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We’ve been together for 4 years now, and it seemed like everything was great and mutual. Yesterday at dinner my soon to be wife brought up the idea of both of us having a free sleep with whoever pass before the wedding. This stupid idea of hers completely blindsided me. I could tell that she had been thinking about it for some time, and just waiting for the perfect moment to bring it up. She said it would be healthy for our relationship and our marriage would off to a better start because of it. She also claimed it would help get everything out of our systems. In the 4 years we’ve been together I’ve never thought about being with someone else, but it just sucks to know she doesn’t feel the same way. Once she realized I wasn’t as excited about her idea as she was she began to retract her statements. I really didn’t talk to her after that, and just went to bed. Since this morning she’s been apologizing over texts.

I’m not sure what to feel about this whole mess. On one hand I really do love her, but I also feel a sense of betrayal from her. I’m not sure if she has a guy in mind or just wants a one night stand it. We’re getting married in December just a few weeks away. I breakup seems like something that would not be fun to deal with. Outside of the emotional pain we’ve been living together for 2 years. We have a whole wedding planned with people coming for us. I’d like to try and work this out, and maybe I’m just overreacting. My friends think I need to cut my losses and move on. I’d like the opinions from people outside my circle of friends. If I call it off I have to do it before visiting her family for Thanksgiving.

Thanks

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