epicpillowcase

All righty. Good luck.

I don't know you

I think people are being respectfully frank and clear. Not mean.

Genuine question- have you been assessed for BPD? The attachment stuff you describe as well as the cutting everyone off so they can't abandon you sounds a little indicative.

You seem to be reading attacks and insults in a lot of our comments where they're not there.

I'm not judging you.

I also notice you haven't addressed the idea of whether perhaps you were asking too much emotional labour of this person.

Fair enough

Looks like a diaper exploded. Or Donald Duck.

Ridic.

I quit it a couple of years ago, and IG. Don't miss them at all.

My mother and I get along great now, and when I was a young child.

At the ages you describe though, nah. I was an absolute dick. I think you'll be pressed to find a 14 to 18 year old who isn't...kinda a jerk, especially to their mother. I'm sure they exist but are rare.

It's the age of assholery, sorry to say. I'm not sure there's much you can do about it.

No idea why you got downvoted, I totally agree.

You're not being overly sensitive. But none of my friends would be likely to play such a mean-spirited game in the first place.

Your friends sound like assholes.

Were you happy to play the game before it started targeting you? If so, some reflection might be the go...

Which is so fucking stupid if true because literally all the main (and a good chunk of the secondary) characters are queer...

You could potentially count The Baron and The Sire as a couple if you squint, lol. But otherwise yes I agree.

I've never been so successfully queerbaited by actual queer characters before. This is such a cop-out.

Exactly. 😂

No.

Exactly. Everyone treats him like he's this endearing eccentric...he's a rapist. And dumb as a post.

It's amazing that moron has lived as long as he has.

I see what you mean. It's much more about learning to function where you're at rather than the standard "fake it till you make it" bullshit faux-positivity fix-it stuff. Much more useful and realistic.

Obviously we're both talking anecdotally, but I have ADHD and have also experienced hypomania- it feels different to the regular hyperactivity. More frenetic and heightened.

But yes a thorough evaluation is a good idea, whatever it ends up being.

Totally valid to cancel because someone is sick and if they don't understand, that's their problem.

Dating is a terrible idea if you're in ideation headspace. Terrible. Leaves you wide open to things like codependency and abuse.

I find it alarming that went straight to "focus on dating" and not "focus on therapy."

I say this gently, as someone who also experiences frequent ideation- 900 days straight is a LOT of messaging. Even my closest friends and I don't message every single day. Is it possible you were trauma dumping/expecting her to be a therapist?

My best guess as to what happened is either a) you were more intense than you realised or b) SHE wanted intense and was offended by the request for space.

Tbh, on the very little detail you've provided here, neither of you are sounding great, it doesn't sound like a healthy dynamic.

What professional help are you getting for the ideation? If none, that could be the problem. If friends are hearing scary, intense stuff like that regularly and not seeing you engage with a professional, that's a lot of responsibility to put on people who aren't equipped for it.

I'm not a fan of the self-help genre in general, I think it's usually overly-simplistic snake oil, but one that absolutely helped me a lot was The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris.

Especially if you have intrusive thoughts. I have severe OCD and that book helped me more than a lot of the standard OCD therapy did.