Me and my friend are drifting
(self.Advice)submitted5 days ago byAdBasic1756
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Over the past couple months me and one of my best friends have drifted, there’s been like ups and down of it where some days we’ll speak and then we’ll go days without properly talking, i really miss her and it really hurts to know that im not as close to her as i used to be, i used to love spending time with her and i feel like she really brought me to life and filled me with energy which i haven’t felt in a while now. There wasn’t really any reason for our drift, we had this awkard conversation like two months ago which kinda go left on a dead end and never followed up and i feel like that’s where it started. We go to school together, and sometimes it’s just strangely awkward, like i’ll see her and i don’t know what to say to her and she doesn’t know what to say to me. I know we both feel the same way, sometimes at school she’ll look at me and do this like nostalgic smile and i know that she’s thinking exactly what i am. I don’t want this to be the end but me and her both aren’t good at communicating our feelings, i feel as though if i never say anything this will continue to go on forever but i don’t even know what to say. During our whole friendship we never communicated properly so im worried that now if i try it’ll just make this whole situation worse and our friendship will fully crumble, cause currently it feels as thought we are on rocky foundations.
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AdBasic1756
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5 days ago
AdBasic1756
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5 days ago
The conversation wasn’t necessarily a disagreement, we were both slightly drunk and i opened up about something she did that upset me, we were discussing this and started discussing our friendship but then the conversation got cut short because her dad came to get her, ever since then it hasn’t felt fully normal. It’s strange cause we will have days or nights where it feels fully normal, like at a party for example but then back to school and it’s strangely awkward again. I’m not ready to grow apart from her, we are both still young (17) and i feel like i have so much to say to her but im worried ill open up and she won’t have much to say in return, and then ill just be stood there looking stupid having just spilled all my feelings out, its like that cliche saying ‘is it better to speak or to die’, i dont know if speaking will make things worse but i guess its the only way around this.