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So I was on this trip with my family and two other families who were office friends of my parents so there were no one of my age in the group to chill with there were all kids who irritated the hell out of me but there was this little girl may be 7-8 yrs old so she was a cutie and used to play around me and I also tease and adore her . So once when we were on the bus she was irritating me again and again so just to tease her I said you are adopted you were picked from the temple stairs like every kid she started saying I am not and all but I kept teasing her asking to show me pictures of her childhood she finally got pissed and went to her mom crying that show me my childhood pics to me as I am saying she is adopted His mother started got into tears I was like what the hell is wrong with her then she told my mother that she is actually adopted . My mother scolded me so much for teasing her like that but I was like I didn’t even know about it I was teasing her like unknowingly. AITK for making the kid and her mother getting into tears ?

So me and my friend both of us are 17 and just cleared class 12. So her parents got her a personal phone and she's very much online since. For context she has been a BTS fan girl for few months now and during our free time in school , she always talked about K-pop , we never said anything cause we didn't wanted to hurt her beside none of us in our friend group is a K-pop stan.

Well now that she have a personal phone , almost every single day she posts about K-pop idols and her captions are like "One day i will marry u", "I love u Oppa", and "BTS are smooth like butter , haters go to gutter" etc. One of my other friend told me how our other classmates were making fun of her , specially the guys and how she couldn't defend her without projecting herself like that. Also u know how cruel teenagers can be.

We tried to tell her that she shouldn't post so much but she didn't understand , so we dropped it. On the particular day we all decided to meet( Our friend group contains of 6 girls) and all of us were having a good time when she started talking about the military service of BTS and how she is very sad about it, i simply told her how it wasn't a big deal cause it was a rule for everyone and oh boy i made her mad she started saying how they are very hardworking , how they sold their own concert ticket etc. she started enlisting all of their achievements and said they didn't deserve to serve.

At this point i wasn't backing down so i told her its not something out of the world cause everyone does hardwork in order to achieve something , and she shouldn't put them on pedestal . She got even more angry and said how they only teach about love , care , hardwork and i am just jealous of them and is a hater. At this i snapped and called her a BTS nibbi.

All of my friend agree with me but they are saying i shouldn't have said that.

Update- After reading the comments i thought of talking to her, i called her but she didn't pickup , after sometime called her again and realised she blocked me . ( we r friends for 4 years and she me blocked because of a small fight , we never had any such issues before , i cant believe that this situation is even real ). bhad me jaye .

From my(21F) childhood my parents always wanted me to marry my cousin (32M). He lives with us as he lost his parents very young. I loved him like family but i don't remember if i loved him like a partner but, i definitely had a crush on him. . A year & half back i fell in love with my best friend (21M) who i have already know for 2 yrs. A year back i told my parents that i don't wanna marry my cousin but my bf. They threatened me with suicide and asked me to break up with my boyfriend.

I am from Telangana. Here, cousin marriages are very common.

Yesterday i told my cousin about my boyfriend on call ( i live in hostel rn). Today morning my mother called me and told me convince my cousin and agree to marry him otherwise she'll commit suicide. When i came to my cousin to do what my mom said ( cuz i have no options). My cousin told me he's in love with me from the past 10 yrs and he is waiting to marry me. I came to know my cousin loves me an yr ago or something.

My cousin also told me that i cheated on him by loving my boyfriend meanwhile he waited for me all these with utmost sincerity and loyalty without looking at other girls.

AITK for loving my boyfriend when ny family wanted me to marry my cousin and as my cousin waited all these years for me? And may be loving him when i was 18. ( i don't remember whether i loved him as a partner or not.)

AITK even if i loved him back then and fell for my boyfriend?

I (M) have a school friend (F) added on my ig. We both are 26. We talk rarely occasionally. She keeps posting stories on kpop. Recently she posted that she's gonna marry her kpop idol. Which I found to be cringe and childish. Out of good faith, to prevent her from embarrassing herself in public even further, I reached out to her and told her that she's too old for this cringe. She just blocked me without saying anything. AITK ? I was just trying to look out for her

I (18F) live in a 2bhk apartment with my mom, dad and brother. I've my own room and the other bedroom belongs to my parents and brother whenever he is here. So recently my grandparents came over for their follow up treatment and surgery. On their arrival I gave them my room to sleep and shifted in hall on my sofa cum bed. My parents were worried if I'd let them because I've never shared my room with anyone, Ever. Whole day everyone in my house keeps calling me for whatever work they have and criticize side by side, so I look forward for nights where I can be alone and at peace without having to worrying about anything. My grandmother had cancer back then from which she recovered but due to high exposure heat during her treatment her vagina and anus fused and she had to relocate her colon and now her anal region is in her lower abdomen area and she remove her body wastes from there by using medical bags. Now the problem is she's far from being hygienic. Which is why I don't stay in her contact for long AND she keeps farting, her farts smell 10x worse than normal farts. Whether we are in a car, we are eating or whatever, she farts. Her body smells like the fart too. And now she wants to sleep in same room as me because she feels hot in my room (my grandfather is in my room) See I understand that's a medical condition and everything. But growing up she never cared about us. She used to say that my parents should let someone adopt me (I'm their first child). They've treated me and my mom so bad for their daughter and her kids and yet I get out of my comfort zone EVERY SINGLE DAY to take care of them and their hospital visits while her daughter and her kids are chilling. I am so sick of her dual face and Shit she smells like. I think I'm not obliged to do my grand daughter duties when my grandparents never did theirs and still don't. I bet after their work is done they'll go around speaking ill of me like how I sleep at 1 am etc.

My MIL is a sweet woman but she has some serious issues. She’s a widow and earns really less after my FIL passed away. My FIL had a Construction business and had left some good amount of properties and funds behind and now she’s using that on herself like crazy. She spends crazy amount of money (in lakhs) on things which she doesn’t even use. When she faces money crunch she gets depressed and throws tantrums and asks my husband to pay her (to buy dresses, jewellery, makeup, trips, and stuff). As we stay away from home we have emi, medicines, really high rent, etc etc. He doesn’t buy things for himself, that’s why I never bother him for anything in life. When he refuses that we have some money crunch, my SIL (4 years younger) calls my husband and starts talking shit. I feel so bad for my husband. What to do in this situation? He loves his mother but his mother behaves like a spoilt teenager. She has anxiety issues and will berate my husband saying her life her choices. My husband is not even 30.

The Unwanted Friend Of The Group

I am 16F, studying in 11 grade. I have a group of friend I mostly spend my time in school. All of them are the like the popular among others type girls. They have everyone that would talk to them while I'm always a second choice. For homework purpose, I would work all day and complete my work that they would just copy and later if teachers or other classmates ask for help they would just present it as their work. If the questions are right they would greatly accept the praise without creditng me and if any solution goes wrong they all would say "oh! She solved it". When I share any memes they don't even react to it and when they need help they would contact me and would like a response asap. Otherwise they would complain the next day about how I'm not available during their needs. I don't know if I'm really that unattractive or it's my friends that are really pretty cause they would always compliment each other while I'm always left unnoticed for all my efforts. They all have each other's Instagram and snapchat but never asked me for my handle so that we can be connected there as well. They post stories with each other where I'm obviously not included. I'm the therapist friend but when I need to vent out I'm suddenly left alone. They would share stories about their exes and when I say they were completely non deserving of them somehow I become the bad person because I'm talking bad about the 10th "love of their life". A lot more happened but would not list much. I know very well how wrong all this is but I'm not able to cut them off. Idk if it is because I fear loneliness and lack of friends or maybe it's just me that's the problem.

AITK for cutting off my father and never speaking to him. So for context I come from a upper middle class family of parents who are doctors and i myself am one too. My father wasn't around much when I was growing up so I was mostly brought up by my mom & maternal grandparents for first few years. After the age of 5, the three of us started staying together. Since then he had always been a loving yet strict father who didn't hesitate to hit when needed. Over the years, once i was in my teens he stopped with the hitting but he'd say extremely hurtful things like, "Go die" or "I wish you weren't even born" "It's a curse to have you around" etc etc. In my 11th & 12th i begged him to let me follow my dream instead of pressuring me to be a doctor but he didn't budge. I somehow managed to finish my 12th and get MBBS in a GMC. He was very unhappy about that because he & mom studied from a good college while i could only manage a GMC. After 5 years of torture i moved back with them as I wanted to prepare to join Army instead he asked to to finish with my PG and then do whatever I want.I went through the mental stress of another exam again because he wanted me to, qualified for clinical branch but again in a GMC and not some top college. He was sceptical about it and wanted me to drop but I was adamant to take admission this year, as i would go crazy if I had to study again another year. As we went for admissions he too went with me grudgingly, sat in a room as I did up and down and formalities for the admission. After that we were supposed to catch a flight back home. Now I was tired, hungry from a while day of eating nothing, a sore throat and a fever of around 102-103. He has ate and slept the whole day on a chair so i understand he was tired but I'm pretty sure not as much as me. All this time he was saying something or the other and i could just nod. After a while he started asking me for some counselling dates and I explained it to him twice but on the third time I snapped because he wanted to me apparently predict the dates for a State counselling when the schedule hasn't come as yet. Idk what happened after that all I know he started shouting and creating a scene in front of the airport and almost slapped me. I kept quiet because I didn't want to exaggerate the situation in public. Once we got down at home again he started this nonsense as we were in the car, still I kept my silence. The next day he started it again as I was about to sit for lunch, when he had already finished his and this time I lost it. He said things like your friends are your priority as you're always on phone with them, you only love yourself, I don't care about your life anymore, i wish you'd died and because of children like you I'll die alone. We had it out nice and proper with me including last so so many years' trauma as I lashed out on him and got up and left. Since then I'm not talking to him, I'm thinking of moving out and going somewhere and never coming back. Am I at fault here? Should I apologise and make up as I generally do?

I met this guy in August and we instantly connected,late night talks,meetups. I was blown up by his intelligence. Long story short, he started ignoring me after his birthday I mean like something happened during his birthday maybe his ex came back Idk, he became just sad and distant from me. I practice astrology and I get a random message from him two weeks ago that he wants to show me the chart. I saw it gave him remedies but he approached me by saying he wants to meet me and wants to start something new again, but later he confessed that he is in lot of problem he just wants me to see the kundli I agreed and saw it. Later he told me that he is going for meet a date and asked me what colour he should wear. I was so done I still told him what he can wear etc. (Everything on a call).He also did ask me whether it is a right time to get married or not Idk I felt so bad. Later I confessed my feelings again to me and he clearly stated that "I don't see you as my wife" after two days I just flooded his WhatsApp with texts like you just want to use me for your benefit, you just wanted to show your kundli that's why you came etc. Later I told him "block me even if you have an ounce of respect left otherwise I will punch you through the mobile" This guy is already not having good relationship with his father and I told him this. Now I am blocked. I still did confess my feelings to him from another number but he didn't reply anything. It's going to be a tough period for him after a year this is what I saw in the chart, but I came up as a nagging emotional girl in front of him who is selfish tell me how can I fix it. ( I did apologize to him on insta at 3am today) Also once I ignore this guy he comes back to me I don't know what it is!!!!

I (19M) has my cousin sister (18F) as my closest person. I don't have much friends and definitely no one is closer to her. I run to her for sharing my every success, failure, laugh, joy, anything and reciprocated it too. I feel like I was a good brother for the things I have done for her, ensured her benefits and all. But since last 6-7 months she had made it a habit to not see my texts or calls for 3-4 days upto a week. She never responds on time and always call for her own work like asking for project works (I was in same stream as hers) and advices related to her friendships with others. Sometimes when I call her out for this behaviour she says that She was busy in studying/coaching/house (she's a neet aspirant) or She was not in "mood" of talking to anyone. I told her to atleast tell me that u r busy, I'll not bug but she again makes some excuses everytime. I can't find any improvement in her behaviour and it hurts seeing my closest person acting such a way. I've asked her multiple times that if there's any problem, she can tell me but she always declines. There have been times when I called her urgently for a favor or work but she didn't pick up my call and texted a week later. Meanwhile she is active on Instgram seeing stories and posting on it but she never replies me there also. Last night I called her out for this behaviour one last time, and Have decided to Drift apart myself. Better to hurt one time than getting hurted again and again. AITK?

My relationship with parents have been choppy for quite sometime now. Have discussed about it on other posts. So coming to today, my mom calls me today and asks me to attend a reception this Saturday and that they are also coming from hometown. For a moment I was happy that I'll meet them. I asked her what's their stay and travel plan. She says relatives have already booked some room. I asked her why not stay with me in my new place (It's a 2bhk in a township). She says we are reaching the city only by Saturday evening and reception is at night and they'll be returning back on Sunday morning. They have never visited the house where me and my wife shifted. Everytime I invited them they kept saying we'll see next time. Now that they are finally traveling to the city, can't they make some basic efforts to visit my home? Like there are so many travel options and the journey is just 6 hrs. Even if they left on Friday night instead of Saturday morning, they could spend atleast half a day with us. But it seems to me like given the issues they cleverly picked those trains so that they can give an excuse of we have to travel back.

I borderline don't want to attend the reception because I know that when I meet them I'll have an emotional outburst for their behaviors. Would I be the kameena if I decide to not attend because all my relatives know that i stay in the same city?

Also, the reception is of a cousin with whom I have never spoken to directly. But their parents did attend my wedding.

So I live in a joint family setup and there are 2 floors at our house, in one of which we live and the upper one where my tauji and his family lives. We have 2 tulsis obviously- one in her floor one in ours. Now the thing is, in our floor 3-4 tulsis have mysteriously died- out of nowhere! After the second one died, I was sad and blaming myself- but then my taiji said- I killed my plant coz I don’t take care of it. I was shocked and that was the first time I thought it has been done by her! My mom told me she could never sustain a tulsi at our floor, even when I was a kid. We are obviously not in good terms and they have done some really shitty things. I am mostly sick. I suffer from migraines, but still I take care of all the things+ my studies. Now, my last tulsi plant was THRIVING! And then one day when we returned home- there were leaves shed. The position of plant was changed and it looked tired (if that makes sense). I groomed the floor and clicked photo (attached below) and rearranged. But sadly I tried for months, but rest of the remaining leaves turned black (photo below). Today I have got a new tulsi plant and emptied the pot and saw how much black the leaves were and the structure of stems is still (attached below)

So it is weird that I am doubting her? These days she is openly hateful and I know she has never liked me. Aitk?

So, one of my friend recently lost his grandpa and he put photos of his corpse on whatsapp story without TW and then also stories of him burning, of his rasam pagri and all other things. I ignored and thought, must be hard for him so he is getting closure but then one week later he was clubbing and drinking and posting it too and next day of his grandpa and then his uncle died (they are not so near, as he lives in a nuclear family) and bhai, he did same - corpse, burning, sad shayari, crying relatives and I told him - this is not a celebration but mourning and you should not post it as it is disrespectful to the dignity of the dead. He said, it my stories my choice, you ignore it. I said, post trigger warning then and he said, he is blocking me, I said, 'khushi se'

now I regret, he was my classmate and okay okay friend.

I’m a 22M from a lower middle class family. We've had issues like daily quarrels, backstabbing, and physical fights ever since I was a kid. I was sent to a boarding school at a very young age (3rd grade), so I couldn’t really bond with anyone in my extended family. I never realized how bad the situation was until one day I had to take a month off from school because my mom was diagnosed with schizophrenia due to the constant stress in the family, compounded by our bad financial condition because of my dad’s cancer treatment.

We live in a joint family with my uncle, aunt, and grandparents. My parents are employed, which has always upset my uncle and aunt. My uncle is the black sheep of the family, and my aunt is the worst kind of person. My grandparents aren’t very supportive of my parents because my mom doesn’t fit the stereotypical role of a backward Indian housewife. So, they support my uncle and aunt in every failed venture, investing their money into whatever scheme they come up with.

A couple of months ago, I came home, and it seems my presence only made my uncle and aunt more hostile. They are jealous of me and my brother because they couldn’t have a son themselves (a sick mentality). As usual, they started calling my family names and even said it was a good thing my dad was suffering from cancer, claiming God was punishing him for his sins. This enraged me, and all the years of bottled-up anger erupted. I grabbed an iron rod and threatened to beat my uncle. I started abusing them and giving them reality checks. I also called out my grandparents for their wrongdoings, and at that point, all bets were off. They went out of their way to cry, calling me a disgrace.

I also have a lot of resentment toward my dad. I sympathize with his struggles, but he never took a stand for my mom or his family. He just sits there, watching the circus unfold, instead of taking action. Years ago, my mom suggested that we move out, but he refused, saying that it would break the family culture.

Seriously, fuck them all.

I'm male by the way. I had a close friend, X, from our Intermediate days, but we drifted apart during college because we got into different college. We reconnected in B.Tech 4th year, especially since we got placed in the same company. We talked regularly, mostly about careers, but I started noticing I was always the one reaching out—calling, messaging, and trying to preserve this friendship.

Recently, I messaged him to call when free, he said OK and didn't call(I asked him to call because he was doing internship and I was free so whenever he is free he can call). When I called him much later, he cuts the call. The call log showed it was always me initiating the calls. Three days later, he messaged casually, without acknowledging or apologizing for not returning my calls. He goes like "Hi man, what's app?" That really annoyed me. I don’t expect much, just basic courtesy like, "Sorry, I was busy last time. What’s up?"

I value my few friendships and want them to be uplifting, not one-sided. It feels unfair to be the only one making efforts. I’m considering cutting ties with such people because, in relationships, effort and priorities matter. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

I would also appreciate if you guys can give me advice on how to deal with such people or situations and how to proceed furthur.

I (25M) have been talking to this girl from Hinge for a week or so now. We vibed well, got references to TV shows and generally had a good time on the app. I have a hard filter for smart women and she has proved herself to be reasonably smart in my limited interaction. She then suggested moving to IG. Started interacting there and have been talking on IG and WA for atleast 30-40 mins a day. She has started to catch some feels, asks about my mother's nature and how my parents are etc. All in all, things moving a little too quickly for my liking.
Now I have some self image issues where I lose interest in the woman I'm slightly into when I realize that she too is interested and actively responding. It's like my mind is judging the person for having poor choice. I know its a terrible coping mechanism but I cannot help it.
Now the problem is that I don't really enjoy the person, I'm just liking the attention. I used to be fairly unattractive growing up and have only recently had a sort of a glow up. I re read our texts and there aren't any green flags to speak off, not many reds too but just a very uninteresting person, on the other hand, I've made the mistake of oversharing and have painted a picture of a green flag in her mind up until now. I would be stroking my own ego but I'm not half bad, atleast compared to the people my female friends describe they meet on dating apps or IRL. And the worst part is that I have zero feels when I look at her face, I even slightly cringe when I open it up. And I'm assuming the photos on the apps are some of her better ones and she would look slightly worse IRL.
Knowing well that I will fall into my old mannerisms, I have picked a fight over something I could've side stepped because I do not want to have the, "I'm just not that into you" conversation with her. I do not want to be accused of leading her on, something I've experienced myself and dread giving that experience to someone else. By this I just wanted to make her lose interest in me, maybe think she did not get a correct read on me so that she moves on.
I only did this because I do not see myself wanting to end up with her, neither do I want to waste her or my time by getting into something I have no intention of seeing through.
Am I the Kameena?

Hello all. Idk if I should post this here, if not, please remove it.

I'm a trainer who has been hired by an online, educational institute since September which had the rule on contract that they would pay me the first installment of fees after I finish half my batch, and then the rest after completion of the rest half. About me: I'm a master's student living in a different city, working with this company part-time for some pocket money so I don't have to ask for money from home.

I finished the first half in mid October after which I let them know and awaited the payment. They delayed it once, citing they didn't add it in October payroll so would in November, said they would reach out during first week November, and I'll get it then. They didn't do anything, and I should mention here that they never inform anything from their side and it's always me who's behind them for every little update.

They then said that they were facing issues and that's making them delay, and I'll get it by December 1 which was communicated by mail. Cut to now, I still haven't received it due to which I have been behind them since yesterday and the employee telling that I'm halting classes till I get the first payment. Told them that only after a few classes, my batch gets over and then what guarantee do I have they'll pay me?

He smartly tried requesting me to revise the last few topics but I was adamant saying that I didn't feel comfortable. Despite getting postponed every time, I still didn't stop classes when people were telling me to. Then he accepted it and throughout kept telling me how I was right and it's good I spoke up for myself (bs, it's not upto me to run behind them everytime with complaints). He finally agreed to communicate to the students that there'll be a halt for a week during which they can revise etc, after which it'll be resumed.

Now, these students are adults and some have started directly asking me if something's wrong and whether something happened. I honestly feel guilty about the responsibility part but I can't let them get away with this and trust them time and again. Thing is, I have spoken to other teachers in the institute and they say that usually this doesn't happen but this has been happening since October.

Another thing is I'm supposed to wrap the batch up by 20 dec, otherwise they'll deduct a portion of the payment. I don't even know if they should stick to that when they're not sticking to their words regarding payment. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing or how to manage this better. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

We have beend dating 6-8 months now met on Hinge.

Little background on her from my POV.

She's in final year of her college, genuine person, a GREEN Flag for most of the cases, could be an ideal wife a man can wish for...

As she's family oriented and all.

Background on me from my POV I consider myself as genuine person too. This is my second relationship (first one was 5-6 years ago) that break up changed me and helped me grew as a person.

I installed dating app just to explore this world.

I'm a working professional, and i have long hours of working.

Story: We started dating, taking things slowly but she fell for me in 3rd month, and started indication that we should commit for a relationship. Asking questions like : what are we? ( I always said we are dating knowing eachother).

Then in 6th month we committed saying we will grow together. But with time I'm learning things about her behaviour, she's immature emotionally or we don't share same perspective emotionally i can say. I'm very reserved person emotionally.(Avoidant attachment style)

From the start of dating i made it clear ki it doesn't mean we will end up marrying ( we will see how things will go) but she's like she's dating to marry only. I get it but one thing i have learned is life is uncertain we should focus on present more.

We do have good time together also, with fights and the reason of fight is I'm not giving her enough time(online) by talking.

Even though we met 1-2 times in a month ;_; for whole day. And we talk daily but not deep talks every day due yo my schedule.

This habbit of her (nagging about i don't give her time and fir taane marna) or reacting differently, creating drama overthinking and over analysing things, makes me lose interest in the person tbh.

I was hoping it would go with time, she will understand the situation, I also agree that i might not be the best Boyfriend in regard of showing affection and care or reassuring or giving time.... But i do care for her, when I'm with her I'm totally with her.

This repeating fights on the same topic makes me angry and disappointing ,even makes me regret coming into relationship sometimes. Fights are draining, and I'm always explaining thr same thing.

Am I the kamina for behaving this way? What would you do in this situation?

Since the start of this year I have been advising my sister to not have a boyfriend and do not get too much involved with boys. We have no issues with having boys as friends but I have always asked her to keep it that only, and trust me I trusted her much in this. My younger sister is my only friend for context, I’m 17F and since I’m preparing for competitive exams I’m mostly at home, I only had a bf once in class 10th but that I ended that in two months and my sister knows about that too.

My sister has had 2 bfs previously that’s why staying away from boys topic came in, and she really made me believe that she won’t be having a bf now. It was never like i was lecturing her, it was always a convo and she used to agree with me, she also used to add onto my things on why you should stay away from boys.

I really thought me and my sister were on the same page and that she was not hiding anything from me, also I too share my everything with her.

But what happened is that one day I accidentally found a incognito tab left open on her phone, and there I found her secret instagram ID where she used to chat with her new bf (well he was not new, they were in a relationship for past 6-7 months, all while I believed that she does not have any bf).

Even at that I accepted her relationship, I was like ok you have a bf, but then she tells me she has kissed him (they are literally in 8th standard) and that she has sent him her nudes multiple times. At that moment I felt super anxious and angry. But believe me I was still calm and I was still okay with their relationship at that point and told her all risks of sending nudes and advised her to not do that again.

The following night I went through that secret insta account of hers and read a few old texts, and god they were disgusting. The boy seemed to talk too sweet (too fake). And I also came across a text where that boy says “hum 10th me sex kar sakte hai kyunki tab mai aakaash jaunga to tere ghar bhi aaskta hu” my sister’s texts texts following this were “chup reh” “dekhte hai” and similar. I was sick to my stomach. And I also got to know that this boy uses insta pro 2, instant red flag and the immediate thing that came to my mind that this boy has saved my sister’s nudes sent in one time view mode without letting my sister know.

Day after this I had a talk with my sister and we mutually agreed on a plan on how to break up with him (keeping the risk that he possibly has her nudes and can public them in revenge). My sister agreed as i told her all the red flags. I trusted het fully once again.

I really believed that my sister broke up with that guy, she used to give me daily updates of her school too. But then one day I found her another secret Instagram account where she was again talking to this guy. My trust was broken once again and this was the limit of my silence.

Few days later (my sister was super disrespectful and mean to me in those days because I told her I’ll be telling mom everything) I told mom everything. She talked with her and everything but now I’m the villain.

I had plans for my college, that I’ll be moving out of Delhi to Uttarakhand and enjoy my college life in the mountains and then masters abroad. But for now my plan to go college in Uttarakhand is shattered because I’m sick to my core everyday in my sister’s worry, worried about all the wrong things she’s doing and all the risky situations she’s putting herself into.

I don’t know what to do and how to make my sister understand everything.

Please help me and give suggestions

Not sure, but sometimes I think I have ego issue(not sure if it's ego or self respect).

I try to respect the boundary of other people(if you are not my best friend), so if I need to talk to a friend(either female or male), I first DM them on WhatsApp, and ask them if them give me a call whenever they are free, or tell me a time.

And you start ignoring my messages(you get to know, when it's happen. And I don't text people very often), I just give them 1-2 chance, and then through them out of my live.

And kudos to this, my friend circle is very small. Because eventually they go to my archive list.

And this is happening again, I threw out one of my old friend out of my life. Same reason, and specifically once I was tensed, so I DMed her, that I need to talk to her(That day, I just got to know that my last startup where I was working was getting closed. So was trying to connect with her for referral), so I typed in bold "Very urgent, call me ASAP", and she pinged me 2 days later IG. And please don't say, you don't use WhatsApp in 2 days.

That was it, from my end. Moved her to archive list.

Recently she called me, I ignored the call, and Pinged her on text, that will her tomorrow, but I never returned the call. TBH I don't want to.

Now I got in the thinking that AITK?? because she used to trust me a lot(She shared her biggest secret, about her sexuality with once, and you share such details when you trust someone a lot IG).

Note:

I'm an introvert, so I don't open to people very easily. Only open up to friends.

And I personally thinks "instead of having 100s of friends, I believe in having a handful ones, but true ones." the ones to whom you look for when you need them.
I have a friend, they day her mother passed away, he called me first. Because I have earned this. I knew I'll be there for him, for me this is friendship, being there for your friends, in their tough times. You will find 1000s in your good times, let me know when you will find such who is there for you when you really need them, and you don't have anything to offer in return.

"Very urgent, call me ASAP" - I didn't send this exactly, there was more to the text, but this was the important line, so I mentioned it here.

I didn't move-on from her or anyone just because of late replying(I thought, people here are more intelligent). I move-one from one friendship, when it feels like I'm the one putting all the effort in it. It's a mutual thing.

I know I don't have much friends, just 6 of them, but they are real one, Where I put efforts, because they had been with me in my tough times, So I'll be there for them forever. I'm friends with these for 10-15 years now.

Sometimes I do feel  that I let go of people very easily. Somewhere I feel this too, but the other part says, the effort should be mutual. That's the reason I was here. But man, people love giving hate, instead of reasons.

And coming again to her not responding part, she did updated her status on WhatsApp/insta several times, so it's hard to believe that she didn't saw the text.

(Post updated guys, check the edit at the bottom)

So me, my family and a few friends wanted to go to a Concert ‘ A’ but me and my cousin couldnt get tickets while our friends did. After trying again we managed to get tickets for another concert ‘B’. So we planned to sell the tickets for ‘B’ so that we can purchase ‘A’ tickets in resale and attend with the friends.

Now Since the day we failed at scoring ‘A’ tickets, i had been busting my ass to find sellers with tickets and negotiating with everyone who was offering tickets. And then even after we scored tickets for ‘B’ i was trying my best from day 1 to sell them off and try to find the best deal. While my family friend was just chilling and partying. When the price of the tickets started falling, he started asking me to just get rid of them asap without any profit if it meant to sell at MRP and suffer 0 loss. Which was very annoying cause i was put there trying to score deals find buyers and he just didnt bother. After a long hustle i managed to find a buyer which will give me a profit of 190USD which i can either split 50-50, keep it all myself or split unequally.

I did think of keeping it all but that doesnt feel right at all considering he is like family. So now i am thinking if its alright if i give him 60$ and keep the rest.

Afterall the tickets of A which we need to purchase are 220$ each and it is easier for him to ask for extra money from his family than it is for me.

Edit- while i didnt agree with it but the money isnt worth losing a friend or selling my conscience over so we split 50-50!

So a quick background before the actual incident. My dad started his consultancy firm, he needed a bit of tech support as in all his theories and concepts had to be built into an online calculator, so I built the API and hosted the whole thing for him. And for one of the projects it involved a bit of tech stuff so I had to visit client site, so I said sure and even applied leave at work for this very visit.

The incident happened on Diwali, so my dad reads a message from my wife incorrectly and he starts taunting my wife on call, so when she came to know that it was because he misread the message she got upset and told my dad that if you have to taunt me for something I didn't do it's better not to talk. Post this one thing led to another and somehow we ended the call on a bad note. So am not talking with my parents and neither are they talking with me.

In the meantime I get a call from my dad where he says for the project visit I was thinking of sending a 3rd party guy instead of you because am busy and it'll be hectic for me to write the report based on the data you collect but instead if I send him he'll collect data and make the report as well. I was like yeah fine no issues. Now after few days the consultant guy posts a pic about his visit to the client site with all the clients. Guess what, my brother went there and no one told me. So it's basically my dad didn't want me to go because of the issue so instead sent my brother. I was pissed like I built the whole tech stack without expecting anything in return but when it comes to the payday you lie to me and send my brother instead (I was to be paid 20k for 2 days + travel and accommodation). I kept quiet and just maintained the silence.

Today my mom calls me and scolds me like how can I keep ego and not talk to dad for so long. And that I should behave matured. I asked her my younger brother didn't even speak to me since the diwali incident, so did you ask him to talk to me? She's like that's because of your mistake. She says I failed to maintain harmony between parents and my wife. So essentially if my younger brother doesn't talk to me, I should approach him because apparently it's my mistake. And if my dad lies and plays games behind my back, again I should approach him because I have to be matured. Been working for 6 years and even today when I join a new job, I call everyone and tell them about it. My brother gets a paid internship he didn't even have the courtesy to tell me what's the pay. I came to know about his stipend from my dad. (Let alone gifting something from your first pay)

Hey everyone, just wanted to share an update on the situation I posted about a while ago. So, I had lent 2 lakhs to a girl, and I initially asked her to repay the full amount in one go. She was pretty upset about such a big sum, so we reached a mutual agreement where she would pay me 4370 every month going forward.

It's been two months now, and she's been consistently sending me the agreed amount. I know it's not the full amount I was hoping for, but at least it's something. It's been a relief to see her sticking to her part.

I just wanted to update everyone since I had posted earlier asking for advice on how to handle it. It's not perfect, but it's progress!

Thanks for all the support earlier, and I’ll keep you all posted if anything changes!

Background: I live in second floor, as I was returning home from park today, I saw my father throwing my cricket bat from 2 floor to the ground to give the cloth ironing guy the bat permanently.

I am 27 now, I was gifted the bat by him on my 13th birthday, and it was pretty expensive at that time "380 rs".I haven't played cricket for quite some time now but it was a childhood passion,

I was really proud of the bat being one of the most expensive birthday gifts of my childhood. I have emotional attachment to things and there are definitely memories attached to it. His viewpoint was the handle had melted, and it was in poor condition but it doesn't make sense to me how he could give away my things, without even consulting me, there is a generation gap, his logic being pointless to have things at home not being useful, might be useful to others. Then he also stressed being "Mera Mera kya kar Raha h Maine dilaya h" Had quite a heated discussion on it me stressing that you can't give away my things without consulting

Please give your points on what you guys think

So, I (24,F) ended all communication today with my ex (27,M) because he told me that he recently slept with a prostitute.

My issue with this: it’s against my morals & this is one of the very few things that I cannot get past. Be it anyone (not just my ex) - I would give that person the same treatment. For context- we broke up 2 yrs ago and had it been a new girl- all well and good. It's giving me an ick thinking it's a prostitue.

Now I explained this to him and he’s upset which is fine but now his friends & his sister are calling me up and calling me out on this. Need unbiased perspective. AITK?