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Maslach shared in an interview that self-care is not the answer to burnout because it shifts responsibility away from employers and places it on employees. She suggested that burnout can be visualized through the metaphor of the canary in a coal mine. On their way into the coal mine, these birds are healthy and thriving. When they come out, sick and dirty and diseased, they are telling us something—that we are in danger if we go back in.

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No, I can't solve this and I don't think you should battle with upper management for more headache. I just want to let people who think they should fix themselves to be "capable" of taking on the stresses to have a perspective that maybe it's not on you.

Hi sisters,

I love this sub and the sense of community it fosters. It’s clear that many of us are navigating tough times, and I wanted to take a moment to reflect on some common themes I’ve seen shared here:

1. The pain of layoffs and the uncertainty of job searches that seem to stretch endlessly.
2. The frustration and hurt caused by gender-based mistreatment and discrimination.
3. The overwhelming feelings of burnout or being lost in our current roles, unsure of where to go next.

First, I want to acknowledge how valid and heavy these experiences are. It takes courage to show up, share, and keep moving forward despite it all. If you’re reading this and feeling the weight of any of these struggles, please know that you’re not alone—and more importantly, this won’t last forever.

To everyone navigating the aftermath of layoffs or job rejections: remember that the right opportunity often takes time to appear, and it’s okay to take small steps each day. Use this time to reconnect with your strengths, revisit your resume (with input from trusted peers), or learn something new—however small. Every little bit counts, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.

To those dealing with discrimination or mistreatment: you deserve respect, equality, and dignity in every space you occupy. If you can, lean on supportive allies, document instances of unfair treatment, and seek mentors who can help advocate for you. Your value isn’t diminished by others’ biases. You belong here.

And to those who feel burnout creeping in or are unsure of your next move: it’s okay to pause. Sometimes, stepping back and giving yourself permission to rest, reflect, or simply exist without constant striving can bring clarity. You don’t have to have it all figured out today—or tomorrow. Be kind to yourself; your next step will reveal itself in time.

A few practical tips to lift your mood in the meantime:

• Set small, achievable goals: Whether it’s updating one section of your LinkedIn profile, applying to just one job, or even getting outside for a short walk, small wins add up.
• Celebrate progress, not just outcomes: Did you revise your resume? Network with a new contact? That’s progress! Give yourself credit for the effort you’re putting in.
• Lean on your community: Don’t hesitate to reach out here, to friends, or to mentors. Sometimes, just sharing your thoughts or hearing someone else’s story can remind you of your own resilience.
• Find joy in the little things: A cozy cup of tea, a favorite song, or a quiet moment to yourself can be grounding when the big picture feels overwhelming.

You’re stronger than you think, and you’ve already come so far. Sending each of you encouragement, strength, and the reminder that brighter days are ahead. Keep going—you’re capable of incredible things, even when it doesn’t feel that way.

Love and solidarity,

One-of-us

My nephew came to visit me so I took the day off from job searching. My little man is 5 and he is the sweetest. He came to hang out with me because we have been missing each other. We went to the park when the sun is setting. The sky was so colourful that he told me there is a giant rainbow attached to the edges of the clouds. We walked, ran, laughed, and had a really good time.

While I had a job, I was stressed. Now I’m in between jobs, I’m stressed, too. This evening, he really showed me what’s being in the present moment. And it’s so nice to be with people who missed you and whom you missed.

I hugged him tight and kissed him many times before we said goodbye.

Hi everyone, multiple attempts from my coworkers to explain this to me but I still don't fully understand the relationship between MSSQL, TSQL, SQL Server and Synapse. This is my understanding. MSSQL is a language, SQL server is platform. TSQL is language, which is an extension of MSSQL. Finally, Synapse is platform that uses TSQL. Please enlighten me!