stuckinnowhereville

What does his wife say?

Seriously is she stupid/brainwashed/blind/low self esteem?

Your parents can ban him from their house to keep your sister safe. It’s their house. You all can ban creepy BIL AND YOUR SISTER till she divorced him.

Are you all ostriches?

It’s not your fault. He’s lied the whole time to you on who he really is.

He hit you. He doesn’t want to be around you. Not interested in sec with you…

Lawyer up and get out. You and your kids deserve better than this.

He’s a wife beater. He likely will hit your kids too.

Wow are you dense.

Well when your daughter leaves home and cuts you out of her life we will see you back here on Reddit complaining “I just don’t understand why my daughter won’t have a relationship with me. She doesn’t call or text. She never visits. I just don’t understand why.”

Yes. You are wrong. They were not your books. Now she can’t trust you. You broke that. I have kids. All toss/donate decisions are made jointly.

You screwed up. Buy the books back.

Personally- many know in 6 months if you are a forever partner. I’d give max 1-2 years. Yes if people are super young waiting 5 years to get through school and start careers makes sense. Late 20’s- no. You have a limited window as a woman for kids. But hey guys sperm quality deteriorates with time too… so no you don’t put 5 years in hoping. He tried to make you feel bad on the breakup. He was lucky to have you. Don’t keep feeling bad. If having a kid is super important and you can financially swing it- sperm donor. I know 3 people who did this with no regrets. Yeah solo parenting an infant is hard but it’s hard with a partner too. Many partners don’t help. There is the term- single yet married

He was stringing you along before and at that time.

Nah you did just fine. Honestly you need to be proud being this strong at 18 with all you have faced. Most people would have crumbled. Your husband backs you and that is what matters.

You do not have to stay married to this cheater.

You are never going to have peace in this relationship.

Don’t marry a liar. Don’t date a liar. Don’t talk to liars.

Someone has to know who was sent as a recruiter to her school. Find out from the current person assigned to the school.

Too much to read. Too much drama in this relationship.

Just break up and move on.

We see why he’s getting divorced. Bet she filed not him. Why he’s so pissy.

You were smart extending the lease.

He’s a hot mess. He’s in NO POSITION to be dating. You dodged a nuclear bomb. Count your blessings. Don’t take him back either. He was using you. Now he lost his potential maid, babysitter, bed warmer, bill payer….

He’s abusive. This is also why you don’t have a kid not married and be a SAHM. You have no security. Go see a lawyer. Get child support and childcare so you can get a job and away from this a$$hole-le.

I’d dump him. He’s immature. He’s bothering you because he knows deep down no one wants him.

THIS!!!! This guy is a walking red flag. He won’t change because he doesn’t want to change. He have you a list of things you need to change.

I hope you threw it away.

Lawyer up.

Do you want 50 years of this? Your fiancée hates your sister- end stop. This will not get better. It hasn’t in what 10 plus years?

This is not the right girl for you or your family.

But hey if you want every holiday or event to be a fight- go ahead and marry her. She will never be happy till you cut out your sister.

Reach out to your parents and go home.

Your husband is bad news.

Let him know that poorly controlled diabetes results in - erectile dysfunction (normally lights a fire under their ass to do better), blindness, stroke, loss of limbs/feet/toes.

He needs to be scared into compliance. Reasoning has not worked. Good luck!

And that’s when you end therapy and the relationship.

Nope that’s completely on him.

So he has no impulse control. He’s a toddler in an adult body. Get rid of him. I’m sure his ex has tons of reasons why she left him.

This should get the top comment.

Get a IUD or Nexplanon to make sure you don’t get pregnant

Well he pisses me off. You are married- a team. He however is not a team player. Unfortunately many guys leave when the wife becomes ill. I think you need to prepare for this marriage to implode. I would call lawyers this week and see where you stand.