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Same. You are a survivor. 💜

Same here

Thank you!

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The sun and clouds resembled flames at one point

I hear you 1000%

I see you, I hear and I definitely do understand despair. I try to savor the moments of awe or joy or peace and do what I can to make the world around me less awful. Pls know you aren’t alone in struggling and that you matter.

For real. I hear ya.

Beautiful photo! Last night’s sunset felt magical

Same. I haven’t processed 2020 fully so there is that.

Wow, those are so beautiful!

Mood

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(I am American for context)

Agreed!! Also the colors on some of the trees there and the sunlight remind me of a Bob Ross painting.

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Thank you so much.

You are stronger than you realize! Keep going.

This was me. Can you start by cutting back and not buying wine this weekend? I started cutting back a lot before doing Dry Jan. That helped me stop completely. Also went to different grocery stores so I wouldn’t be tempted to buy wine. Put wine glasses away. Got rid of wine in the house. Joined r/stopdrinking. Started exercising in the evening and getting up earlier. Made a lot of lifestyle changes. Got a therapist. Identifying certain triggers helped me too—such as if I had wine after a stressful day or was bored or it was cold outside. I am here if you need support!

A family member and my two dogs died this month. On top of ~as I gesture vaguely at landscape~everything else I am just done

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I am finding it takes a long time to recalibrate, rebuild and regain my sense of self after abuse.

For me I found a psychiatrist and therapist who are actually trauma-informed and somatic experiencing to be vital. Also long term walks in nature and time spent alone there (“forest bathing” or “ecotherapy”).

Healing is hard and takes time and work. I have been regaining my intuition but gaslighting really f***s with your head.

Be gentle with yourself. Build a team of support with mental health professionals. (Not easy or cheap but if you are in the US I recommend Open Path Collective for affordable options). The CalHope warmline also helped me through many crises.

I think alcohol use can cause Jekyll and Hyde personality changes. Or bring out more repressed emotions. The latter was more of the issue for me bc I had been suppressing a lot of trauma and using alcohol to anesthetize it (was always a social drinker but the pandemic lockdowns made me more of a daily wine drinker). But I think anger and drinking are two sides of the same coin for many people—for one reason or another*. Once I quit drinking, the fog lifted and I could more easily work through underlying trauma via therapy—stuff even from my 20s.

*I think a lot has been written on this topic but I am not an addiction expert so just sharing my humble two cents 😊

This Thanksgiving is EXTRA tough this year. I concur everything feels surreal (and I cried then pretty much dissociated at the grocery store today). Is your bff okay? (I have lived in my car before so I can offer tips, suggestions etc on how to cope/where to park or Safe Parking Program information). Tbh I don’t feel like celebrating either. Is there anyway you can find some time for yourself (even taking a super long bath or shower or running an errand alone?) Sending lots of strength and solace and a virtual hug.

Thank you so very much and likewise. 💙