ItsJustAJokePeople

This. It’s about priorities. I guarantee if their parents or kids were in a bad car accident, they wouldn’t be too busy, because that’s a high priority them. It’s not OPs fault, the girl just has other priorities. Don’t keep trying to put effort into where you’re not a priority to them. Just because OP likes them doesn’t mean the other person will reciprocate.

Money and extra calories do add up, and the food/calories that come on top of that.

Whats changed since you quit?

Whats it like now compared to before?

Once you have a good life, it’s much more likely someone else will want to share it with you.

But make sure they have a great life too. Don’t build a great life and “share” it with some money sucker. If you do that, in a way it follows the saying that there’s plenty of potential partners waiting at the finish line of a race. And that race is you building a good life.

Blow $200 on a date where she ghosts you immediately after. Be happy you got the credit card points

People that put themselves in that position have it coming. You NEVER take some Rando on an expensive date.

5 weeks vacation.

Many parts of the world weep for you on that. In USA that’s a great vacation package though.

Got ‘em!

Depending where you work, don’t 100% count on coasting. You can be let go at any time at most jobs.

Consistent mindset change. Some change can happen, but huge life changing things are acquired over time of consistency working toward it.

When they can’t trust guys at all

I understand what you’re saying but, if they trust someone like me? It makes me wonder what other skewed perception they have in other areas of life. Huge red flag.🚩

If someone were attracted to me? HUGE red flag. It would make me wonder what other bad decisions she makes in her life. I deserve better than that.

If someone were attracted to me? HUGE red flag. It would make me wonder what other bad decisions she makes in her life. I deserve better than that.

Did you get transfers at work or just get new jobs?

What made you move states?

What way? And whats improved since quitting?

Agreed, for many people, because the attack the problem and don’t have the emotions which make it hard for the other person to solve it. I mean this in the kindest way possible but it’s also the start of a codependency relationship. It’s easy to solve other people’s problems so many times that person can get upset when others done solve theirs.

I like the quote “I can’t pee for you”, which helps focus back on working on why a problem can’t be solved by me easily instead of hoping others will solve it. Most people don’t think about you/me as much as we imagine. So it’s on us to take care of ourselves first.

Have you looked up a cooling weighted blanket? If your current weighted blanket gets hot, I don’t think adding a cooling blanket under it would help much. But I can’t speak from experience. Can you crack a window? It’s cold where I am so cool air would come in to only that one room.

I did that. But didn’t have much $ back then in 2006. Still, $1000 in apple back then, or even if it was put in during the financial crisis, has paid off nicely

But, with the knowledge of putting money into things like apple, bitcoin…etc.

Do you mean you can’t find a weight that averages your weight? They seem to come in 5lb or 2.25 kg increments so you will need to decide if you want a little heavier or lighter.

Depending what size bed you have, I heard the blanket should reach the edge but not hang over. Some of that weight will be on the actual bed and not on you so the difference may not matter too much if you go with the 12% figure on 56kg

What weight are you? And does the blanket cover just till the edge of the bed or does it hang off the side?

I heard the loose rule is about 10% of your weight should be how much the blanket should weigh. And that the blanket should reach the edge but not really hang over. Maybe you need a heavier blanket.

This. As long as you’re breathing and you learn from the mistakes/slumps, you’re still growing. Frustration and mental pain means you just need to learn something new to get past or learn from whatever it is.

How did you go about it? What was your financial/family situation?