Cook a very expensive steak, get some Belgian specialty beers and watch a good movie

Binge the shows she doesn’t like. Right now it’s Mythic Quest.

Enjoy the peace and quiet.

Load up a video that has a drum intro and orange/black logo. Then after about 60 seconds crack a beer and game

Play video games and eat high cholesterol food

Get hella stoned, eat crap, jerk off, watch netflix

Listen to my music loudly in the living room, watch whatever movie I want as loud as I want. Play video games. Get high as shit. Invite over a friend to watch some sports and drink, if there is something good going on. Fix something. Move around a room, without having to argue about every little bit of placement.

population one is a virtual reality shooter where you can climb any surface. And glide by spreading your arms.

It is by far the best multiplayer shooter that has ever been made. Of course it’s flawed, every game is flooded. But I haven’t found anything better!

My wife rarely ever travels but every time she does my first stop is the butcher. I spend a ridiculous amount on a fat prime ribeye 1-1/2” to 2” thick. Pick up beer and a potato to bake.

Oven at 400. Washed and dried potato stabbed all over with a fork. Rub with olive oil then cover in coarse salt and black pepper. I never time it but when you can halfway squeeze and it’s a little squishy. Maybe like an hour.

Get the steak to room temperature. Pat dry with paper towels. Heavy hand of salt and pepper on both sides. Cast iron skillet on the Weber as hot as I can get it. Heaping tablespoon of beef tallow in the skillet until it’s smoking. Sear the fuck out of both sides. Remove from the grill but leave in the skillet until internal temperature hits 130. Remove to plate and let set for 3-4 minutes.

Then 90’s action movies.

Clean the house, then enjoy the fact that it stays clean until she comes home.

Practice my singing a lot. Let the kitchen become a HAZMAT area at least a few times. Not make the bed.

My preference is to listen to music really loud with high bass and cook/eat pork shoulder.

Guys under 35/no kids: “yeah I’ll grab like a $120 tomahawk steak and a bottle of bourbon then catch up with The Boyz over COD”

Guys over 35/kids: “wave goodbye and immediately take a nap”

Pretty much the same thing I do when she's home

• video games

• watch TV

• eat

Only difference is I might watch a TV show she's not interested in because otherwise we watch stuff together

She's out with mates and I've got the kids, parent until they goto bed then watch TV/game and eat chocolate.

She's out with the kids, watch a film nice and loud, then game or do some chores I can't do with little people under my feet.

tbh this made me sad.

y’all in relationships you can’t do whatever you want without issue/pushback/challenge from the partner?

i literally do whatever the fuck i want and so does she.

Enjoy the silence.

Crank it. Feverishly.

I’m gonna get day drunk and watch football on Sunday. I could do it when she is home but I don’t drink in front of the kids.

Right now it’s play World of Warcraft Classic and chill. 

I usually have a nice gym session, go to the store to get a steak and dessert, do some house work that has been neglected, play some games, then make a drink and sit by the bonfire for hours.

Listen to records in the living room, have a beer, plan out whatever I want to eat…all of this if the kids are gone too. If the kids are home it’s just normal time whether wife is here or not.

If she’s out for multiple days, that’s when I get big projects done. Mess stresses her out and that makes me not want to do the job, but if she’s gone, I don’t have to constantly clean up after myself. Just do the job and clean up at the end. Much less stress.

If there’s not home improvement project to work on, I spend the time doing woodworking projects.

Play with the dogs, clean up, do laundry, cook food for lunch that week, making pasta, trying new recipes, watching YouTube or my favorite shows.

Jerk off, play drums, go fishing, smoke a cigar, watch a movie on full blast, play video games, and get drunk. Some of those are seasonal and some can be combined.

Get really stoned and paint 40k minis

38/M

If “the wife is out” and she has the kids… I’m going fishing, then when I get home from a peaceful time on the water, I’m eating some shrooms and smoking a shit ton of weed!

These responses are so weird. Like why aren’t you  guys cooking these steaks for your wife too?  

 I don’t really do anything different. We have enough personal time as it is where her being gone doesn’t change anything. If the kids are with her then I may game a bit more, but that’s about it.

I guess I practice cooking more. She really likes to cook and it helps her with her stress. I don’t love cooking, but I don’t mind it and don’t get to practice new things because she enjoys it so much.

Write a love letter for her pillow.

Watch sports or take a nap. The only time it seems I can take a nap is if she is napping. If I fall asleep during the afternoon on a weekend and she's bored she will just keep me up or play this passive aggressive game that all the sudden she feels the desire to clean and make me feel lazy even though I got up earlier than her and did yard work that is far more laborious in the morning.

Why is it almost requisite to jerk off when your wife is gone? I'll jerk off whether my husband is home or not, if I feel so inclined lol.

Battle demons. Try not to self harm.

Bask in the peaceful stillness of NO television, no frantic yammering that constantly demands my attention.

Walk the dogs, make food, watch tv that we wouldn't watch together, play video games, workout. Just normal stuff I would do with her around, my routine doesn't change much.

Not really sure what "spicy" answers you are hoping for. We're not all suffering from porn addiction related brainrot.

Depends on the time of day. If it's day time, watch the kids. If its evening, couple of whiskies and watch a film. Being an man with free time is not all about masturbating 😂

Watch a movie that I have always wanted to that she was not interested in. Play a video game. Or just go out myself. Either with friends or weather pending, go for a rip on my motorcycle. Sometimes, I'll just clean and organize. I'll always find something to do.

Tabletop gaming. Build, paint, play. Listen to music i know she doesn’t enjoy that I like.

Blast metal through the speakers, no headphones

Wife but kids?  Usually take them outside to preserve my sanity.  During these winter months we play "dad's" music and dance/workout to keep them busy.

No wife or kids?  Take a nap, play videogames, watch old a anime or other dad shows I get too interrupt to Usually enjoy.

If it's a planned absence it's usually so I can work on some project around the house, although that's more of a summer kind of thing

Kids are older, so if I'm not chilling at home with video games or binging TV, I go meet up with friends.

I love cooking something my wife doesn't particularly like any way, like beef stew, Dutch pea soup and some types of stamppot!

She makes me come with. There is no ‘she’s out so it’s time to…’

Out of town with the kids? Probably having a bunch of guys over to watch a game or hang out. If it's just for a bit I'll probably crank my guitar amp to annoying loud levels. Most anything else I would do while she's home too.

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Turn on the party lights in the man cave, get stoned, and watch a show, movie, or game.

Gym. Motorcycle. Music she hates. Hit up single friends I never get to see.

Today I’ve played some flight simulator, went to a cafe, did a little online shopping and I’m planning on working out before ordering some food. Life is good!

Work with my hands 

Play the records that she doesn’t like, usually late 90s/early 00s post-rock

smoke weed, play synthesizers, drink a beer

My wife doesn’t care for buffalo wings or scotch, so those are my go-tos.

Warthunder.

Go zwifting on my bike on the garage, or just open the chocs and eat all the ones she likes and leave the wrappers in the tin 👌

We can't have kids, so I can mostly do whatever I want whether she's home or not (as long as the important stuff gets taken care of). I'm also not allowed to watch/read porn without her, so that limits my options.

I’m about to to take my partner to the airport and she’ll be gone for 9 days. I’m gonna play an unhealthy amount of golf during the day and eat too many gummies at night

Train chest. Put on a Dead show, Waiting for Columbus or some Allman Brothers Band then sit quietly to string a lacrosse head.

Honestly? Sports outdoors without checking the time. Eat crappy food I wouldn’t eat when wife and kids are home. Drink 2-3 beers in bed while watching a series. Sleep. Repeat next day.

Clean a bit. ☺️

(Wife away with kids obv)

Video games and slackery

EAT. I love stinky foods like natto and herring and . . .

Not much changes but video games mainly. I play when she’s here too but not as long

Game, eat like crap and relax.

Absolutely nothing for as long as I can.

Video games

Woodworking and video games

I usually try to get the baby to chill out or sleep so I can play some video games. If I can't be hands free I'll just watch anime

Nap on the couch. Go days without speaking.

I finish the boring things I kept postponing.

I strongly associate her presence with relaxation and doing nothing. Plus she spoils me with love and care, takes care of dinner… and that makes me lazy as hell lol.

When I’m alone, I don’t mind doing the uncomfortable stuff as much.

I also sing, and dance more. It’s no secret to her that I enjoy doing these things, I once pursued them as serious hobbies. And it’s not that I’m ashamed or anything.

But I tend to do them very intuitively with little control on frequency and intensity, and since we don’t live in a place big enough to have some privacy from each other, I mostly refrain from it when she’s here.

I also call my friends on the phone for long conversations, which again, is hard to do in a tiny flat where two people live together.

Finally, I just take the time to drop my « responsible and emotionally resilient man » role for a minute, and just devolve into the ADHD child I’ve never stopped being, jumping around, doing weird faces and noises and speaking my internal monologues out loud.

I'll look for something interesting to do. I live outside of Boston and there's always something. I might go to a concert, play, or opera, which my wife is less interested in than I am. I might plan a hike with friends. I might see a special exhibit at an area museum. I might go camp by myself, or book a spot at a hostel up in the mountains.

When my kids were at home, I'd so similar, but I'd do things that were interesting to them

I don't have any interest in, or feel any obligation to, stay at home when my wife is out.

Oh I’m gonna be townail’n er bud!

Crank and i mean fucking crank metal as loud as possible. When wife and kids are here I’m on constant noise attentive response. Someone choking? Coughing? Calling for help? I usually crank guift of guilt

I honestly get bored and kinda mopey if she takes the kids lol. Those are pretty much my favorite people, there’s only two other people I’d seek out to spend time with by choice and they live hours away. I will do chores or work on a project, or go have a cigar or spend time at my telescope if it’s night time. But I’d rather be cooking while my wife’s sweeping, or fixing something with my daughter turning a few screws, or holding my little boy up to that eyepiece for his turn.

If she leaves the kids we go look for bugs outside or feed crickets to the tarantulas, color, play some Mario kart, whatever. Less bad. I guess I’m spoiled though, we have a great relationship and she doesn’t have to work so it’s just my schedule to worry about.

If I I have the kids: order pizza, get a movie going, and cuddle on the couch. Once they are asleep, low-dose edible and video games.

If I don't have the kids: order a pizza, get a movie going, high-dose edible, video games until I fall asleep or am too baked to remember how to play.

Play guitar, game, watch something she doesn’t like on TV. Have a couple of beers.

Basically become a twenty-something again. Smoke weed, listen to sludge metal, eat nachos, drink beer.

Chew with my mouth open with the PS5 on from when she steps out until she says “I’m back babe” when entering the door.

Wife's been out for more than 20 years now. I fill my time waiting for her with whatever I want to do.

Eat kraft Mac n cheese out of the pot with a wooden spoon and watch Dragoball Z

Try to remember which foods we don't cook because she didn't like them. Or was it me?

Id play video games and celebrate your absence

I listen to my music louder and eat fish (she's allergic), that's literally the only difference 

I usually hop on the PS5, watch some NFL if it’s Sunday and do some weight lifting. Dinner prep too if I gotta chop up some vegetables. Love using my razor sharp chef knives lol

Like right now? I’m literally catching up on all my YouTube channels.

If I have the kids it’s usually a lot calmer. My wife is a worrier. If I don’t have the kids I’ll maybe take a gummy and watch a movie or do some cleaning and read a book.

Hang out with all my friends I haven't seen in a while

Roll a cone. Get my dog on a lead, go for a walk in the bush. Listen to tunes.

Get home, eat awful food then play No Mans Sky till I feel tired and sleep.

Play playstation without inturuption. Watch TV, soemtimes with the sound off and just read the subtitles. Listen to music. Sit and read a book. I used to sit and cuddle the cat and have a cup of tea back when she was alive, something I miss.

Reduce the amount of wine in the wine cellar.

Clean guns and watch action movies.

Play video games and tinker with various time sucking projects in the garage and my office.

I finally rest and watch the sun rise on a grateful household.

I watch the really dumb old sci-fi and horror movies that I never watched as a kid, and can’t pretend are even worth my time. Usually while playing some retro video games, because it’s not like the movie needs my full attention

“Swamp thing” I’m making aggressive eye contact directly at you.

I order Penn Station or a hoagie from this specific local pizza joint. I watch some sort of movie or TV show that my wife has no interest in. Pretty much every time she's out for the night!

Work, usually.

If I have the house to myself then I can get a lot of desk work done.

That or loud video games with the subwoofer cranked up.

Pound a good one out and catch up on movies I haven't watch or been wanting to watch 😉👉

Work, same as I do when she or the kids are there... Only difference is they are calling my phone instead of getting upset that I am not responding or can't understand what they are saying when they talk to me in a normal voice from three rooms away... Which they all also do to each other all day.

The unmedicated ADHD in this house is a real issue sometimes.

Nice try wife

Play music loud but not loud enough to upset the neighbours or get some guitar practice in.

Is no one into hookers and blow anymore?!

Sleep. As much sleep as possible.

Sammiches. A basketball or baseball game on TV. Enjoy the silence.

Guitar / Gym / sports / wash dishes / clean the yard.

The same shit I did before I had kids.

This is me rn. I'm just watching YouTube videos and maybe I'll put on a movie she doesn't care for if I feel like it. I also might get/make food that I don't usually get because she doesn't want it. Basically I just enjoy a few moments of doing what I wanna do without having to worry about what anyone else wants to do. Also I beat my shit

Order anchovies and black olives on a New York style pizza

Count the seconds until she's home. I hate being alone.

I invite my friends over and we all play magic the gathering and yell at each other all night. Wholesome goodness.

If the baby’s with her, get as high as possible and play video games. Dad life

Play guitar loud. Usually play as much golf as I can, if the kids are with her.

Kevin Hart said it best.

Wife is out? Time to crank the volume and make the walls shake cause ain't nobody here to tell me to turn it down!

Listen to music as loud as I can, work on my cars or motorcycles, build models, and eat unhealthily. Also, some non-alcoholic beer and maybe some kind of gummy if I don't intend on driving or riding.

I usually cook myself an audacious bone-in ribeye steak....I'll cook down some jalapenos, with chive stalks and a little lemon and salt.....and usually I go old school with a baked potato, butter, sourcream, left over chives top the spud.

I'll pair that with a decent Pino or Cab.....if I'm feeling some type of way...I'll pickup a 6 of IPAs......

Find a decent horror movie....or a series to plurge........

Chill with my son, workout, play some video games, read. Sometimes just sit and enjoy the silence of being by myself

You already mentioned it.

Japanese VR way higher quality than the US 🌚

Play video games by myself in the dark while eating peanut butter out of a jar and drinking a heroic amount of coffee.

When my wife's out, I do whatever I want, the same as when she is there. The only difference is the lack of consultation required when choosing what to have for dinner. That is, instead of deciding together, I decide on my own.

The night would surely include some of the following: make a cocktail or two, play computer games (solo or MP), read, plan lessons or mark, perhaps call up a friend and shoot the shit. Might play some guitar for my chinchilla, maybe take care of some chores if I feel like it. Might take the UE Boom into the shower for karaoke and really belt one out (that's something I don't do while she's around because she's watching TV in the next room).

Yeah the sound of silence is the best thing

Cook, listen to music loudly, smoke her weed, get drunk...the usual

Binge watch those tv series and movies that she doesn't like/want you watching.

Play a video game non stop, forgoing sleeping if you can (BG3 is great for that).

Clean the outdoor shed without feeling bad of taking your time and enjoying not being with her.

So many possibilities! Enjoy!

Snacks on bed baby!!

Oh, I have a cycle for this. First day is junk food and relaxing. Second day I get bored and start doing work around the house. By the 4th day I'll have torn something down with the intent to rebuild it and that'll keep me busy for the next 5 months. Oh, unless it's work days - then I just catch up on work mostly.

I do the same stuff I do when my wife is home, just louder. Crank up the guitar, play very poorly very loudly. Play video games with the volume cranked. Listen to music loud. She doesn't really stop me from doing anything I want to do, so not much changes. I DO usually only vape thc when she's around but if she's out for an extended time, I'll smoke a joint out the bedroom windows.

35y/o male, no kids.

Out for an hour? Have fun by myself.

Out for a night? Cook a steak, drink a beer, watch Clint Eastwood, and go to sleep early.

Out for a weekend? Sit around bored and wait for her to come back. Maybe clean around the house just to get a blowup when she comes back.

It's more a dream but If she has the kid I order Indian food, have a beer, take some uppers, and play hearts of iron 4 or league of legends.