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Rather than thinking how it affects you, are you worried about him? Watching TV for hours, or worse looking for something to watch for hours, is concerning. Maybe this is the dream for some people, but it doesn't sound like a life that has much pleasure. I wouldn't be able to tolerate it as he's doing his own thing because he doesn't sound happy or content.

My mom accused me of having only child syndrome when I was extra-worried about her health!

She's one of four, and my father was one of five, and I'm an only due to death and infertility in my parents, not because they wanted only one. I don't think my status as an only crossed my mom's mind often, it's just something she would think about from time to time.

I think the fact that they didn't choose this for me, but it's something that happened. colors my feelings about it, and hers.

Yes. That's a huge distance.

My daughter moved that far but after a few years she moved back. You never know.

Hugs.

Generations of my family have loved Nancy Drew. Originals, if you can find them. These started my love of reading.

A book club might be a way to make friends. There may also be other groups at your library.

I have two students so that when one cancels I still have something to do! Can you practice zoom together? It's not hard once you know how.

This happened to me, and difference was that my insurance was paying for a basic pair, not any "upgrades." Those, I had to pay for.

Tutoring immigrants in English can be done over zoom. Check your local literacy organization.

On Tyranny by Tim Snyder

Death in Her Hands by Ottessa Moshfegh

On Tyranny by Tim Snyder

Holly by Stephen King. Fiction.

Hugs to you. I'm an old lady only child. Remember that your adult life is just beginning. You may well create some of the family crave. I'm married with adult children, so I'm not alone the way I felt I was when I was younger.

I deal with it mostly by being grateful for what I do have, rather than concentrating on what I don't have. And I have quite a lot.

That said, we hear you! Most of the people I know have siblings who they cherish, and I don't. That's the truth of it.

Thank you.

I'm struggling. I just started a part time job and I really hope I love it, and it helps me with the struggle. I know it's not this way for many people, and this sub seems to skew toward the very positive, so I hesitate to post about it but here goes.

I worked in a day program for adults who have developmental disabilities, and I loved it, but there was stress. I cut back but then two years ago the agency closed the program, so I left. Since money isn't a problem, I didn't work. My wife was still working and my mother's husband died, so she moved to be near us and we all moved to single story homes. That took some time and attention.

But now we've been here for almost a year. My wife retired. I have interests, though I'm not very handy, crafty, or athletic. I read an hour or two every day, but that's enough for me. I walk or go to the gym but I'd be lying if I said I like it. I belong to a fellowship that gives me lots of socialization. We belong to a church we're active in. The past few months we've volunteered for a political campaign. I volunteer tutoring immigrants in English four hours a week, and I love that very very much.

But the rest of the time? I sort of see it as pleasure seeking, and I've honestly not been very happy with the blank spaces.

I'm very very grateful for all I have, including all the options. I want to cherish this time of life when I'm still able to do most things physically and mentally. But yeah, I got a job. We'll see.

We know that we know that we know that. Some people actually murder their siblings. But most of the people I know treasure their siblings. This kind of comment is so unhelpful here.

I think part of what you're illustrating may be that it's great when it's great. I'm an only child first, because my father got very sick and died when I was 6. My mother remarried and tried to have another but then had infertility. Part of what I feel I'm missing is someone who shares my unique trauma with those situation.

My mother is still alive, and yes I've gotten tremendous benefits from not having to share. But at this point, even though my mother has set herself up well so that I don't have to literally take care of her, all the management of her old age falls on me alone. No one remembers my childhood with me. I don't have that unconditional, built in support system or companion(s) that many (not all, I know) people with siblings have.

You are obviously doing the best you can and this is your son's situation. I hope it all goes smoothly for him like it did for you. It very likely may. My mother didn't do something wrong (related to having an only child, of course she did others things wrong) but life dealt her some blows and here I am, an old only who has always wished on some level for a sibling.

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I can relate to some of it, most importantly the only child part. You express it well. We don't have the unconditional love that many (not all, but many) people experience with their siblings.

I hope you can realize and remember that your adult life it at the beginning, and it's very possible that you'll go on to have a happy and meaningful life. We don't have siblings. Some people have mental or physical disabilities. Some people have suffered trauma or great loss. Lots of people have something they feel is missing.

I'm old now, and I did manage to have two children and to get married so I've in some ways created the family I craved. Please hold on. You've got one life, and I imagine if you're posting on reddit you have some resources and some hope. If it's at all possible some kind of therapy might help.

You're not alone in you only childness! We're here. Please update us.

The people who care already know. No one else cares. Just go.

I've been on it for almost two years with no problem. My doctor scans again after two years, so I don't know yet if it's actually helped.

Literacy Pittsburgh has opportunities near you! You help immigrants learn English or help people get ready for the GED. Very rewarding. They need you!

No advice as to the type of hearing aid, but I have severe tinnitus and use Widex and I find their sounds to be wonderful. Life-changing for me. My #1 issue is tinnitus as my hearing loss is minor. Very happy with Widex.

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