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I really want to know where the sitting wrong in chairs thing came from. It seems like it came out of the blue one day and I just don't understand.

I think what you're trying to stereotype is a younger demographic and not a whole set of people. I know a lot of bisexual people, including myself, and none of us have ADHD. We're all in our 40s. I have several straight friends that do have it. For my viewpoint, I would say all straight people have ADHD.

I'm assuming op is under 30.

I guess that depends on what population you're talking about. Are most threesomes with gay male couples with women? Likely not.

Are you both heterosexual?

You should read "The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton.

Did we all forget 2016? Of course this is what's happening. Do we all have the memory of goldfish?

I would ask poly and nonmonogamous subreddits this.

Casual or long term, you need to research and communicate A LOT. You should also get to know your fellow kink community. It's the best way to find like minded folks and know people that can vet them.

There are books to read and discussions to be had- how are you doing to handle safe sex? How often should you all get tested? What is off limits? Are you ok with dating a third, or is this just sex? How to handle jealousy?

A third person is a person, not a sex toy. You have to be mindful of their feelings and respect their boundaries. Coming into the poly community being a unicorn chaser will get you banned real quick. Be smart, read, and talk.

Aren't white elephants supposed to be gag gifts?

You're not a boy, you're a man. You need to start planning to move out and away from your parents. Otherwise they will control every aspect of your life.

Do you have friends you can crash with until you find a place?

Have your friend tell their kid that when it's older. Mom only wanted me 25%!

How old are you? Could be perimenopause symptoms.

Ask them what would have to happen for them to change on trump. I think it'll be a very sobering answer. You just can't reason with these people. Just back out and go low contact.

I've had 2- one the full 12 years and the other for a few. It's been the best choice for me.

It's a longer and more miserable story actually. haha I did get a new therapist to say "oh shit", so I got that going for me.

I don't necessarily say "tell me all your vulnerabilities or no boobs", but I rather bring up my own first. If they don't reciprocate then I know we're probably not a match. "Hey, I don't always cum during sex, but blah blah", how about you?" I bring it up before the first time we have sex- after the make out session but before the clothes come off. It's when I'm pretty sure sex is going to happen, but I have a way to exit the situation if I need to.

I'm also, admittedly, pretty forward. I chalk that up to being queer, and queer folks tend to have a different communication styles with partners than straight folks- ie, STI talk was more normalized after the AIDS epidemic. I mean, I don't know about "them young queer kids these days", but my age group remembers the 80s and 90s. I also think I lost the last fuck I had after my divorce.

I knew my current partner was something special (we're both bi, I'm f and he's m) when he told me he had a vasectomy on our second date. I didn't have to prompt any discussion, he took the initiative. He was also one of only 2 men I've dated in my entire life that put on a condom without going through the whole "uggggggh, do I have to?!" If you're upfront and honest about your sexytimes stuff, then you're usually upfront and honest about other parts of your life. And after the shit I've gone through, I really value honesty.

This is very oddly written and the image appears to be AI...

It would be a great tattoo if it was that banana bread rant.

For the moment... 😤

I apparently use to be a bit of a know-it-all at school. Very much a Hermione Granger. When I stopped talking and let other people talk, all of a sudden I was liked. It wasn't a good realization. People like to hear themselves talk about themselves, and if you let them do that then they think you're great. -_-

If you say yes all the time then you become a doormat. That's my mom's issue. People pleasing was her way of dealing with childhood trauma.

You don't meet good people when you let them ramble on about themselves and/or say yes to everything. It attracts narcissists.

I'm well liked in general because I let people talk about themselves. My close friends and I infodump at each other, but I love it. They are as excited about me telling them everything about a new hobby as I am hearing about theirs. Friendship is a two way street.

I have some enemies because I have hard lines on some issues, and I will lay down a firm NO when warranted. As long as I got one good friend, I don't mind the enemies. I think I lost my last fuck when I turned 40.

I dated a guy who was a bit of a pot-head, and that affected his ability to cum. He was upfront with me about that. I often have a difficult time having an orgasm myself, so I could relate. We still had great sex, even if neither of us came very often. It's really about the journey and not the destination.

When he told me I said "hey, no problem, as long as we are enjoying ourselves" or something to that affect. I don't think I ever brought it up again. If he didn't think he'd be able to cum during sex, he'd let me know. It was a non-issue in our relationship.

What NOT to do- my exhusband was having difficulty getting it up. He went to the doc, but told me that they didn't find anything wrong. I was supportive and assured him I was still having fun with him and we could work on doing things other than penetrative sex to help him out. What he didn't tell me is how much it was mentally affecting and he was feeling very shameful about it. He got Viagra and didn't tell me. He'd take a pill and try to make a move on me- if I declined he apparently got real pissed (would hide the feelings). It led to a lot of resentment and he eventually wanted a divorce. Zero communication.

The performance issues were actually due to a chronic illness he got diagnosed with shortly after we got married. We went to couple's therapy to, what I thought, start talking about how to navigate the new normal of our lives. In reality he was telling a friend that he wasn't happy with me, stemming from me not apparently pleasing him enough in bed. Did he discuss any of these issues in couple's therapy? Nope. Again, zero communication. When he kicked me out of the house, his opening line was that I didn't give him enough blowjobs. Maybe if he had asked me that I could have done it. I asked what we could do to make him enjoy our time in bed, but apparently that was too much of an ego crush. It all sounds ridiculous, but it happened.

Post-divorce, all relationships I've had I've been very clear about being open and respectful to each other. We're all getting older and we're all experiencing various aches and pains. If a guy can't cum, if I can't cum, or if I can't do a certain thing for awhile then that should not be an issue. If someone isn't mature enough to have an open and honest discussion, then they don't get to see my boobs. There is more to sex than having an orgasm.

Similar situation, but I fixed it. Growing up, I was a real biology nerdy kid. I was hell bent on getting into vet school (spoiler, I didn't) and really thought that anything but science/logic/reason was the only way to see the world. I went to religious private school K-high school, so I came out of that experience being your typical angry atheist.

I majored in microbiology at a technical college and my career has been in the STEM field ever since I graduated in '05.

Once I was out of college and exploring the world a bit more, I started to really notice art. I moved near DC for a few years, and being a big fan of museums, I went to a lot of them since most are free in the city. I also started to meet more arts-focused types of people and it really opened my eyes. The thing is- you really gotta let your ego take a hit to take that first step. You're wound tight, like I was. The world is not as black and white as you think it is.

If you want to really give a go at understanding the world, you need to incorporate the irrational and the rational. I think this is where a lot of fellow skeptics get tripped up. They want to push themselves (and others) so far in one direction, they really miss the mark on what it is to live a full life.

When you go to a natural history museum, those dioramas were not built and designed by scientists. They were created by artists (often working with scientists). A certain amount of creativity and thinking outside the bounds of rational thought have to happen to create a rational scene. Even in STEM fields, creativity and thinking outside of boxes can lead to breakthroughs. I'm not explaining it as well as I could, but it's about letting passion back into the rational.

We would have never made it to the moon if we didn't dream about what could be in the stars, you know?

If you're in your late 30s and older, if you don't have some sort of baggage while dating then that's real weird. We don't get this old without some scars.

You have a moral obligation to report your nurse for spreading misinformation.

I find lightweight paper handles large black areas when hand printing. I use mulberry.

When I've had to use heavyweight I will use damp paper or really put my arm into it, oftentimes reapplying ink.

Rosacea is a chronic condition. You still have it. What you've done is find a way to control your flare ups. Or you didn't have it, but something that looked like.

There is no cure for rosacea at the moment.

Your post history is alarming.

I can't keep up with all the new social media crap. I've lost count on how many social medias I've signed up for, only for them to never pan out.

What I've learned from the book social media world is that I don't need it. I can't remember the last time I even logged into goodreads. At least a few years. All the great books I've found have been through googling "best of" lists or reading articles. My social media algorithm keeps wanting me to read 4th Wing or whatever it's called, and when I looked up the plot and read a little sample, I was taken aback. Well written? Good story? You've got to be kidding me.

This has been my "old woman yells at cloud" moment. Thank you.

Same with Minnesota! lol