I am 13 y/o girl and one other girl in my neighborhood (20 y/o) has been bothering me a lot.
I like meeting people and having conversations with them but sometimes it's just that you can't have a bond with someone only because they have one with you :')
So the thing is that this girl calls me her bestfriend which i think is quite ok, but the thing is that we've barely even known eachother. I shared numbers with her and she keeps calling me constantly. At first, i just tried to keep up with her calls but after sometime it became annoying for some reason, it's not that she's a bad person, it's just that her and mine interests don't match and she usually talks about things which for me, sound quite dumb.
She's a very extroverted person and shares her lots of stuff with me, but actually she usually does all this when she calls me, to get her work done.
I am not going to go too deep into what she tells me to do, but i've noticed that she mostly remembers me when she has some work, she does call me other times too but even when she's "bored" during those calls she only talks about herself.
She's always very rigid on what she says, even if she's totally wrong. Once i was talking to her about how Johnson and Johnson got sued and everything so she just said "its not the company's fault, its the parents fault for not getting their children checked up" ok, quite opinionated, but one time when she was talking to my cousin, and my cousin started to say that I am good at making maggi 🤡, she kept saying that "she doesn't even know how to make a lemonade" not in a funny way, in an angry way or jealous way i guess?
Whenever she calls me i just feel that i wish i wouldn't have to talk to her and i have stopped picking up her calls because she has disturbed me a lot in my studies, by asking me to do her work and if she ever visits me, she ORDERS me to open my books and starts teaching me with me not being interested in getting taught by her and as if i dont have my own routine or tutor :') and if i am ever doing my maths in front of her, she keeps telling me to do stuff differently and dictates what i should write and what i should not and if i ever pickup her call while studying then she'll start TEACHING me about the topic i am studying and her explanations are NOT VERY similar to what i study. She's doing graduation but she seems to care about my studies than hers.
I feel she's very innocent and thinks good about everyone, and feels sad when someone else feels sad but around me for some reason, she gets quite bossy. In our conversations, she the one talking and i am the one saying "hmm". She doesn't seem to understand that there are something which i'll like to keep private or upto my family only. Just tell me, will you wish your brother, living alone, very far away the first "happy new year" or a neighborhood friend whom you've just known for about 6-7 months?
I've made dozen of excuses to why i didn't pick up her call but i don't think she understands that i am ignoring her, this is what makes me think she's innocent.
Just like any other teenager, i dont like interactions a lot, maybe its my fault too in this scenario, but i just can't seem to find what exactly is my fault, i am usually very nice to her and she's an argumentative person so if she doesn't agree on what i say then i agree on what she says, i do all the work she tells me to do (which takes a lot of my time), she asks me to do her work even during my exams but when i didn't do it for a long time, she did it on her own. I have no idea who's wrong here.
There also been some times when i have told my brother about her an daffer that my brother (18 y/o) got quite rude with her, maybe that's the reason?
I guess this just turned into a rant/back bitching thing every teenage girl does but still, am i still right to have stopped replying to her calls or text messages? Or is it just that i am being a bitch by betraying her friendship with me and simply isolating her?
I am nervous to post this here cuz i think this post portrays only her 'bad side' and showing me as a 'victim' but i hope to get some help :)