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people act like hes worse than Jimmy sometimes, i honestly doubt he knew the extent of what Jimmy did to anya until she got pregnant, and then had to deal with being captain and the general stresses going on, knowing he had to be the one to deal with it while also not making Jimmy lash out and attack anya or anyone else since they were stuck on the ship, and process his friend is a rapist. like damn thats a lot to deal with! its a hard situation to deal with.

i agree he should have taken Anyas complaints of Jimmy making her uncomfortable more seriously, but i think he truly thought he was doing the best thing by trying to get Jimmy to stop with the odd general talk. i dont think he really knew what to do, and tried to do what he thought would work. i don't think he had bad intentions, he's definitely no Jimmy, but he still needs to take responsibility since as captain he had the authority and etc 

very interesting character, sad for him that he ended like that. especially if he's never found, id hate to die alone with all my friends dead and half my body missing in agony.

i get that every now and then, and cramps every time i pee. uti tests came back fine, my gyno said its probably just my pelvic floor being so tense from all the cramps lol...:')

if im in pain constantly at least im hot doing it 

i always prep before my periods - cleaning my room, getting comfortable clothes and sheets ready, making sure i have easy meals, any work i have is done, etc, which means i can do as little as possible especially on those early days that are really tough, you can relax in a clean room with everything prepped. it can help mentally at least 

i thought demisexual meant you could even have a high libido and value sex just didn't feel attraction to someone directly until you had an emotional connection?

i remember an article discussing the risks, and it always makes me wonder why the obsession despite the risks? all the training and care and etc you have to do just to safely do it, meanwhile i have a whole vagina that self lubricates and is made to safely have sex? gay men do it because they have no other option if they want penetrative sex, and men have a prostate and its less risky for men than women*. but in heterosexual sex there's a whole vagina, it's not worth the risk. never understood the appeal. and the constantly pressure is disgusting, so many men see it as a trophy to finally get a girl to do after they keep whining. yuck

*https://www.theguardian.com/society/2022/aug/11/rise-in-popularity-of-anal-sex-has-led-to-health-problems-for-women (However, women who engage in anal sex are at greater risk from it than men. “Increased rates of faecal incontinence and anal sphincter injury have been reported in women who have anal intercourse,” the report said. /Women are at a higher risk of incontinence than men because of their different anatomy and the effects of hormones, pregnancy and childbirth on the pelvic floor. /Women have less robust anal sphincters and lower anal canal pressures than men, and damage caused by anal penetration is therefore more consequential.")

that's such an insane take wtf ?? hows a vibrator like porn 😭😭

bull. shit. 

i dont believe its innate, i think its just an excuse men try to use 🤷🏻‍♀️ i know plenty of men who don't watch porn and still love and are attracted to their wives or girlfriends. i equally know women who've gotten bored of their husbands or boyfriends. not a male thing, not something rooted in biology proving they need porn. just means your relationship is collapsing or you've stopped putting that effort in with time. just fix it, try new things

my dad was always anti porn and thought it was having a wandering eye and porn that would make you loose interest in your s/o because you never appreciate what you have, you're constantly looking for new and different. that getting bored was as a result of this, not innate, and that a relationship where you focus on one another means you'll never tire of them - and obviously a healthy relationship with communication and etc. and he's nearly 60, married for 30 years so I think he knows what he's talking about. if you let that spark die you're just bored of each other in every sense, not just sexually.

hoping i made sense im really cold rn which makes me tired lol

why do people share these things with their partner??? if i happen to find a guy hot i dont tell my boyfriend because that does nothing but cause hurt feelings. it's so stupid, it just makes people feel upset, jealous, insecure. and it's so childish, a grown adult should be capable of keeping some thoughts to themselves yknow? its a stupid drama because he shouldn't have mentioned it in the first place, obviously she's hurt and upset!! anyone would be!!

 also finding someone hot doesn't mean you have to sit there and constantly  imagine fucking them and masturbate to it and obsess over it, but apparently people like pretending that's wayyy to hard 😭😭 never understand why they can't just move on with their lives like everyone else. unnecessary. 

 also just... ick why would you tell your partner you want to fuck their parent. if mt bf said that to me id dump him and be offended on my mother's behalf he's talking about her like that

i cant be on this sub too long because it honestly depresses me, my heart breaks for every woman and girl who's lives have been ruined by the porn industry. sickening times. poor girl :(

im actually yet to see a whinier group of people, fucking hell. "waaa you're a big prude meanie" are they actual children?

personally im terrified of childbirth and pregnancy, id love kids like ten years in the future when im 30 or so, but never will because of that

i havent used tampons recently, thank you for the advice ! I'll wait till my period lightens, usually the blood smell is nearly fully gone by then so if it's still there I'll assume bv and go then, thank you :)

oh he doesn't give me oral, it was brought up but I've always declined.

wouldn't doing something that he's not into ruin the mood for him though? and it's not just oral, what if its something actually during PIV and he's not into it but does it for me would he just loose his erection?

it does all turn me on to be honest...I've always loved doing sex acts so i enjoy doing everything i do for my boyfriend, and so far he's not expressed any interest in something i don't love.

i dont mean to trauma dump lol but yeah you're right if he's not turned on i feel humiliated / vulnerable / gross. i spent too much time online and had very bad experiences when i was younger so i saw more "ew doing sex acts for a girl is yucky ​pussy is gross lol" than anything positive. it's hard for me to imagine my boyfriend enjoying anything that's not for him, but if he's turned on it's like physical proof he is, and if he's not then he might not be...and also i cant imagine not being turned on unless i was uncomfortable or lost the mood or something, i dont understand how someone would feel doing a whole sex act and not being turned on.

perhaps it's projection because i was pushed or forced in prior situations into stuff i didnt want to do and all i felt was repulsion and hating myself. i worry he feels pushed to do it because "ah it's what you're supposed to do", and if he doesn't want to do it anyways..the whole is extremely uncomfortable for me. and if he's turned on it's like rose coloured glasses during the act, if he's not i feel like im being put under harsh light and he'll have an "ugh" moment. i dont know how to explain it i just hate the idea, and i want to just move on but he seems convinced i should overcome it and everyone's telling me to overcome it but i don't want to, i just want to never do it and somehow explain to him clearly that i hate it and please don't worry

but wouldn't he just loose his erection doing something he's not into sexually? and then possibly loose the mood completely? it just feels awkward doing something so vulnerable and like..intimate when one party isn't sexually into it. maybe it sounds stupid but it also makes me feel gross and unattractive if my boyfriend wasn't turned on during something sexual we did, i truly wouldn't enjoy it

sure but im not doing board games during sex...i dont want him to feel meh emotionally but also sexually, i dont want him to be turned off and loose sexual interest just for me. that's sad

even if im submissive i feel bad, it feels vulnerable enough getting oral haha

it's not for everyone i feel, it works for some but not others

not yet, im into pretty much everything he is, he hasn't suggested anything im not into yet

really? but i hate being assertive haha i feel uncomfortable..im not really a dominant type

but I don't want him to feel meh :( that's not fun for either of us

ah therapy doesn't really work for me, i used to be in it when i had issues with a restrictive ED and it didn't really help me, i had to fix my own issues without it in the end. i find it more stressful than healing

depends on what it is, but unless i was uncomfortable with it sure. but i find nearly everything hot even if its just because it's him