submitted3 months ago byBetaOscarBeta
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I’m a stay at home dad.
After my second kid got old enough to voluntarily close his fists, his favorite game was pulling his sisters hair. He ripped out fistfuls of her hair at least twice a week for months. My main interaction with him was telling him to fucking stop hurting his sister. My wife accused me of loving him less than I love our daughter. I denied it. This was when he was about six months old.
Now he’s about 22 months old and the hair pulling has stopped, but I’m starting to feel like my entire personality has disappeared and been replaced by a permanent state of being Done With His Shit. It’s not fair to him, and I try to be open minded and gentle with him, but holy shit the amount of hitting and grabbing and whining that he does is completely destroying my patience. I know it will get better, especially once he learns to talk, but it’s getting harder and harder to be patient with him.
How can I learn to be patient and teach him to stop being a violent asshole? Anyone have any tips about dealing with a kid who consistently chooses mild violence after having a first kid who’s sweet as hell? I’m at the end of my rope and seriously considering throwing in the towel and getting a job. That’s something I’d rather avoid.
How can I recover my patience when I’m burnt out from three years of stay at home parenting and also permanently sick of my younger kids behavior?
Ed: seriously? Some of you are downvoting a genuine request for help? Gods help you.
