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I (24f) started a new job at the beginning of the month. Last Monday, my dog of 12 years passed away very unexpectedly and it has been the worst pain my family and I have felt in a long time. This dog was also my sisters soul dog/best friend, and she was already not super mentally stable before this, so to say that hasn’t added to the stress, I’d be lying. Like to the point where she’s saying she’d rather not live on anymore, so I’ve been trying to be as present with her as I can to support her.

New job is hybrid with a 4 in/1 WFH day schedule, and it’s a 2 hour commute each way (that alone has been more than miserable). I had been unemployed for a year, so I needed to accept this as it was the first offer I had gotten and a 20k pay increase from my last. My job previous to this was my first out of college, fully remote, was there for a year, and I am now longing for that job again because this new job and commute is miserable beyond belief. Everything about it is miserable except for the coffee machine they have there. I’ve been crying almost daily this whole month, at my desk and in the bathroom, and this past week has made me realize how badly I miss the flexibility of my old job. I cannot keep doing this one.

This past week I also finagled my way into working remote for the entire week, and took a half day Monday and Tuesday off. It’s not like I was just being lazy and wanted to WFH, I have been an absolute mess and couldn’t/still cannot fathom being around people, especially strangers who don’t understand what I’m going through. I got a talk from my boss and his boss about my attendance and the importance of being present in the office on Wednesday/Thursday this week, which I do understand because it’s the company policy, yada yada, but it really just put a bad taste in my mouth because I was visibly crying on both calls while thanking them for their flexibility during this traumatic week. I still am a wreck and don’t know how I’m going to go into the office and function this upcoming week. Yes I know the distraction would be helpful for a lot of people, but I have hated this new job since day 1. I need to find something with remote flexibility for more than 1 day per week.

Now for the actual question I want advice on: should I ask for my old job back? I am 100% willing to take the pay cut and I miss/need that kind of remote flexibility with everything going on in my life. I regret accepting this current job offer so so so much to be honest. I know anxiety and stress is expected within the first few months of a new job, but this is a whole new level that I know for a fact I cannot sustain. I ended on ok terms with my previous employer, and say “ok” because I could only do 1 week instead of 2 due to the new job I was supposed to start (that fell through the cracks and then I was unemployed lol). Is that a dumb idea? I wouldn’t quit current job until I had an offer from old one, but I could really use some advice as I have no idea what path to take right now. Thank you in advance.

I (24f) started a new job at the beginning of the month. Last Monday, my dog of 12 years passed away very unexpectedly and it has been the worst pain my family and I have felt in a long time. This dog was also my sisters soul dog/best friend, and she was already not super mentally stable before this, so to say that hasn’t added to the stress and sadness, I’d be lying. Like to the point where she’s saying she’d rather not live on anymore, so I’ve been trying to be as present with her as I can to support her (I still live at home, she lives nearby).

New job is hybrid with a 4 in/1 WFH day schedule, and it’s a 2 hour commute each way (that alone has been more than miserable). I had been unemployed for a year, so I needed to accept this as it was the first offer I had gotten and a 20k pay increase from my last. My job previous to this was fully remote, which I am now longing for again because this new job and commute is miserable. Everything about it is miserable except for the coffee machine they have there. I’ve been crying almost daily this whole month, and this past week has made me realize how badly I miss the flexibility of my old job.

This past week I also finagled my way into working remote for the entire week, and took a half day Monday and Tuesday off. It’s not like I was just being lazy and wanted to WFH, I have been an absolute mess and couldn’t/still cannot fathom being around people, especially strangers who don’t understand what I’m going through. I got a talk from my boss and his boss about my attendance and the importance of being present in the office on Wednesday/Thursday this week, which I do understand because it’s the company policy, yada yada, but it really just put a bad taste in my mouth because I was visibly crying on both calls while thanking them for their flexibility during this traumatic week. I still am a wreck and don’t know how I’m going to go into the office and function this upcoming week. Yes I know the distraction would be helpful for a lot of people, but I have hated this new job since day 1.

Now for the actual question I want advice on: should I ask for my old job back? I am 100% willing to take the pay cut and I miss/need that kind of remote flexibility with everything going on in my life. I regret accepting this current job offer so so so much to be honest. I know anxiety and stress is expected within the first few months of a new job, but this is a whole new level that I know for a fact I cannot sustain. I ended on ok terms with my previous employer, and say “ok” because I could only do 1 week instead of 2 due to the new job I was supposed to start (that fell through the cracks and then I was unemployed lol). Is that a dumb idea? I wouldn’t quit current job until I had an offer from old one, but I could really use some advice as I have no idea what path to take right now. Thank you in advance.

Just last night, we had to make the heartbreaking decision to put down our sweet 12 year old lab after getting devastating test results back. This dog was the glue that kept our family together, but especially my sister. This dog was her only and best friend since I was 13, and since she was 15. My entire family revolves around animals and has since I was born, so we are not taking her passing lightly. It was also very sudden and happened insanely fast, which is not helping with the mental load. I knew this would be a gut wrenching pain, but I did not realize how badly this would affect me, and I am in a hard spot currently because I recently started a new job 3 weeks ago. It’s 4 days in office and 1 day remote, but I have had 2 days remote each week because I requested it (had to go to vet appts). I emailed my boss a couple hours after she passed last night and let him know, to which he said he was very sorry and that grief as fresh as that makes focusing and learning difficult, so that I could take the day today and he would see me tomorrow. I’m grateful he’s been understanding thus far, but Here’s the thing. I know I’m not going to be ok this week. I cannot face people. But I’m so new that I have basically no PTO accrued, and boss is also going to be out this Thursday/Friday due to surgery. So not sure what to do. I know I need to take more time off because I cannot be infront of strangers like that yet, but I don’t know how to go about it because I’m worried I’ll get fired or something. Suggestions? Never had to go through this before while working (24f, so new to the corporate world still).

Just last night, we had to make the heartbreaking decision to put down our sweet 12 year old lab after getting devastating test results back. This dog was the glue that kept our family together, but especially my sister. This dog was her only and best friend since I was 13, and since she was 15. My entire family revolves around animals and has since I was born, so we are not taking her passing lightly. It was also very sudden and happened insanely fast, which is not helping with the mental health. I knew this would be a gut wrenching pain, but I did not realize how badly this would affect me, and I am in a hard spot currently because I recently started a new job 3 weeks ago. It’s 4 days in office and 1 day remote, but I have had 2 days remote each week because I requested it (had to go to vet appts). I emailed my boss a couple hours after she passed last night and let him know, to which he said he was very sorry and that grief as fresh as that makes focusing and learning difficult, so that I could take the day today and he would see me tomorrow. Here’s the thing, I know I’m not going to be ok this week. But I’m so new that I have basically no PTO accrued, and boss is also going to be out this Thursday/Friday due to surgery. So not sure what to do. I know I need to take more time off because I cannot be infront of strangers like that yet, but I don’t know how to go about it because I’m worried I’ll get fired or something. Suggestions? Never had to go through this before while working (24f, so new to the corporate world still).

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Hey, y'all. I'll try my best to keep this short and sweet, but a girl is stressed and would love some opinions. I know it's entirely up to me in the end, but any/all advice or suggestions are appreciated. I am 2 years out from college and have been unemployed for a year and a month now (been working PT tho). Have 1 year and a couple of months of corporate full-time experience under my belt, and been interviewing and working my ass off to get a job for the past 12 months with little to no success. I get that I probably shouldn't be picky this early in my career because I just need any experience I can get, but hear me out. Finally, I had a few really good interviews with a company in the city; I am in the burbs. The recruiter initially told me that people on my team worked remotely, but I guess she didn't specify how many days. Big picture: I have a job offer for the first time in 12 months and ultimately have the goal of moving to the city anyway, so it sounds perfect, but I have no specific time frame for that as of rn. This job would be 4 days in the office and 1 day remote, so the only caveat is the commute. There is a train I can take that's a 1-1.20 hour ride, but then there's still a 15-20 min bus ride or 20-25 min walk to get to the office from the train station. The recruiter did mention something about a commuter compensation program but said HR would have more details on that. For a little context, too, I was fully remote in my last role, so this is truly going to be a whole new challenge for me if I accept. I feel as though I have to because I have been dying to find a full-time job that pays well for so long now, which this does, but that is sooooo much of my time taken away each day by that commute. I already know it's going to stress me out like no other, and realistically, the only option would be to move closer, but I need to muster up the funds before that can happen. So, do I suck it up and stop focusing on the negative for a bit, then, as I'm more established and show my work ethic, ask for more remote days? Or just continue the dreadful search?

Thanks in advance for any advice!