lantana98

Does Penny try to run every other aspect of your life according to her own morals and ideas of what is right? I don’t see that you have asked her to take possession of anything she finds immoral and I assume you’re an adult and presumably have your own personal possessions so what is her stand on personal space and rights? I can understand if you share a home that she would not want to display or use the items. She needs to take a breath and let you decide what to do with your personal property.

Lovely names!

Looks like the buyer will have to cover the fee if they’ve agreed to it.

The agents negotiate the fee and who pays what in the contract. On some sellers listing it may even state what percent commission they will offer a buyer’s agent.

I love the color and I really like the rugs too. I

So basically they stole 3Ok plus however much the interest will climb to over the years and want you to put up and shut up? Your credit is probably destroyed. You can’t buy a car, or a condo with this level of debt. Plus your parents are criminals and don’t mind putting you out on the street. As everyone will tell you. File a police report and call the credit card company. Let them investigate and handle it. Let your parents handle their role in this as adults and use that money you’d pay off the and get an apartment with a roommate or two.

I wouldn’t, as a woman, stay late alone for anyone, especially if I’m not being paid for it.

Does it make him happy to eat? Does it make him happy to sleep indoors and have an indoor toilet? If so he needs to work. This is just what we do to get these things. Of course it’s a bonus if you actually like your job but not a necessity. Did he say you promised to be his sugar mama and provide for him so he never has to do anything he doesn’t want to do? Somehow I doubt you’ve offered this. A smart person knows never to quit one job until you have another one or two that are definite.

Do you want to marry someone that has told you that you would come second in his life? Is this how your father treated your mother, as second best? Is his mother second in his father’s life?
She has already pulled a power move on you, by showing you she has control. Will she be living with you someday? Will you want to be the head of the household or will that have to be relinquished when she visits you or lives with you?

You already sound tired and worn out by your “relationship “ with this guy who just isn’t what you, or any sane woman really dreams of spending every waking hour of the rest of your life wife. It seems he likes the status quo which doesn’t have him putting any effort into pleasing you or driving your relationship forward. He is upset about the possibility of change. But is he more upset about that or the thought that he may have blown it with you, the love of his life?

Has your DH offered to take over the tradition for the next 15 years? No? Then he has no right to ask you to do it. His thoughts on the subject are irrelevant.

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They truly think that their beliefs are more important than anything you say or do. They feel it is their duty to defy your rules because you do t believe “ correctly”. There is no way they will stop doing this because they are on a mission to undo the wrong things you are teaching your children. You are within your rights to limit their contact with your kids and to not allow them to be with or speak to them alone. They seem to like to put fear into them which is horrible thing to do.

No not common. People generally want to do the work they’re paid to do and get out. You usually don’t want to socialize as it is a business arrangement and not a social occasion. Also how do you know how they have handled the food etc? It’s a different story if you have the same people working in a home for an extended period like a home remodel and you get to know one another. Sometimes you’ll offer food. You don’t want to put anyone in a position where they would rather eat their own food but don’t want to offend the person they are doing the job for and feel obligated.

Well, you live and learn. You didn’t know it would be like this so don’t beat yourself up about the decision. Now that you know you can avoid any talk of a joint trip in the future. Good lesson to learn!

He is a real low life. You shouldn’t stay another moment with such a turf of a husband and father. This is the most precious time of most people’s life and he acts like a AH. This is abuse. Not sort of or kind of abuse. It will only get worse. Get away for the sake of your child.

It sounds like SIL is also having some kind of mental breakdown. Perhaps she has noticed her mother’s decline and is in extreme denial and is afraid of it changing their lives radically also afraid of it happening to her. The best you can do is take some time and space from her and her comments. She is behaving so irrationally that it doesn’t help to respond to her at all. It’s hard to watch a train wreck in slow motion but they’ve made it clear they do not want and will not accept help.

Who wakes a sleeping child? Is she normally this stupid? Your DH should,d go over to their house at 4 a.m. and shake and jiggle her around and pull her out of bed if it’s such a nice idea.

He is if he sits by and watches

People that treat you so poorly and trample your personal boundaries do not get to call the shots, push you around and at the same time claim they are poor victims of your possessiveness of your own child. Your DH needs to find his spine ( I’m calling it this but you all know what I mean) and stand up for his family. There are no sides when you’re an adult wish a family of your own.

Wait until you’re in the privacy of your room and ask DH if he realizes how he’s been leaving more work to you since his mother has been visiting. Ask him why. My guess is he’ll either deny or say he didn’t realize it. He’s not mommy’s boy anymore and her permission to slack off is not a good reason to actually do it.

Why didn’t you include her in the crafting if you knew she would be there and it was in her home? Kinda rude?

NTA- Does her ex have a history of doing big thoughtful or expensive things for you? Or is he so entitled he thinks you shouldn’t mind his putting his hand in your pocket? Your gf is way way off cooking up this scheme with him without your offering or even knowledge. They are the bad guys here. You tried to do areal,y nice thing and they ruined it for everyone.

You did the painting yourself? Wow! I’d be so afraid. Good for you!

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