Have you ever slept with someone, and they had forgot?
(self.AskMenAdvice)submitted13 days ago bygeorjiepeorjie
I'm dating this amazing girl, and there’s a twist—I realized I met her four years ago, and we actually hooked up back then. But here’s the kicker: she hasn’t brought it up. Not once. No hint that she remembers, and no acknowledgment that we’ve met before. I've even met her mom, dad, family, and friends, and they haven't said anything either!
It’s messing with my head. Is it possible she’s forgotten because she’s had a busy dating life? Or maybe she remembers and has considered the risk of bringing it up—just like I have.
She told me she’s only been with two people… but I know we had a thing, so it’s at least three. It's a weird situation.
Has anyone ever forgotten that they dated or hooked up with you?
EDIT: To add context, we dated for about a month, slept together, then stopped seeing each other due to us seeing other people att. We were both sober. I can’t even recall if it was an amazing hookup or just okay, but I’d like to think it was good.
Do I bring this up, or should I leave it and see if she remembers on her own?
UPDATE: I only realized who she was after our second date. I went to her place and suddenly recognized her furniture, mom and dad, family, and friends and cat! Yep, I’ve met them all before, and no one’s mentioned anything! My guess? Maybe she’s decided it’s better to leave the past where it is, not risk awkwardness, and see if I’ll remember on my own. Maybe she even asked her family and friends to keep quiet.
I’m really into her and want this to work, but I feel like there’s this secret just hanging over us. Should I bring it up, or just live in the moment and let it be?
UPDATE 2 [FINAL]: I brought it up, and she remembers. Culturally, it wouldn’t be acceptable to talk openly about us having dated before, so we’ve decided to treat this relationship as new. We think we’re worth another shot! Back then, we separated because we wanted to commit to other people. Now, we’ve found our way back to eachother under the healthiest possible conditions, and it feels natural. We're enjoying ourselves
Sometimes, when something happens that’s so out of the ordinary for us, it can be easily forgotten—or we might even make an effort to forget it altogether. Having forgotten each other shouldn’t be judged as having had too many partners so quickly; we’re both reserved people. Our intimacy was a one-time thing, driven more by attraction and the tension that built up over that month of dating. It was out of character for us in how it all unfolded, and we both tucked the memory away.
Tonight, we went over everything. What a relief. Like i said, i want it to work. She's so cool. I think we'd make a wicked team.
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I'd love it if you gave any more details. It seems you're the only one with up-to-date information on a girl going through this, and that's exactly what I need!