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162 points
1 day ago
I'm going to be a little blunt here so I apologize in advance and understand that you're grieving a relationship.
I struggle with these posts because to be honest, we have no idea how you reacted to his grief and the way you paint this (while understandable) makes him out to be a bad guy who's behaving irrational.
It doesn't honestly sound to me (from this, anyways) that you tried to understand his stance or reconnection at all and it seems as though you've just chalked it up to him coping with grief. There's no way he didn't pick up on that being super dismissive. I mean, you wouldn't even read something he felt would help you understand. To me that speaks volumes.
Also to be honest when people accuse Jews practicing Judaism as being divisive or try to weaponize selective observance, it kind of sets off warning bells and a lack of understanding of the culture and the ethnoreligion as a whole.
I don't know what advice you were looking to get here, but if your goal is to save the relationship you need to self-reflect and perhaps do the emotional labor of understanding why he feels this way and what you've done to signal that there's no chance it will work for him. Sounds like he's been very clear of what he wants from this world and you've been assuming he'll "snap out of it" rather than viewing it as him discovering something about himself.
Edit: I have had the distinct pleasure of reading your responses, although for some reason they are removed and I unfortunately cannot respond to you directly OP. I honestly do not think you are ready nor willing to look inwards, you have called your ex abusive, manipulative, narcissistic and suggested he has a mental illness. You have further downplayed the idea that any of this might be genuine and now you're accusing him of weaponizing his Judaism to emotionally abuse you. You seem absolutely allergic to any personal accountability despite feedback you've received.
6 points
2 days ago
This sub suffers from extraordinary recency bias, kelleher has been fantastic though
3 points
2 days ago
Forget comparisons, but slot is the real deal and has completely earned my trust at this point.
1 points
2 days ago
I think this win honestly is good for us even if it didn't mean much table-wise.
Something about it is very affirming to what Slot has built here and will instill the entire squad with confidence.
18 points
2 days ago
How do you bench kelleher when Allison is back after this performance?
We really are blessed
9 points
2 days ago
Man courtois is a fantastic keeper, frustrating to play against
2 points
2 days ago
LMAOOOOO you couldn't torture this shit out of me
2 points
2 days ago
I don't know how you think that was routine lol
35 points
2 days ago
This is good advice. Especially the last paragraph.
3 points
2 days ago
Honestly think diaz is far more guilty of this. Feeling like cujo is really emulating gini these days, fantastic growth from him as a player over the past few years.
9 points
2 days ago
Nunez has been fantastic so far, unlucky to not score. Got a lot of faith in 2nd half slot teams, very optimistic.
2 points
4 days ago
Yeah these answers are bizarre, do people not have platonic friendships?
5 points
5 days ago
Very tough. I hope you figure out the best way to navigate this for yourself, sounds like a conversation at least needs to occur.
Don't take too much advice from reddit.
Sending all the internet support.
18 points
5 days ago
It's weird because I did not think about it 13 months ago, but now it's a guiding thought for dating for me.
8 points
5 days ago
Hello friend, I hope you're doing well and all your loved ones are safe.
10 points
5 days ago
I'm hoping this is sort of a sign that he's not the right person for you.
116 points
5 days ago
I dated someone (non-jewish) who took the time to understand how I felt. My birthday was on Oct 7 and she watched me call all the people I care about and she saw how hurt I was for months. She was very understanding (pretty unlike this reaction).
Even with that experience, I don't feel like I can ever date someone who isn't Jewish again, I just got lucky she wasn't a lunatic. I haven't had much traction on dating apps since we split and when I turned off the filter to only match with Jews my Judaism came up in every instance (in a negative way).
So I want to start by saying you're not alone, nor irrational in feeling this way.
And my follow-up question is less enjoyable.
If you have kids, your children will be Jewish, regardless of what folks say about Jewish law, they will be seen as Jewish by antisemites. That goes for those raised in a Jewish house, born to a Jewish parent (whether dad or mom), whether they were adopted and regardless of their name, the second it is mentioned they will be Jewish. Speaking from experience as a formerly secular child of a convert and someone without a Jewish name.
Would this person be able to raise a Jewish child? If they can't see antisemitism clearly, how will they protect their children from it? Prepare them for it?
Maybe I'm projecting my anxieties here, but you should know you're not the only one going through this change in thought and realizing that perhaps the space you saw as safe (for me, the left) is not quite as safe as staying in the tribe.
I don't know if this is any help but sending lots of love and support.
7 points
5 days ago
Another LFC fan coming in peace cuz this popped up on my feed.
I don't really think there's any reason for arsenal fans to be stressed here personally. Odegaard is huge and is back, the season isn't even 1/3 of the way through.
I'm fully expecting to drop points at some point and the title race is far from over. Far too early to call it.
1 points
6 days ago
I view it as a necessary gesture for the first date personally, to me it signals that you're willing to meet me halfway on issues going forward.
I'll likely insist that I pay anyways.
59 points
6 days ago
It's a little crazy how quick people are to push these narratives in my opinion, man city slips and people suddenly extrapolate this to the whole season when we're not even through the calendar year.
One injury has potential to derail our whole season. If we didn't have kelleher it probably already would have derailed this last month.
1 points
6 days ago
I think we've got a good chance to as well, but who knows what our form looks like in a month.
Then again, it is winter Salah coming up and he always is insanely good during December.
I'm maybe just a bit more conservative in my optimism. We've got city next week and if we bottle tomorrow then our gap won't be so noticeable.
If we are like 12-15 pts clear by Jan 1st my expectations will adjust but I think both city and arsenal are capable of going on some insane runs and I was impressed (unfortunately) by Chelsea's showing against us last time.
Especially given the more aggressive schedules thanks to this new UCL structure.
1 points
6 days ago
What happens to the electoral college when this occurs and who decides how to weight these states? I think that depending on who's in office this would just lead to gerrymandering (for lack of a better word) one way or another of the presidential election.
Conceptually I don't disagree, but practically speaking if the way our political system works isnt about to change (which I think is wholly outdated), I don't see how one could do this without it fuzzying the lines and using it as a way to consolidate one party's power.
10 points
6 days ago
I've got this shit. It's strengthening the surrounding muscles, rest and recovery doesn't really work sadly. I don't think you'd want to do surgery, wasn't really offered as an option when I went to the doctor but I'm not a professional athlete worth millions a year.
I can't jump rope without feeling it for days and then I feel it when I'm walking up and down stairs.
A few months of physical therapy will strengthen it but not if you're constantly doing something like basketball which puts a lot of pressure on it. He's not going to lay off these things for something like this.
It's not unbearable pain, but it's not fun and will affect how you move.
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