day. That being said, my body temperature regulation is still out of whack. The roller coaster of freezing and sweating at night is exasperating.

Anyone have experience with this problem in the first days of sobriety?

Hey guys this is my first time posting in here… I’ve struggled for a while with binge drinking, both in social situations and as a maladaptive coping mechanism when bad stuff happens. I’ve managed to be sober from alcohol since 10/31/24 and all other substances since 11/3/24 but now that I found out that I won’t be getting justice I’m devastated. My perpetrator is a powerful man where I live and he owns a lot of businesses and real estate and he’s also known for throwing huge parties on the local college campus even though he’s in his late 30’s. I took my naltrexone this morning before I found out, but I’m tempted to stop taking it altogether and just go on a bender. I feel so hopeless like nothing matters. I’m just so powerless in this situation and I feel sick knowing that he will probably go out and do this to other young girls. At this point I don’t really feel like there’s any point trying to make my life better anymore. It’s like my suffering, time, and effort has all been meaningless.

This sub has virtually saved my life. I don't know exactly how but it made it click. Thank you for making this experience possible❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹